Pegasus Counseling

11/21/2021

11/13/2021

If you have a few extra bucks, The Capital Area Food Bank is struggling to meet demand right now. They are getting more and more working poor.

https://www.capitalareafoodbank.org/

02/25/2021

Let go of the past and just be present. This advice, or some version of it, is too frequently offered up to adults who experienced childhood trauma. Here’s the problem, this advice misses the fact that the past informs how we experience being present. It’s called learning and childhood trauma teaches some harsh, confusing lessons. It also makes me wonder how you are supposed to “let go” of something when you do not know how it’s being held? And if you think you have figured out how it is being held and don’t find the answers surprising, keep looking.

02/08/2021

I read something the other day that spoke to one of my core beliefs about the goal of therapy, "People who feel good about themselves don't need to stand in front of the mirror telling themselves to feel good about themselves". Look, I'm not putting down things like self affirmation exercises, they can be great coping skills. Learning coping skills, however, should not be the end goal in therapy. They should be tools to help you achieve the real goal, to not need them anymore. What if instead of managing depression and anxiety, there just wasn't anything there to manage? Imagine how much more you'd have left to invest in building your vision of a meaningful life. Wouldn't it be great to just be good with yourself without having to talk yourself in to it. It takes a lot more work, but, doesn't it sure sounds worth it?

10/26/2020