Adventures in Adoptionland

02/28/2024

Who is the “real you”?
I’ve always believed I have a “core self” that would have been “me” no matter my circumstances or whatever family that raised me. But the older I get, the more I see (or acknowledge) the serious deficits of my adoptive family. They were not the right place for me; my adoptive life was far from the mythical “better.”
My saving grace is my relationship with my real brother (same mother), going strong since 2010, though we initially met back in the 1980s (rough reunion with mother).
When I spend time with him and his kids, I do feel at home; I know these are my people. ❤️

02/01/2024

OPEN 👏 OUR 👏 RECORDS 👏

I’m looking at you, California, and every other state still in the dark ages of adoption.

11/16/2023

10/09/2023

Seems particularly true for adoptees. Maybe because those who have "known" us the longest may never have been able to see us as anything other than "the adopted baby." It can take us decades to figure out who the heck we are, and show our true selves. ❤️

10/06/2023

Adoption = Trauma

09/12/2023

A G E N D A

1. Open files for adult adoptees everywhere.
2. Eradicate stranger adoption everywhere.

09/07/2023

Speak your truth.

♾🖤♾

09/07/2023

Our grief is real.

Dissnfranchised grief is when others try to minimize or invalidate your grief.

But no matter who or what you’re grieving, or why, your grief IS valid, and you have EVERY right to grieve. Don’t let people convince you otherwise.