03/02/2023
In February I posted tips on keeping your relationship strong and some cool research about attachment needs in adult relationships.
What I failed to post about was on couple fights- why they happen and how you can begin to make repairs.
The topic just seemed so incredibly important that I had a hard time figuring out how to narrow the information down to bite-sized nuggets of information that today’s attention span requires.
Relationship problems are not to be taken lightly. Just as we should work to nurture and maintain our love relationships, so should we work to repair and mend problems that arise before they escalate.
The Gottman Institute termed The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse to describe predictors of divorce. In reference to the biblical phrase used to describe to the signs of the end of days, similarly, the relationship four horsemen also are signs that decades of meticulous research on couples, found predict divorce in a relationship within 5 years if not resolved.
In my work as a crisis counselor over the last 5 years, I can say that a majority of crisis situations people come in with, are relationship problems. Furthermore I could say, of all the male clients, more than 3/4ths come in due to a relationship problem.
This month as I completed a review of a su***de prevention class, I realized that I must continue to post throughout the year, information about how you can mend, repair, and strengthen our relationships, because, relationship problems were at the top of the list of reasons for completed su***des. And because there is a shortage of counselors, and in the counselor world nobody wants to do couples counseling. Well neither do I, but I am willing to share educational content on the subject! So stay tuned for ways you can support yourself and your partner.
