Enlightened Therapy, PLLC

03/11/2024

Love this ❤️
The more comfortable we get with feeling our feelings, the better we’ll be able to help our kids learn to manage and regulate their own.

(Credit : Mansi Jikadara B)

02/05/2024

Behavior is complex. It is laden with all sorts of different variables, and is not the end-all-be-all of health.

This is SO important to understanding people in general, but children in specific.

Not all "well behaved" children are acting that way out of health. Many are deeply afraid of what will happen if they step out of line or express a negative emotion. Many are locked up in anxiety and performance pressure that is driven by pressure and not motivation.

I have known many children who minded all their P's and Q's but were deeply unwell in terms of their anxiety, or concept of self or relational security.

And healthy children are not always well-behaved. Why? Because children are emotional creatures, and they don't have fully formed pre-frontal cortexes to help them process and rationalize when in the throes of big emotional waves.

If you want to know how a child is doing you must study so much more than their behavior in a particular moment. You have to know their story, their world, their developmental stage, and the unique truth about what matters to them and makes them tick.

Love on.

12/15/2023

10/05/2023

Be kind to yourself folks! You won’t be disappointed

08/20/2023

How brave you are for slowing down. For not finishing that to-do list.

How courageous you are for not crossing that finish line, because your body said “enough.”

How fearless you are for choosing the quiet of your soul over
those voices driving you always towards more.

How bold, how rebellious -
you, out there,
honoring your own natural rhythm,
going against the culture’s breakneck speed.

We tend to make heroes of those hungry with ambition,
relentlessly doing, producing always more.

We applaud those who refuse to stop or rest. Who push themselves so hard in the name of achievement, that they sacrifice their body and soul and heart in the process.

We celebrate those who are ill or aging but never show it, never slow down, never reveal a moment of vulnerability.

This drivenness can be heroic, at times. It can be necessary for our survival or the greater good.

But,

I want to make heroes of those who slow down.

I want to make heroes of those who listen to their bodies, who do not strive for more than what the soul truly needs.

I want to make heroes of those who do not force or push, but surrender to each moment as it opens.

I want to applaud those who may not be driven towards success as we know it, but instead are nurturing something deep and subtle and needed.

I want to celebrate those brave enough to cease all doing, even for a second, and sit with the ache in their hearts. A task many find harder than summiting the highest peak.

I want to make heroes of those who honor their limitations. Who are unable to keep up with the busy-ness of our times, yet show up to each profound, necessary moment.

It is truly an act of courage and rebellion to do any such thing, in a world demanding you resist your own self, your own rhythm, your own soul.

And the paradox is, that often when we cease our incessant doing, even for a minute, and listen to that quiet voice within, we discover what it is we absolutely must do, and what instead can fall away.

We finally hear the call towards what serves our soul, and what then will serve the world. Nothing more, nothing less.

A hero is simply someone brave.
So come, be softly brave.
Be a new, quieter kind of hero.

Few may applaud, it’s true, but your soul certainly will.

By Leyla Aylin ~ to work with Leyla individually, join her groups, or read more of her work, visit:
www.leylaaylin.com

Art | Kate Maclean

08/05/2023

We often confuse influence with control. Sometimes we can influence loved ones, but we can't control them.
Read about how stepping into your "circle of control" can help you be happier and healthier!

https://www.livewellwithsharonmartin.com/codependency-circle-of-control-circle-of-concern/

07/26/2023

Know thyself! ❤️

🪡🧵 Threading…

07/10/2023

Now booking for fall sessions! Contact me for for details. 253-341-9441. Check out www.emdria.org for more information about how EMDR works. 💙

07/02/2023

My office is closed until the 6th! Have a happy and safe 4th if you choose to celebrate!! 💙

06/20/2023

06/02/2023

Our thoughts matter! And they directly impact how we feel. Negative thoughts literally change structures in the brain training us to be more negative. And positive thoughts create positive changes in the brain. Please be kind to yourself today ❤️

06/01/2023

What better way to spend the full moon in Sagittarius than an opportunity to spend an entire weekend playing? Inner Child Healing Retreat Browns Point - Tacoma, WA Jun 03, 10:00 AM PDT – Jun 04, 4:00 PM PDT 2 Day in person Retreat Collaboration with Olivia McKenna A weekend of play, creativity, an...

05/30/2023

Call for a free 10 min phone consult! Start your healing journey today ❤️

Medical & health

05/23/2023

Check this out for more info on how EMDR works!

Learn about how EMDR therapy works, what it is like, and how widely it is recognized. EMDR therapists discuss how EMDR therapy works and discuss the feedback...