08/14/2025
I wouldn't be here without my anchor, Dan, and all the friends that feel more like family.
"I’ve always known my wife was strong, but I didn’t fully appreciate how strong until I saw her build her horse training, boarding, and lesson program from the ground up. From the outside, our barn looks like a warm, welcoming place where riders of all ages come to learn and grow. What most don’t see is the sheer amount of work it takes to keep it running—the long hours, physical strain, and emotional load she carries every day.
As her husband, I see the reality behind the scenes. I see her in the bitter cold, breaking ice from buckets before dawn. I see her in the July heat, dragging the arena for the third time. I watch her load hay, clean stalls, treat injuries, and manage it all with unwavering dedication.
Most of the world sees the smiling instructor, the tidy barn, the organized events. They don’t see her skipping lunch for a colicking horse or staying up late balancing books and answering messages. They don’t see the toll it takes.
I do. And that’s why I know how important my role is, not just as her husband, but as her partner in this dream.
Running a barn like hers is not a lucrative business. Many months, we’re lucky if she breaks even. There are always expenses; hay, grain, shavings, veterinary bills, farrier costs, repairs to fences and equipment, insurance, utilities, and on and on. At times, the financial side of the operation can feel daunting. But I’ve never once regretted supporting her dream financially, even when it’s been tight.
Because I’ve seen firsthand what this barn means, not just to her, but to the community it serves. My wife isn’t in this for the money. She’s in it because she believes in the power of horses to change lives. She believes in giving kids a place where they can grow in confidence and responsibility. She believes in teaching young riders not just how to ride, but how to care for another living being, how to work hard, and how to persevere when things get tough.
She is cultivating the next generation of leaders and horsemen, even if they don’t realize it yet. I watch her patiently teach a nervous beginner how to tack up a horse for the first time, and I can see how she is shaping that child’s sense of self-worth. I watch her celebrate with a rider who finally masters a difficult lead change, and I know it’s about so much more than just the maneuver. These small milestones, ones that might seem insignificant to an outsider, are what keep her going.
What breaks my heart sometimes is how invisible my wife’s effort can feel. The kids she teaches light up when they see her, and the parents thank her after a lesson, but very few people understand the depth of sacrifice behind the scenes.
They don’t see the nights she collapses into bed sore and bruised from being kicked or stepped on. They don’t see her crying quietly in the truck after a difficult day, when a horse didn’t make it through an illness or a boarder left unexpectedly. They don’t see how she worries constantly about the well-being of every horse and every student, trying to carry that invisible weight on her own.
But I do. And while I can’t take away that burden, I can do my best to lighten it.
Some days, that means physically pitching in, helping repair a broken fence, hauling feed, or mucking stalls when she’s rushed. Other days, it means running errands so she can stay focused on lessons or training rides. But more than anything, my role is to be her steady source of encouragement and perspective.
When the finances feel tight, I remind her of the impact she’s making. When she’s frustrated because progress feels slow, I point out all the kids who have blossomed under her instruction. When she questions whether it’s worth it, I tell her, unequivocally, that it is.
Because I’ve seen the evidence. I’ve watched shy, uncertain kids transform into confident young adults, struggling riders learn the value of hard work, and those who didn’t fit in elsewhere find a home in her barn. And it’s not just the kids. She’s built a supportive community of adult riders, too, people who arrive stressed from work or life but leave lighter thanks to the horses and her presence.
Supporting my wife’s business is about so much more than supporting a hobby or even a career. It’s about investing in something that makes the world a better place. Horses have a way of grounding people, of teaching patience, empathy, and responsibility. They don’t care who you are, what your job title is, or how popular you might be. They respond to honesty and respect, and in that way, they teach the same values my wife works so hard to instill in her riders.
I think about the ripple effect of her work—how every child she teaches gains discipline, compassion, and resilience to carry into life, how every adult rider brings the peace they find at the barn back to their families and work, and how every horse she trains gets a better life because of her skill and care.
That’s the kind of impact money can’t measure."
🔗 Read the full article by Robert Carter at https://www.theplaidhorse.com/2025/08/06/a-husbands-perspective-on-the-sacrifice-behind-the-barns-success/
📸 Courtesy of Kimberly Misiak
