07/11/2024                                                                            
                                    
                                                                            
                                            I'm having surgery today, 10:30am-2:30pm pacific time!
I hosted a B**b Party to build up the love and good energy around this surgery.ore than 30 dear friends packed my little home (I wish I could have invited *everyone*!). Many of us embraced top-nudity and it felt deeply wholesome. We had many boob-themed activities, a Blessing for my breasts, and a belly dance performance. 
I offered something that is part storytelling, part stand-up comedy. I'll be giving a short pithy version of it onstage on Aug 17, opening for my dear friend Charla Hathaway's show Naked At My Age. I'll post that event later. 
Here's the longer version from the night of the B**b Party! 
https://youtu.be/kEYFb--LQyA?si=hfvEL2cqLuFC_b3M
For local friends, if you'd like to help in person, you may fill out this Google Form to learn what kinds of help I would like, and to tell me what ways you would enjoy helping, and when. The different categories of help are organized by the theme of different "Love Languages"!  https://forms.gle/aqEtoem4WwhUKvi66
For those who are far away, some other ways to support include: 
- my Amazon wish list: https://a.co/6wqTevm
(I'll add more items to the wish list as I learn what I need)
I've been working half-time since my diagnosis in early May. Having cancer is very time-consuming! Lots of doctor visits, lots of self-education, and planning how to actually make use of the support that is being offered. I'll miss about a month of work after my surgery and then I'll have to ramp back up slowly, depending on how radiation goes.
I have some savings so I'm doing okay for now, but if anyone would like to make a donation, there's a way to do that via Mealtrain. https://mealtrain.com/8rq9l2 or to avoid the fee my venmo is . 
In case you missed my previous post, I got diagnosed with breast cancer in May. I waited to share because there have been many rounds of biopsies, MRI, genetic tests, etc and I didn't want to announce it while the info was still changing. I'll provide a lot of details here to try to get ahead of some of the questions 🙂 
There's a 2-centimeter-wide stage 1 tumor on the left, and "stage zero" cancer that is still contained within the milk ducts on the right, which is a large area and I will lose perhaps a third of that breast. My doctor is allowing me to do a double lumpectomy even though it's a big enough area that it's borderline for a mastectomy. The healing process (and the pain, the loss of function, the loss of fitness/strength, and lost work time) is much harder for mastectomy so I'm eager to avoid it. 
In late August into early September I'll have 3 weeks of radiation. Unfortunately that will probably overlap with my birthday, Sept 7. 
I won't have to do chemo. All of my cancer is "hormone-responsive" so I'm on a hormone-blocker called Tamoxifen. I'm on a half-dose for 2 years, which is the minimum.  This is considered a "good" form of breast cancer as it is highly treatable. 
They tested 90 cancer genes and I'm clear on all of them. 90% of breast cancer is not genetically linked! I didn't realize that - otherwise I would have been getting those free annual mammograms starting at age 40. My naturopath says that it might be caused by exposure to the now-banned pesticide DDT - when I was a child or even when my mom was in utero. 
After I'm done the treatment, my lifetime risk of reoccurrence will be less than 5% - that's pretty good, given that the average woman's lifetime risk of cancer is 13%. *Forgive the cis-gender bias of this statistic - for genderqueer folks, gender-affirming hormone treatment changes cancer risks in various ways.                                        
                                    
                                                                        
                                        Want to support me in my breast cancer journey? I humbly accept this support from my community. I'm fortunate to have the strongest friendship network of my life! So there's no pressure for anyone to help, and I'm asking people to only help in ways that really feel accessible and joyful. This form w...