Perspective Counseling for Behavioral Health, LLC

02/07/2026

Funny how things unfold. I’d already been sitting with the idea of intention versus how we show up — in our relationships and in the world. Then today happened.
Sharing some reflections on intention, impact, and accountability. Link in story.

02/06/2026

Racist imagery doesn’t become acceptable because it’s posted by a politician or passed off as a joke. Dehumanization is never humor — it’s harm. What’s already known doesn’t need to be spoken, and racism is always known

02/06/2026

Racist imagery doesn’t become acceptable because it’s posted by a politician or passed off as a joke. Dehumanization is never humor — it’s harm. What’s already known doesn’t need to be spoken, and racism is always known

01/26/2026

💭 “Healing isn’t just about knowing better—it’s about choosing better. Again and again, in ways that honor the person you’re becoming.”
There’s been so much talk about boundaries lately. Some say it’s just fear in disguise. And honestly? Sometimes it is.
But I believe boundaries, at their core, are rooted in self-awareness—in recognizing what drains us, what no longer fits, and what our soul is asking for.
💡 Clarity is the first step.
🚪 Boundaries are how we honor that clarity.
❤️ And self-respect is choosing differently, even when it’s hard.
✨ New blog post → Link in bio
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"Healing isn’t just about knowing better—it’s about choosing better. Again and again, in ways that honor the person you’re becoming."

01/25/2026

When you clearly communicate what you like, need, or don’t enjoy, and someone continues to do the opposite while calling it care, it creates a quiet bind.
There’s a difference between doing something for someone and doing something with their preferences in mind.
When we ignore what’s been clearly communicated, even good intentions can miss the mark.

It’s okay to say:
“I appreciate the thought, and I still need something different.”
That’s not ungrateful.
That’s honest.
Healthy relationships make room for preference, choice, and mutual understanding.

Care requires listening.
Listening requires humility.
And love isn’t proven by effort alone — it’s proven by consideration.
You’re allowed to want care that actually fits you.

“Boundaries reveal whether care is about connection — or control.”
If someone repeatedly does what they want to offer instead of what you’ve said you need, and then feels hurt when it’s not received, that’s not generosity.
That’s a mismatch in how care is defined.
You’re allowed to say:
“I’ve already shared what works for me.”
And you’re allowed to stop accepting things that don’t.

✨ Boundaries don’t reject care.
✨ They clarify how care actually lands.






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01/25/2026

“Sometimes the issue isn’t ingratitude, it’s not being listened to.”
When you clearly communicate what you like, need, or don’t enjoy, and someone continues to do the opposite while calling it care, it creates a quiet bind.
There’s a difference between doing something for someone and doing something with their preferences in mind.
When we ignore what’s been clearly communicated, even good intentions can miss the mark.

It’s okay to say:
“I appreciate the thought, and I still need something different.”
That’s not ungrateful.
That’s honest.
Healthy relationships make room for preference, choice, and mutual understanding.

Care requires listening.
Listening requires humility.
And love isn’t proven by effort alone — it’s proven by consideration.
You’re allowed to want care that actually fits you.

“Boundaries reveal whether care is about connection — or control.”
If someone repeatedly does what they want to offer instead of what you’ve said you need, and then feels hurt when it’s not received, that’s not generosity.
That’s a mismatch in how care is defined.
You’re allowed to say:
“I’ve already shared what works for me.”
And you’re allowed to stop accepting things that don’t.

✨ Boundaries don’t reject care.
✨ They clarify how care actually lands.

12/07/2025

Had an amazing night at the Jahmil Harris Foundation’s 5th Year Anniversary Sneaker Ball! 👟✨
This foundation was created to honor a meaningful legacy and continues to empower youth, uplift communities, and support individuals and families facing challenges. Proud to show up, support, and celebrate 5 years of purpose and impact. ❤️

12/04/2025

Today makes five years since my mother passed, and I’ve been sitting with memories of her — her voice, her laugh, her strength, her honesty, her love for community, and the way she poured into me without even realizing it.

There are people who leave such an imprint on your life that even after they are gone, you can still feel them shaping you. My mother, Karen was—and continues to be—one of those people for me.Five years have passed since her transition, and yet her fingerprints remain on my character, my courage...

12/04/2025

Today makes five years since my mother passed, and I’ve been sitting with memories of her — her voice, her laugh, her strength, her honesty, her love for community, and the way she poured into me without even realizing it.

Growing up, she kept her diploma hanging in the living room and reminded me and my brother constantly: “I got mine — now you need to get yours.”

That drive lives in me.
That discipline lives in me.
That boldness lives in me.
I shared a full memorial piece on my blog reflecting on who she was, what she taught me, and how her legacy continues through my journey today — personally, professionally, and spiritually.
If you’d like to read the full tribute, it’s posted now.

🌼 Link in bio.
Here’s to my mother — the woman who made me who I am.

11/18/2025

For some, grief feels heavier around the holidays — and that’s valid. But for others, the pain isn’t about the calendar. It’s about the absence itself — the empty chair, the missing voice, the moments that remind you they’re gone.

Losing my mom during the holidays taught me something important: the hardest days of grief aren’t always tied to the calendar. Here’s why — and what actually helps when you’re supporting someone through loss.

11/07/2025

It’s been really hard seeing so many people focused on Marshawn Kneeland’s touchdown on Sunday as a highlight in his life. That moment was incredible, but it’s such a small part of his story.

There’s been talk that he was struggling with the loss of his mom and with his mental health. I just want to say — grief isn’t a disorder. It’s a reflection of love, pain, and the struggle to find your footing again after someone you love is gone. Learning to live life after that kind of loss isn’t easy.
Marshawn’s story is so much bigger than football. He was a person dealing with something deeply human — loss, hurt, and trying to keep going. My heart breaks for him and for everyone who loved him.

Let’s continue to create a safe space for men to seek support, express their pain, and have their needs met without judgment. No one should ever feel like they have to carry that kind of weight alone.

If you’re hurting, please reach out — to a friend, a family member, or by calling or texting 988 for the Su***de and Crisis Lifeline. You’re not alone. 🫶🏾

10/21/2025

When I think about everything I’ve walked through — every loss, every moment of grief — one truth stands out:
my faith has been my anchor. 🌿

It’s what steadied me when the grief felt like it might pull me under.
That’s something my mother gave me early on — the foundation of faith that has carried me through every storm.
What people often call my “strength” is really God’s grace.

It’s not that I don’t feel pain; it’s that I trust I won’t be consumed by it.

✨ Finding Meaning in Grief 🌿

Grief expert David Kessler teaches that meaning-making isn’t about explaining loss — it’s about learning to live with it.
Meaning doesn’t erase pain or imply that what happened was “meant to be.” Instead, it invites us to look for what endures — the love, the lessons, and the faith that remain even after everything changes.

For me, meaning has come through faith. I’ve learned to ask, What did my mother’s life teach me? How can I carry her strength and compassion forward? That process has helped transform my grief into purpose.

Finding meaning doesn’t close the chapter; it reshapes it. It allows us to keep writing our story with the person we’ve lost still woven into every line.

💭 How has faith or meaning shaped your own healing journey?

💭 What keeps you anchored when life feels heavy?

New Blog 👇🏾

My mother gave me many things, but the greatest gift she left me was my faith. Here’s how it anchored me in grief — and how memories can keep your loved one close.