Melissa Shaw, LCSW - BACS

Melissa Shaw, LCSW - BACS In my 22 years of practice, I believe we all have struggles and would benefit from increased EQ!

So many people today are missing the point.Emotional wellness in a relationship isn’t about grand gestures or constant g...
05/06/2025

So many people today are missing the point.

Emotional wellness in a relationship isn’t about grand gestures or constant gifts. It’s about making your partner feel safe, seen, and valued—every single day.

It’s pausing in the middle of a busy afternoon or a slow morning, to send a message that says, “You’re on my mind, and I hope you’re having an epic day.”

It’s choosing to be emotionally available—really listening when she speaks, not just hearing words but feeling their weight. Everyone wants to be heard.

It’s grabbing an extra glass of water or her favorite snack without her asking—because small kindnesses build deep trust.

It’s saying, “Let’s go out tonight,” and taking her somewhere she didn’t expect—but where her heart feels known.

It’s about adding her favorite song to your playlist that may surprise her or serve as a reminder of her when you’re apart.

It’s turning any moment into a memory—taking her hand in the kitchen or the store, swaying slowly, slow dancing if even for a few seconds.

It’s calling just to say, “I love you” or “How’s your heart today?”

It’s packing a few snacks and heading to the swings at the park. It’s moments shared!

It’s keeping a phone note of the small things— what she stares at too long, her favorite perfume, her go to treat, how she orders her Starbucks and randomly referencing these notes to spontaneously get her something that says “I see you and I get you.”

Heard & Appreciated! It’s all anyone wants!

Also, no need to break your budget to nourish a relationship. It only takes presence, consistency, and love that pays attention.

— Melissa Shaw, LCSW-BACS & Creator of Wellyoh.com

Don’t try this on me! I’m here to help but I am a constant reminder of I should not be working harder than you and if we...
01/17/2025

Don’t try this on me! I’m here to help but I am a constant reminder of I should not be working harder than you and if we’re working together, you are going to get well!

1. Boundaries are essential.It’s easy to care deeply for your clients—they share their most vulnerable moments with you....
01/12/2025

1. Boundaries are essential.
It’s easy to care deeply for your clients—they share their most vulnerable moments with you. But remember, they are not your friends, family, or responsibility beyond the professional relationship. Keep your boundaries clear to protect both of you.

2. Not everyone will trust your expertise.
Clients may question your advice or methods, believing what they’ve read online or heard elsewhere. Stay grounded in your training and ethics. Therapy is not one-size-fits-all; focus on what aligns with your expertise and their best interest, even if it’s challenging.

3. Therapy is about people, but it’s the paperwork that gets exhausting.
Progress notes, treatment plans, and insurance documentation can wear you down. Staying organized and consistent will help lighten this mental load.

4. Healing is not linear.
Every client progresses at their own pace, and setbacks are part of the process. Avoid taking a client’s regression or lack of progress personally—it’s often a reflection of where they are, not your capabilities.

5. People will always have opinions about your profession.
Some clients, families, or peers may judge or misunderstand your methods or the value of therapy itself. Trust in your training and experience, and don’t let external judgment shake your confidence.

6. Success isn’t measured by outcomes.
It’s measured by providing a safe space, offering tools for growth, and respecting the process—even when results are hard to see or may take years to emerge.

7. Every client is unique.
Textbook cases are rare. Adaptation and flexibility will often serve you better than rigid adherence to theory.

8. Watch for burnout signs.
If you dread seeing a specific client, it’s time to reassess. Therapy should not drain your emotional reserves to the point where you can no longer show up fully.

9. Let it go.
Clients leave, skip appointments, or even ghost you. Don’t take it personally. Therapy is not always a fit for everyone, and sometimes the timing just isn’t right.

10. This is a business.
It’s okay to expect payment for your work and enforce cancellation policies. Your time, energy, and expertise are valuable.

11. Be honest.
Clear, compassionate honesty builds trust. Avoid sugarcoating or hiding truths—clients appreciate authenticity, even if it’s difficult to hear.

