Racheal Stuth Reichel, LICSW

08/24/2024

07/11/2024

I'd love to break up with grief. But I lean in, over and over again.

07/08/2024

Most insurances accepted (unable to take Medicare/medicaid and WA applehealth)

My waitlists don’t move very often— check in if you’ve been told you’re difficult to treat because of your dissociative patterns, complexity of your case, perhaps your desire to not want meds as other parts of you didn’t feel comfortable. Contact in the infographic.

06/24/2024

Hello! So happy you follow me here. I'm growing my following and voice on Instagram personally and professionally. I'm uncertain if the two are really exclusive at times because I am complex as a human- those of you that know me know this. 🤓

Go follow me 🪬🩷🪬

05/21/2024

I think about her all the time. I wonder where she is and how her kids are doing and if her dog still snores. But if I saw her stepping down a grocery store aisle towards me, I would turn and walk away.

I still laugh to myself at our inside jokes and I think about her every time I put on that particular sweater and somewhere in my house there are pictures of her still framed. And if she called me tomorrow, there’s not one single chance that I would pick up the phone.

I think about her when I light fall candles or when I make really good pasta or when I drink a strong vodka and sprite. I think about her when the leaves turn orange and red and sometimes I can still hear her voice in my head. Sometimes I run into our mutual acquaintances and I don’t ask about her because

I just don’t want to know her anymore.

I want her to be happy and I want her to have all of the wins. I want her to get out of bed in the morning and feel the sunlight on her cheeks and I want the coffee she drinks to be not-too-hot, but she isn’t on my Christmas card list anymore. She is just not invited anymore and we are not even old friends.

Sometimes a crack turns into a sever and a sever turns into an amputation and -

Even though phantom pains still haunt my insides, I’m still glad that she was excised.

Friendships are funny I guess. We’re all adults and we’re all out here trying our best and we’re all failing sometimes. And I guess that means we’re failing each other sometimes, too. I think we don’t mean to … no. I think we really do mean well, but sometimes people become collateral damage and that’s really just a fancy phrase for,

“I’m sorry I somehow lost you while I was triaging my own self worth.”

I think it must be okay to say that I miss them sometimes, but no -

that doesn’t mean I want to know them anymore. I think it must be okay to say that I miss them sometimes, but this new version of me - this version that’s a little more whole and a lot more strong and a tiny bit lighter - well,

she doesn’t have room for friends that carry words for weapons pointed at the backs of others.

This new version of me

simply turned the corner

and walked the other way.

And it was all okay.

Love you, mean it.

- B.

05/19/2024

“Realizing” is underrated. I don’t see it on here. The power of “realizing” things as you awaken in healing is tremendous. The soul and the body connect with your brain and affirm to say, “That was real. That was me.”

The floods of grief can hit over and over again. Don’t fear that for there are underrated next best things here that will assist in that inundation.

05/14/2024

It's healthy to have boundaries, to be, to freely exist separate and together.

Enmeshment and co-dependency are toxic patterns some of us were infused with, however gently learning new states of being and unravelling the hooks of the past can lead to healthier states of regulation and self acceptance. ❤️

https://www.facebook.com/share/9EhygAqu9sJwrTYz/?mibextid=WC7FNe

If you're a parent of a teenager or young adult, check out this article about breaking generational patterns of codependency: https://www.livewellwithsharonmartin.com/generational-codependency-parenting-young-adults/

05/12/2024

Go for this awareness inside: what's the felt sense stirring within? Are you rushed? Why? Are there hooks in your thinking? What weighs you down? Notice how your body hangs on to this in its ability to muster strength, especially in a burdensome predicament. Love is always your birthright—- what might help if you find yourself in a downward sentiment spiral????

05/08/2024

Part of you knows that your life could be different.
Part of you knows that you're capable of more and wants to leave imbalanced relationships, to start your own business, to have the hard conversations, to quit the job you hate, to go on that world trip, to write that book, or sell your art.

And another part of you is terrified of what might happen if you actually do it.
Scared of the vulnerability, of rejection, of what others might think, of not actually knowing what the nexts steps would be, of the possibility of failing, or failing publicly!

The other, lesser talked about part, is the part of us that doesn't know what to do with ourselves if our old worries, patterns, pain points, and frustrations aren't there. It would be new, amorphous, uncomfortable. We have to literally learn new ways of relating to ourselves and the world - it would require a true identity shift to actually live out the life you're imagining.

And so you stay where you are and, often, you suffer.
Bc you're saying you want it (and you do), but aren't willing to sit with the discomfort that’s required to actually do it.

This is what stuck feels like.

When what we want isn't matching up with how we're living our lives.

To start taking the steps we have to start looking at our relationship to the resistance. Get to the feeling beneath the story. Every single person who has ever done anything remotely new and interesting has struggled with some sort of internal resistance. And they learned to be with it, navigate it, and move forward.

The Let It Go (emotional self management) Workshop is all about learning how to observe, be with, and navigate difficult emotions. We'll look at the stories that shape your world, the emotional patterns you live out, and you'll learn tools for sitting with and moving through discomfort so that you can take the big steps toward the thing you've always been dreaming about.

Link in bio for both the live workshop beginning May 8, and the self-paced online course version.

https://theeqschool.co/let-it-go-workshop

05/08/2024

There is a narrow space between courage and fear. To know one you frequently know the other. To be so courageous could propel one into fear and yet to be so fearful could also evoke such courage. You are exactly what you need to be- how do you need to hear this?

04/30/2024

04/27/2024

Sometimes we get so stuck in survival mode from all the trauma we don't realize the tension we are carrying. Make a point, everyday, to take 30 minutes to completey relax yourself, do some stretches, breath work, meditate. You deserve it and your body needs it!