05/24/2026
Hospital bathroom selfie 𤳠But for real, sometimes as a doula (birth worker), the best thing we can do is sit on our hands. Breathe with mom. And stop making it about always ādoingā something.
Sometimes, we donāt need to do anything except let mom labor and witness birth.
Sometimes just our presence is the game changer. If I am not panicked and I am sitting here relaxed and present, validating this is normal, thatās enough.
Sometimes trying to do āall the thingsā interferes with her intuition when in fact, everything sheās doing is perfect.
Sometimes just being in the room to help advocate for allowing for her body and baby to work together is everything.
Sometimes there are looooong silences where I am huddled down in a squat so I donāt have the body language of standing over here, and I hand her a sip of water in between each interaction.
Sometimes all thatās needed is protecting her environment with dim lights, comfort, and not feeling observed and on a timeline
Sometimes, as a person who is a busy body, I have to remind myself (and birthing person) to breathe and trust the processā¦. Thereās nothing to do.
We usually just take things one step at a time and done intervene unless neededā¦.. and thatās ok. Thatās ideal. Thatās preferred.