Tommy Lofgren - Washington State Therapist

03/06/2026

Some therapist humor for the day!

Client: “Can we process Bridgerton today?”

Me:

…. I’m here to process whatever needs space!
(i.e. Love Island, Rupaul’s Drag Race, 90 Day Fiance)

03/04/2026

🌷Those big life changes, or significant transitions, have a way of surprising our nervous system.

👇🏻One way they do this👇🏻

They activate our RAW SPOTS: They tap into places where we felt alone, unseen, unheard, or met with resistance when our needs mattered most.

🤫Those new moments are like a whisper to our nervous system—sending similar signals that leave us pondering,

“Will I be alone again?”
“Will they show up for me?”
“Is it safe to need something?”

🌱Those moments are our messengers. . . letting us know, things are different again, and I still need that support in order to grow.🪻

It begins with building safety around sitting with this part of yourself. That’s the first step.

02/24/2026

👋 We are, and will always be, bonding mammals.

02/20/2026

👋Good Morning Washington State,

I just want to take the time to share that I'm currently opening two reduced fee slots for individuals who need a safe, queer-friendly, and compassionate space to explore and process through current issues together.

I'm grateful to our powerful therapy community, and those of us who are offering a platform to give others a voice. When so many of those who are suffering, and who have suffered, are having their voices silenced or dismissed. . . your voice matters.

New Clients Can Book Here👇
https://cultivateconnection.patientsecure.me

02/04/2026

🐉 In couples work, we often frame our cycles around the “negative dance” or “dragon” that impedes on our capacity to connect to the one we love.

This is the cycle that, when hurt, fear, or disconnection take the drivers seat, we lose sight of each other. 👀

👉How do we catch the dragon together?

It starts by noticing it as it appears🐲🧐

The moment we can say, “Wait a second! There it is… the cycle is showing up right now!” This moment of courage in a relationship begins the new cycle of facing the dragon together.

💞When you acknowledge it — see IT for what IT is — and begin to lean into each others experience, you’ll start to unravel these fires with

🌟Awareness
🌟Gentleness
🌟Willingness

It isn’t about demonizing our partner, but about facing the dragon head on . . . Using these moments as sacred pauses to create pathways for change.

01/29/2026

🙋‍♂️Hello and Good Afternoon!

💞Sharing a meaningful update! I'm always excited about potential new services and trainings as a mental health professional. I'm looking forward to what this 2026 will bring to the agenda. . . and to Cultivate Connection!

For current and future clients, as of May 2026, I will be offering a beginning path to autism diagnosis. To help create the first steps into understanding autistic traits, and developing a path for moving forward, I'll start ADOS-2 screenings this year.

If you're seeking mental health therapy, and you're looking for a therapist, I DO HAVE OPENINGS!

Schedule Here👉 https://cultivateconnection.patientsecure.me

01/22/2026

✨Welcome to my therapist page!👋

Currently, I'm offering in-person and telehealth therapy sessions to clients in Washington State.

There are many words that describe who I am as a person. . . but also as a therapist. If it sounds like your cup of tea ☕, let's meet and decide what goals to focus on together.

✨QUIRKY
✨QUEER
✨ADVENTUROUS
✨HUMOROUS
✨YOGI
✨CREATIVE
✨CURIOUS
. . & more.

ACCEPTING NEW CLIENTS / SCHEDULE HERE👇
https://cultivateconnection.patientsecure.me

12/17/2025

❄️Happy Holidays!

I’m here to update you on a recent blogpost on my website (you can find the link for that in my bio)!

🎄 I’m sharing with you a few insights and tools you can utilize during this time, building awareness and mindfulness around holiday triggers…

🌟Expectations
🌟Family Dynamics
🌟Relationship Wounds
🌟Traumas
🌟Boundaries

Whatever you’re needing support in, I hope these insights can help you hold space for these places within you during this time — my post is meant to highlight tools for both self-regulation and co-regulation!

12/16/2025

✨"This holiday season can evoke or stir up old wounds or patterns that have either gone unnoticed, or feel familiar because of our own past attachment experiences."

I share with you some quick reminders, insight, and offerings to create a safe space to hold these wounds or patterns in your relationship. Whether it's within the context of self, or in the connection with your partner, I hope this will serve you in some way. . .

Especially if this season is one that has triggered expectations of repair, connection, or unraveled painful or traumatic memories.

I'M ACCEPTING NEW CLIENTS IN 2026.
Online Portal: https://www.cultivateconnection.patientsecure.me

HAPPY HOLIDAYS!

This holiday season can evoke or stir up old wounds or patterns that have either gone unnoticed, or feel familiar because of our own past attachment experiences.

12/02/2025

🎄It’s talked about during this time of the year — the change in routine, the added stressors, and the pressures to GIVE or SHOW UP.

Holidays also touch on our own raw spots and attachment wounds … in a way that brings our awareness to unresolved trauma, or even contributes to relational stress.

If you’re someone who notices yourself experiencing. . .
🌟Dissociation
🌟Anxiety
🌟Psychosomatic Issues: headaches, areas of tension
🌟Depression: isolation, overwhelming sadness

During the holiday season, our nervous system might experience distress because of sensory or attachment cues around us. Changes in routine, and expectations from those around us can trigger implicit memories that draw us back into these old cycles. Therefore, finding small ways to connect with those who can hold you in this space, and setting aside time to soften and slow down can allow you space to self- or co-regulate in moments like this.
♥️

11/21/2025

👋 Good Morning Tri-Cities and Washington State!

I hope that you're enjoying the end to your week! I'm taking a moment to reintroduce myself to those that might be seeking a therapist or yoga teacher for support in their healing journey!

My name is Tommy Lofgren, and although I grew up and spent most of my life in the Carolinas, I have been in the Tri-Cities now for just over 9 years (🫢which is hard to fathom how quickly time has passed). I've been honored to establish and maintain my own private practice for the last 4 years. In this practive, I've been dedicated to helping clients develop a deeper attunement to self, and in turn, meaningful connection in their own relationship(s). Within this practice, Cultivate Connection has utilized a somatic, emotionally focused, and experiential lens to help those trying to manage the weight of past traumas, from family of origin or romantic attachments, as well as navigating personal hurdles that bring up repeated cycles throughout one's life.

Growing up in a place of insecurity, without the safety of a safe haven or secure base, can lead to difficulties trusting or experiencing safe vulnerability in relationships. My goal is to help YOU get there. . . or for my couples out there, get there TOGETHER.

If you need to book a session this season, do so HERE 👇
https://cultivateconnection.patientsecure.me

THANKS

11/13/2025

👋Good Afternoon Washington State!

🧣I’m so grateful to be a part of a tremendous network of therapists who work with couples to navigate cycles and strength attachment!

🫂 When I’m working with individuals and couples, I’m working from a mindset of reintegrating safety and softening into the self-the body-the relationship. This model has helped me step into my office with intention and purpose . . . to help model and shape secure attachment for those needing a safe attunement figure in their healing journey.

👣Stepping into another season!
👉If you need support, please reach out!

Accepting new clients, telehealth or in-person!