Lisa Happ Coaching

01/30/2026

Divorce after coercive control or narcissistic abuse changes how your body responds to the world.

“Just let it go” is one of the most invalidating things someone can say and I hear it all the time from women who are doing their absolute best.

If it were that simple, you would have done it already.

Instead, your nervous system stays on high alert.
Thoughts race.
Conversations replay.
You brace for impact, even when nothing is happening.

That doesn’t mean you’re stuck.
It means your body learned it wasn’t safe to relax — especially after years of managing someone else’s emotions, reactions, or control.

I’m sharing this because so many capable, intelligent, successful women quietly wonder what’s “wrong” with them in this season.

There isn’t. 🤍

Just wanted to name it in case someone here needed to feel a little less alone today.

01/29/2026

“Just let it go” assumes this is a choice.

It’s not.

After coercive control, the nervous system stays on high alert …. scanning, bracing, replaying …because that’s what kept you safe.

Divorce often makes this worse, not better.

This isn’t overthinking.
This isn’t weakness.
This is a nervous system in survival mode.

Healing doesn’t come from pushing yourself to “move on.”
It comes from helping your body feel safe again.

That’s the work I do with women navigating divorce and coercive control.

If you’re ready for real support 🤍not invalidating advice book an introductory call. 🤍 📞 https://calendly.com/lisahapp/60min

01/28/2026

It’s not because you’re broken.
It’s because your body learned to stay alert.

To brace.
To scan.
To stay ready.

Especially after narcissistic or coercive control.
Especially during divorce.

Silence isn’t neutral when you’ve lived in survival mode.
It can feel unsettling.
Exposing.
Unsafe.

Healing isn’t about forcing calm.
It’s about giving your body time to realize it’s finally safe.

01/27/2026

There’s a version of divorce that doesn’t look dramatic from the outside.
You’re still functioning. Still parenting. Still working.

But inside, your body is in survival mode.
Breath feels shallow. Decisions feel impossible. Everything feels heavy.

This client’s words capture what so many women experience after prolonged emotional harm, coercive control, or narcissistic dynamics especially when kids are involved.
Our work together isn’t about pushing you to be “stronger.”
It’s about helping your nervous system settle so you can breathe again, think clearly, and move forward without collapsing or exploding.

You don’t have to carry this alone.
And you’re not weak for needing support.

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If this resonates, and you desperately want to talk with someone who understands, 🤍 you can book your introductory call with me here 📞 https://calendly.com/lisahapp/60min

01/26/2026

Snow quiets everything.

But when you’ve lived through narcissistic or coercive control, quiet can feel unsettling instead of peaceful.

Your body learned to stay alert.
To brace.
To scan.

Especially during divorce.

If this resonates, nothing is wrong with you.
This is a nervous system that adapted to survive.

Healing isn’t about forcing calm.
It’s about teaching your body it’s finally safe.

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01/23/2026

You’re the one everyone leans on.

The steady one.

The capable one.

And when you’re navigating divorce 🤍especially after narcissistic abuse 🤍 that role gets heavier.

You become the emotional container.

The decision-maker.

The one who keeps it together while everything underneath is unraveling.

Most people don’t see the cost of that.

The mental load.

The constant self-control.

The way your nervous system is struggling to survive

If this feels uncomfortably familiar, nothing is wrong with you.

This is what happens when someone gives and gives 🤍 in a relationship, a marriage, a family 🤍 and rarely gets held.

You weren’t meant to carry divorce, recovery, and everyone else’s emotions alone.

If you’re at a point where you’re done white-knuckling through this and want support that truly understands narcissistic dynamics and high-conflict divorce, this is the work I do.

You don’t have to decide everything today.

But you are allowed to stop carrying it like this.

🤍 Book an introductory call when you’re ready.

https://calendly.com/lisahapp/60min

01/21/2026

I’m so excited to share this.

I will be a part of an upcoming Vesta Divorce Summit designed for women at every stage of the divorce process 🤍 whether you’re just beginning to question things, actively navigating divorce, or rebuilding on the other side.

This summit was created to offer real support, clear information, and a sense that you don’t have to figure everything out alone.

Dates: February 5–6
Time: 11:30 AM–2:00 PM ET
Where: Live online
Cost: Free — one registration gives you access to both days

If this part of your life feels overwhelming, uncertain, or heavy, this space was built with you in mind.

Register here to save your spot:
https://bit.ly/DivorceSummitFeb5

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01/20/2026

Narcissistic abuse doesn’t end when you leave.

It lingers in your body.
In the hesitation.
In the mental loops.
In how exhausted you feel 🤍even on “normal” days.

That doesn’t mean you’re failing at healing.
It means your nervous system learned to survive something unsafe.

Healing isn’t about getting over it.
It’s about helping your body feel safe again.

And that is possible. Let’s talk https://calendly.com/lisahapp/60min

01/19/2026

There’s a kind of tired that sleep doesn’t touch.
Not because you’re weak 🤍 but because your nervous system has been on alert for too long.

If this is landing, you don’t have to figure everything out today.
You can get support while you find your footing again.

🤍 Book an introductory call here:
https://calendly.com/lisahapp/60min

01/14/2026

Sometimes the truth doesn’t arrive as a big decision.
It shows up as a quiet sentence you can’t shake.

If this thought keeps coming back, it’s worth listening to.
Not to force an answer just to get supported while you find your footing.

🤍 If it feels helpful, you’re welcome to book an introductory call and talk it through:
https://calendly.com/lisahapp/60min

01/13/2026