11/29/2025
Many people assume that someone who avoids conflict is a “peacemaker,” but there’s a big difference between being a peacemaker and being a peacekeeper.
A peacemaker actively creates peace.
They’re willing to step into uncomfortable conversations, lay down their pride, and bring people together to resolve issues. Peacemakers show real leadership—they listen, stay grounded instead of reacting emotionally, and work toward genuine reconciliation.
A peacekeeper, on the other hand, simply wants to maintain peace by avoiding conflict.
They steer clear of difficult conversations, often slipping into people-pleasing patterns that leave them emotionally, physically, and spiritually drained. Their desire to keep everyone else happy can come at the cost of their own well-being.
The beautiful truth is that a peacekeeper can become a peacemaker with healing—processing trauma, building confidence, and learning healthy boundaries.
I share this because so many clients I work with are physically weighed down by the emotional load they carry for others. Their unwillingness to set boundaries or address conflict creates ongoing stress, and that lack of internal peace begins breaking their bodies down—physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
You are not unloving if you set boundaries and confront someone who has hurt you. You are actually acting in love when you address things gently and respectfully.