12. Trauma looks different for everyone.
Never judge someone’s reactions or coping mechanisms. Be the person who sees their experience without bias or assumptions.

13. Learn to handle confrontation with grace.
Some clients will challenge you. Stay professional and open while maintaining your therapeutic boundaries.

14. Know your worth.
Don’t undervalue your skills by over-discounting your fees, giving unpaid time, or avoiding necessary rate increases. Advocating for your worth helps others see the value in what you provide.

15. Reputation is everything.
In this field, it takes years to build trust, but one ethical lapse or poor decision can destroy it. Always uphold the highest standards.

16. Safety first.
Whether navigating a client in crisis or choosing the right therapeutic intervention, trust your instincts and prioritize safety for everyone involved.

17. Get clear policies upfront.
Have clear contracts regarding payments, cancellations, confidentiality, and session goals. Structure protects both you and your clients.

18. Don’t be afraid to raise your rates.
Inflation impacts therapy too. Rate increases, when communicated thoughtfully, reflect the evolving value of your time and expertise.

19. Supervision and consultation matter.
Even experienced therapists benefit from an outside perspective. Lean into supervision, mentorship, or peer consultation to stay sharp and avoid stagnation.

20. Family and rest come first.
The work will always be there, but your health and personal life are irreplaceable. Clients will come and go, yet you and your loved ones deserve well-being too.

Thanks for reading my thoughts. I hope these insights help sustain you creating helpful resilience and reducing burnt out or as a guide for those starting in this deeply rewarding and challenging profession.

Happy 4th of July from your friendly mental health therapist! Enjoy the celebrations, take time for self-care, and cheri...
07/04/2024

Happy 4th of July from your friendly mental health therapist! Enjoy the celebrations, take time for self-care, and cherish the moments with loved ones. Here's to a day of joy and emotional wellness! 🇺🇸

Jung’s Five Pillars of a Good Life: A Guide to HappinessBy: Melissa Shaw, LCSW- BACSCarl Gustav Jung, the great Swiss ps...
06/24/2024

Jung’s Five Pillars of a Good Life: A Guide to Happiness
By: Melissa Shaw, LCSW- BACS

Carl Gustav Jung, the great Swiss psychoanalyst, left an indelible mark on psychology with his profound insights into the human psyche. While much of his work delves into the complexities of the unconscious mind, archetypes, and the process of individuation, Jung also offered practical guidance on living a fulfilling and meaningful life. His concept of the "Five Pillars of a Good Life" provides a framework for achieving happiness and well-being. Here, we explore these pillars and their relevance in our modern lives.

1. Health
Jung believed that physical health is fundamental to a good life. He advocated for a holistic approach to health, recognizing the interconnectedness of the mind and body. Maintaining physical health through regular exercise, balanced nutrition, and sufficient rest is crucial. However, Jung also emphasized the importance of mental and emotional well-being. Managing stress, addressing psychological issues, and cultivating a positive mindset are integral components of this pillar. In today's fast-paced world, prioritizing health can be challenging, but it remains a cornerstone of a happy and productive life.

2. Good Relationships
For Jung, relationships are vital to our emotional and psychological health. He stressed the importance of meaningful connections with family, friends, and romantic partners. These relationships provide support, love, and a sense of belonging. Jung’s theory of the collective unconscious suggests that we are inherently social beings, deeply connected to one another. Nurturing relationships through effective communication, empathy, and mutual respect fosters a supportive network that can enhance our well-being. In an era of digital communication, the quality of our interactions can sometimes suffer, making it all the more essential to cultivate deep, genuine connections.

3. Meaningful Work
Jung believed that meaningful work is essential for a fulfilling life. He distinguished between a job and a vocation, with the latter being work that aligns with one’s passions and values. Engaging in work that provides a sense of purpose and contributes to something larger than oneself can lead to profound satisfaction. This pillar underscores the importance of finding a career or pursuit that resonates with our true selves. In modern times, where job markets can be volatile and work-life balance elusive, striving for meaningful work can be a path to both personal fulfillment and societal contribution.

