12/27/2025
🧮 Here’s the relationship hack no one wants to hear but everyone needs to know- control gets you no where. With your kids. With your spouse. With your parents and family. With your work or neighbors. Or even your horse. The only thing that keeps you- and them- safe in those relationships is the predictability of your communication. 🫶
I don’t trust my horse because I control her. That never gives me the chance to trust her. That’s just supervision, and people can always work around supervision. 🔬 Trust is the belief tha someone can and will act in your best interest, including a tackless horse.
To have healthy and fulfilling relationships, there are some tough steps to work yourself through …
1️⃣ You have to trust yourself to be ok if you get hurt. That you won’t die (no exaggeration), that you can and will be ok. Not unphased. Not even not devastated. But ok. And to do that, there’s a lot of unpacking as to where that believe came from to begin with. 💔
2️⃣ You have to trust that you are worthy even when you are hurt. Not entitled- worthy. Even when you are rejected. When you’re told no. Your worth is inherent, not not all behavior is acceptable or effective. You’re worthy of a decision to move on, or to try again. ❤️🩹
3️⃣ You have to build the confidence not just to ask again, but to explore the real question- if it’s not that you were unworthy, then why no? Am I asking wrong? Am I asking too much? Am I giving mixed messages? 💕
4️⃣ You have to put away your ego and make it right. Repair the damage the control did. How do we collaboratively achieve what we wanted all along- to feel safe, to feel nurtured, to feel wanted, to feel heard- all while we sit vulnerably in a space where pain can come at any moment, but we trust in the chance to find the deepest joy and connection life has to offer. 💞
Connection cannot be found through control, that’s just compliance, and it leaves a void where we know a deeper need still exists. Control perpetuates our fears to keep them cycling. ⛓️💥
Connection must be born of the belief that another makes choices in your best interest out of pure love and care, not fear or demand. It’s hard, it’s scary, and yet it’s the only road to fulfilling our deepest need. 💗 Let us show you. 🥰agtt
