15/01/2026
The biggest red flag with a narcissist isn’t their confidence or charm.
It’s what happens to you over time.
Most women don’t realize that second-guessing, rehearsing conversations, tracking tone, or carefully choosing words are the red flags that matter.
They start to believe healthy relationships require constant monitoring.
But when clarity fades and your effort increases, that’s not growth.
That’s your nervous system adapting to instability.
Over time, that strain feels normal, and self-doubt sets in.
The most important red flags aren’t in them.
They’re in how small you feel.
