02/14/2026
This is so very true! It helps to understand this as you grieve your loved one. đđ
Thereâs a kind of exhaustion that grief brings that almost no one talks about.
Not just being tiredâŚ
but the heaviness of having to carry a world that no longer feels the way it used to.
You can sleep all night and still wake up weary.
You can do almost nothing all day and still feel completely spent.
Because grief isnât passive.
Even on the quiet days, your mind is revisiting memories.
Your heart is adjusting to an absence it never agreed to.
Your body is living with a stress it canât put down.
Thatâs work.
Invisible work but work all the same.
Yet so many grieving people sit there wondering,
âWhy am I so drained?â
âWhy canât I get more done?â
âWhatâs wrong with me?â
Nothing is wrong with you.
Grief consumes energy.
Grief asks your system to do something extraordinarily difficult,
to keep living while missing someone who mattered deeply.
Some days surviving grief looks like productivity.
Other days it looks like sitting still,
staring out a window,
getting through the hours one breath at a time.
Both are valid.
Both are part of the same road.
So if today feels heavyâŚ
if your motivation is goneâŚ
if even small things feel like too muchâŚ
Be gentle with yourself.
Youâre not doing ânothing.â
Youâre carrying loss.
And thatâs incredibly hard work.
This is one of the most misunderstood parts of grief,
and one I wish someone had explained to me sooner.
That's why I wrote âSURVIVING GRIEF - 365 Days A Yearâ,
because grief doesnât just break your heart,
it exhausts your entire being,
and on the hardest days,
even a few steady words can make the weight feel a little less lonely.
If youâre in one of those seasons, I hope youâll be kind to yourself today.
Gary Sturgis
Author: 'SURVIVING GRIEF - 365 Days A Year'
