Barbara Feil Counseling

11/23/2023

Today I pray for all those for whom gratitude seems very hard to find...who live with persistent loneliness, pain, and trauma that is not seen by those around them. May they find hope in the cross that was essential before resurrection or as Francis Weller describes in "The Wild Edge of Sorrow" - "Through our ability to acknowledge the layers of loss, we can truly discover our capacity to respond, to protect and to restore what has been damaged." Thankful for this reality...

10/16/2022

Sobering thoughts!

Your story matters to God. Your wounds matter to God. But does your story matter to you? Do your wounds matter to you? Or, do you tend to minimize your wounds or ignore them or simply pretend they aren't there? For more on this, please check out podcast episode 121. And also consider registering for the Understanding Your Story virtual workshop on Saturday, November 19 (via zoom). Link in bio to register.

09/30/2022

I like to point to the example of Jesus when it comes to our emotions.

We see Him weep.
We see Him get angry.
We see Him grieve.

The goal isn't to numb ourselves so that we're never showing any emotion. Nor is the goal to let our emotions run roughshod over our lives (and over everyone around us.)

The goal is to be in a healthy relationship with our emotions. To honor them. To let them flow through. To let them make us more human.

Learning to honor the cues your emotions are sending you is part of the work of trusting yourself. I write about this process in my new book The Best of You, available anywhere books are sold today!