4. Connection to the Past
Understanding and appreciating our history and heritage was another pillar Jung emphasized. This connection provides a sense of identity and continuity, linking us to our ancestors and cultural roots. By exploring our personal and collective histories, we gain insights into our behaviors, beliefs, and values. This pillar also involves reconciling with past traumas and learning from historical experiences to build a better future. In our rapidly changing world, where traditions can be easily overshadowed by modernity, reconnecting with our past can offer stability and wisdom.

5. Spirituality or a Connection to Something Greater
Jung recognized the importance of spirituality or having a sense of connection to something greater than oneself. This does not necessarily refer to religious belief but can encompass a variety of spiritual practices and philosophies. Engaging in activities that foster a sense of transcendence, such as meditation, art, nature walks, or community service, can provide profound inner peace and purpose. In a secular and often materialistic society, finding a spiritual anchor can help navigate life’s challenges and uncertainties.

Integrating the Five Pillars into Modern Life

While Jung’s Five Pillars of a Good Life were conceived in the early 20th century, their relevance endures. Here are practical steps to integrate these pillars into contemporary living:

Prioritize Health: Establish routines that promote physical and mental health. Regular exercise, a balanced diet, mindfulness practices, and regular check-ups are essential.

Cultivate Relationships: Invest time in building and maintaining meaningful relationships. Practice active listening, empathy, and open communication with loved ones.

Seek Meaningful Work: Reflect on your passions and strengths to find work that feels purposeful. This might involve career shifts, further education, or finding ways to bring more meaning into your current job.

Reconnect with the Past: Explore your heritage, family history, and cultural traditions. Learn from past experiences and integrate their lessons into your life.

Develop Spiritual Practices: Engage in activities that connect you to a greater sense of purpose. This could be through nature, creative expression, meditation, or community involvement.

Jung’s Five Pillars offer a timeless blueprint for a balanced and fulfilling life. By embracing these principles, we can navigate the complexities of modern existence with greater resilience, purpose, and happiness.

Happy Mother's Day to all the incredible moms out there! All of you! The moms TTC, the moms to be, the moms of littles, ...
05/12/2024

Happy Mother's Day to all the incredible moms out there! All of you! The moms TTC, the moms to be, the moms of littles, the moms of bigs, the bonus moms, the grand moms, the moms to others who you love like your own. Your love, strength, and sacrifices are appreciated and celebrated today and every day. You are the heartbeat of your families, the warmth of love to all, and your endless dedication and care are truly inspiring. Wishing you a day filled with love, joy, and well-deserved pampering. Happiest of Mother’s Days to you!

05/08/2024
Life is beautiful and challenging. Balancing your thoughts, feelings, behaviors and overall mood are rooted in how much ...
04/26/2024

Life is beautiful and challenging. Balancing your thoughts, feelings, behaviors and overall mood are rooted in how much to exercise your heart and your head.
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The Hospice of Baton Rouge offers CampConquer!FREE Grief/Loss service for children.Camp Conquer originally began as a pr...
04/05/2024

The Hospice of Baton Rouge offers Camp
Conquer!

FREE Grief/Loss service for children.

Camp Conquer originally began as a private donation to provide children affected by the loss of their homes due to flooding with grief services.

With additional donations from the community and the help of dedicated volunteers, our ongoing seasonal bereavement camps have became a reality for children in Baton Rouge.

Watch Video & register at link
https://hospicebr.org/grief-support/camp-conquer

Camp Conquer 2024 Information
*Please note: Due to the growth of Camp Conquer, we are now offering two camps in 2024. We ask please only register your child once and choose which week would work best for you.
Camp 1: June 10th, 2024-June 14th, 2024
Camp 2: July 15th, 2024-July 19th, 2024

Please share with families where a child has suffered the loss of a loved one.

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