Steven Ing

01/09/2026

What we all crave is someone who challenges us to deeper levels of intimacy and love. Sometimes that means they don’t share your beliefs—even something as important as your spiritual views. That’s actually great, because two people with different spiritual perspectives can have tremendous spiritual intimacy. What matters isn’t whether you’re atheist, Buddhist, Hindu, or Christian—it’s whether it’s safe for each of you to be who you are with one another. Follow to learn more.

01/09/2026

Many people are married and deeply unhappy. They say their spouse is wonderful and loving, but when I ask “How long has it been since you felt loved?” tears start rolling. They admit it’s been years. When they say leaving isn’t an option, I ask: “Would you give your child that same advice?” Everyone says no. That difference is denial. Follow to learn more.


Watch the full podcast, Episode 76: “Rethinking Jordan Peterson’s Marriage Advice” on YouTube or listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and all major podcast directories.

01/07/2026

We humbly accept making mistakes in life—that’s why we put erasers on pencils. But some say we should stay stuck in the 13th century with marriage, never introducing leaving as an option. Even without mistreatment, what if someone realizes they just don’t like you? That’s not dysfunction—it’s normal. Sometimes what seemed right becomes a clear mistake. Follow to learn more.


Watch the full podcast, Episode 76: “Rethinking Jordan Peterson’s Marriage Advice” on YouTube or listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and all major podcast directories.

01/07/2026

Some voices are beloved by certain men because they reinforce the belief that women who want out of relationships are wrong, that they should stay and work through it no matter what. The message is that anything perpetuating the relationship is good—even if it means forcing people to stay. That’s not about love or partnership. Follow to learn more.


Watch the full podcast, Episode 76: “Rethinking Jordan Peterson’s Marriage Advice” on YouTube or listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and all major podcast directories.

01/07/2026

Love is important, but so is courage to stand up for yourself.


Watch the full podcast, Episode 75: “Is Love a Spiritual Test?” on YouTube or listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and all major podcast directories.

12/24/2025

Sending warm wishes to everyone for a cozy holiday season and a bright 2026. ❤️

12/05/2025

New blog on Psychology Today.

Letting go of our shame is about relaxing our ego to the point where the ego is no longer that stony traffic cop with no sense of humor or humanity.

12/01/2025

Episode 75 of Managing Love Intelligently is now LIVE!

Every relationship is part of your spiritual journey because it reflects choices you've made. However, spiritual growth doesn't mean tolerating what doesn't ...

11/02/2025

New podcast episode! Shame is not so much what you feel when you've made a mistake; it's what you feel when you think you are a mistake. Listen to learn how to overcome shame and stop it from sabotaging your relationships.

Shame is not so much what you feel when you've made a mistake; it's what you feel when you think you are a mistake. Listen to learn how to overcome shame and...

10/07/2025

Suited up for battle in the war zone of Portland last weekend. 🖤

09/18/2025

The 5-Minute Weekly Habit That Changes Everything About S*x Ed - New blog at Psychology Today

Talking about human s*xuality with your kids is key to raising a healthy adult. Link below 👇

Having conversations with your children about human sexuality will create a different 18-year-old than the 18-year-old who doesn't ever discuss sexuality.

09/02/2025

The first step in having more fun dating is to create a life worth living. The next step is to treat dating as a recreational activity—not a desperate search for someone to rescue you from your loneliness.

Managing Love Intelligently is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and YouTube. You can also click the link below!
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The first step in having more fun dating is to create a life worth living. The next step is to treat dating as a recreational activity—not a desperate search for someone to rescue you from your loneliness.For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a ...