
09/06/2025
Accountability is not clean. It is hairy, messy and vulnerable.
Some of us can hold ourselves accountable because we’ve built the muscles over time, the self-awareness, humility and the courage to sit in the discomfort of “I hurt someone, I made a mistake, I wasn’t in integrity.” We know accountability isn’t punishment, it’s repair, alignment, evolution.
And some of us can’t. Shame feels like death. Ego defends its territory. Old wounds whisper, “It isn’t safe to admit this.” So we hide, deny, collapse. We mistake accountability for annihilation when really it’s an invitation to become more whole.
The truth? Accountability asks us to walk right through the fire of shame without getting consumed. To name impact, to repair and
to recommit. To let responsibility become a bridge of reconnection.
I’ll leave you with this:
Where do you notice yourself leaning into accountability and where do you resist it? What would make it feel safer, more empowering, more sacred for you?