02/14/2026
This is so very true! It helps to understand this as you grieve your loved one. 💞🙏
There’s a kind of exhaustion that grief brings that almost no one talks about.
Not just being tired…
but the heaviness of having to carry a world that no longer feels the way it used to.
You can sleep all night and still wake up weary.
You can do almost nothing all day and still feel completely spent.
Because grief isn’t passive.
Even on the quiet days, your mind is revisiting memories.
Your heart is adjusting to an absence it never agreed to.
Your body is living with a stress it can’t put down.
That’s work.
Invisible work but work all the same.
Yet so many grieving people sit there wondering,
“Why am I so drained?”
“Why can’t I get more done?”
“What’s wrong with me?”
Nothing is wrong with you.
Grief consumes energy.
Grief asks your system to do something extraordinarily difficult,
to keep living while missing someone who mattered deeply.
Some days surviving grief looks like productivity.
Other days it looks like sitting still,
staring out a window,
getting through the hours one breath at a time.
Both are valid.
Both are part of the same road.
So if today feels heavy…
if your motivation is gone…
if even small things feel like too much…
Be gentle with yourself.
You’re not doing “nothing.”
You’re carrying loss.
And that’s incredibly hard work.
This is one of the most misunderstood parts of grief,
and one I wish someone had explained to me sooner.
That's why I wrote ‘SURVIVING GRIEF - 365 Days A Year’,
because grief doesn’t just break your heart,
it exhausts your entire being,
and on the hardest days,
even a few steady words can make the weight feel a little less lonely.
If you’re in one of those seasons, I hope you’ll be kind to yourself today.
Gary Sturgis
Author: 'SURVIVING GRIEF - 365 Days A Year'
