07/16/2025
1. Your nervous system doesn’t chase love — it chases what’s familiar.
If chaos or emotional distance was your norm growing up, your body may be drawn to that now, even when it hurts.
2. Anxious attachment isn’t about being needy — it’s about being wired for connection without ever feeling secure in it.
You crave closeness, but it never quite feels safe or consistent — so you keep reaching.
3. You’re not obsessed with them — you’re trying to resolve an old wound through them.
Often, the chase is more about proving your worth to yourself than winning someone over.
4. You learned to confuse intensity with intimacy.
Big emotional highs and lows feel meaningful, but true intimacy is steady and safe — not dramatic.
5. Your brain interprets emotional unavailability as a problem to solve — not a red flag.
You try harder, thinking this time you’ll be enough to make them choose you. That belief keeps you stuck.
6. The part of you that keeps reaching is still waiting for repair.
Underneath the chase is often a younger version of you who still wants to be chosen, seen, or validated.
7. Avoidant partners often reinforce anxious attachment styles.
Their emotional distance triggers your insecurity, creating a push-pull dynamic that feels impossible to break.
💔 Healing starts with understanding the “why” — and learning how to choose you instead.
