Straightahead Chiropractic

04/22/2025

“They’re perfect just the way they are.” 🥰
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I understand the sentiment completely 😍, but can we be honest for a minute? 🤔
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No they’re not 😳… because nobody is 🤷🏻‍♂️. Our 4 kids never stood a chance at being perfect, because they have an imperfect dad! Me! 🤣.
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Life is a process, which includes growing & learning.
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Why am I sharing this? Well, since we’ve agreed to be honest for a couple minutes, 🤓 it’s because my heart has been pretty heavy lately on what seems to be a growing trend that to want the best, or even ”better,” for our kid(s) is somehow synonymous with not accepting or fully loving them where they’re at right now.
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And that’s simply not true. I’ll push back a bit & say, to not want the best for them is actually more concerning 🤷🏻‍♂️.
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It’s also creating a false sense of reality, a shame culture, and a looming fear of “messing things up.” But guess what, life’s messy… & kids & parenting can certainly amplify that.
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You won’t get it right all the time. Neither will they. That’s the point. And that’s where we (& they) learn if we’re willing to.
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Now, disclaimer, I know the pendulum can swing pretty far the other way into “nothing’s good enough” (trust me, I fully know, being raised under that). And, I know for most of you reading this I’m probably preaching to the choir.
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But I think we all need to hear & be reminded that we can be our kids strongest advocates, loudest cheerleaders, & most loving parents while simultaneously fully loving them now & desiring nothing but the best for their future.
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So, encourage, or even push your kids (& yourselves) to do hard things. Give them safe space to fail & figure it out. Seek every opportunity to teach them resiliency.
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It’s hard work, but the return on investment is priceless!
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04/17/2025

“Isn’t it just better assessment(s) & diagnostics?”
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Sure, that’s probably part of it.
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“Isn’t it genetic?”
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Perhaps.
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But don’t let anyone gaslight you!
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Something is going on. Maybe diagnosis has gotten better 🤷🏻‍♂️, but I am old enough to be a product of the 80s & 90s, & growing up having had zero kids in my classes that expressed the characteristics that would today be diagnosed with Autism. And if I were to think about it for a while I might be able to recall a few, out of the thousands of kids at my High school, that might have had un or under diagnosed Autism.
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Now, in California, statistically, there is at least one child in every class that’s been diagnosed with Autism.
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And, as for genetics… while there’s been some trait characteristics noted, where are all the grandparents & parents with Autism? And even if they are out there, which I’m sure there are some… there must be an external factor or force driving the change in genetic expression at some point… whether in recent or past history.
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And, why are we not allowed to ask questions about it? That’s as unscientific as anything there is… literally by definition, that’s unscientific.
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I don’t have a lot of answers, but I have some… & I have absolutely zero judgement for any parents or families in the in the midst of it, wherever they are on the spectrum.
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This isn’t an outsiders perspective.
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This is personal.
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I am a dad of a kid that WAS given that diagnosis nearly 20 years ago, when the criteria was much more stringent, and we did reverse & get removed the diagnosis as he “no longer qualified for any services”… and is absolutely thriving in every way today. And, as a clinician, I get to witness kids do things their families were told would never happen… yes, including diagnoses being removed on occasion.
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So please don’t think that I’m not writing this through teary eyes & with a heavy heart.
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I just want more answers. You, we, deserve them! ❤️
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03/21/2025

An airplane ✈️ having wings does not mean that it can fly, but without them flight would not be possible. The wings alone don’t cause flight, as there are so many other necessary variables, but they are certainly correlated & necessary to the process.
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It seems the “strongest”, or at least most common, arguments against anyone questioning mainstream narratives often include statements like “correlation does not mean causation” (or they simply resort to name calling 😔). This is especially unfortunate when the science should be tested more than trusted 🤯; & when items being questioned are not thoroughly tested, & therefore shouldn’t be trusted 🤨.
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I agree. There is a definite difference between causation & correlation, but that’s no excuse to be completely dismissive, or even disrespectful.
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And, when millions of families share similar experiences that seem to defy odds of coincidence… it’s time we lean in, listen, & learn what’s actually going on.
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IFKYK
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04/16/2024

Does your kiddo struggle 😫 with ear infections? 🥺
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Parents, check out this video & find out what thousands of families have learned, & how they found help through it! 👍🤓
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03/07/2024

I don’t know who might need to hear this, but the choices you make for your kids are your choices for your kids.
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You should never feel guilty, pressured, or bullied into making decisions you are not comfortable with.
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Of course you’ll be faced with tough choices… some you don’t want to make one way or another, but chose the one that leads to the most peace (which often isn’t the easier one, btw 🤷🏻‍♂️🤓).
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Make choices that’ll let you sleep well at night.
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And if you’re not ready to made a decision. Don’t. Delay it. Press Pause. Gather more info, clarity, & wisdom.
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And, regarding healthcare, go somewhere you’re educated, empowered, & supported in the choices you do make.