12/15/2025
When you replay the moments that hurt you, do you ever pause to ask: What was my role in this?
Self-awareness begins where victim narratives end. Staying stuck in the story of being wronged may feel protective, but over time it quietly limits growth, healing, and connection.
If this resonates, here are a few ways to shift the pattern:
1. Change the question you ask yourself.
Instead of “Why does this keep happening to me?” try “What am I tolerating, avoiding, or repeating?”
2. Separate impact from intent.
You can acknowledge that something hurt and still examine how you responded, what boundaries were missing, or where you gave your power away.
3. Look for patterns, not villains.
If the same dynamic shows up in different relationships, the work isn’t about who’s wrong, it’s about what needs to change within you.
Accountability isn’t self-blame. It’s self-respect. And it’s often the moment growth finally begins. Nothing changes if nothing changes. The change of the narratives in your life start with the changes that you make within yourself. Grow today!