Farrell Family Counseling Center, PLLC

11/08/2022

11/08/2022

11/08/2022

Kids need to learn from an early age that you are the person to go to if they see something that is inappropriate, make a mistake or they don't know what to do. The last thing you want is for your child to be scared to tell you something in fear of "getting in trouble", especially when it come to the internet and social media. Make it clear that you are there to help.

More information on my blog

https://www.thetherapistparent.com/post/it-is-never-too-early-to-prepare-kids-for-social-media

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11/08/2022

If you find that you and your child are butting heads regularly over the same issue, then you need to work through it together. You need to own your part and apologise where you need
to. This will actually help your relationship so it’s not such a battle. Try and sit down with
your child when you are both calm and just simply say things aren't working. Have them try
and come up with ideas of what else could happen. If the ideas aren't what you think will work, then talk through what would happen if we did that. Offer suggestions but be willing to listen if they have a problem with that. You may have to bend a bit. Remember having them obey you without question is not a win, they will only feel controlled and want to rebel.

Having them come up with ideas that you can both agree on means they are more likely to comply, but also they will feel valued.

More information on my blog

https://www.thetherapistparent.com/post/how-to-stop-yelling

11/08/2022

So often we as parents are frustrated by our child’s behaviour. The tantrums, wanting the same coloured cup, and generally being overly emotional can just be so infuriating. But if we stop and think, don't we struggle managing our emotions? All of these behaviours are exactly what our children should be doing for their development. When we understand the basics of child brain development and have some insight into why our children are behaving this way, it can make a huge difference in how we see our children. We no longer see our children as being “naughty” or trying to deliberately drive us crazy, but that they are doing the best with what they have. Also if we help them calm and work through what has upset them, then we are actually supporting positive brain development.

More information on my blog:

https://www.thetherapistparent.com/post/why-parents-need-to-understand-brain-development

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11/07/2022

Your child is a person.
A living breathing human being that you are given the privilege to raise.

Your child is a person.
An individual with feelings and reactions that he/she will need help regulating.

Your child is a person.
A smart imaginative little learner who depends on your response to make the right choices.

Your child is a person.
A sponge for knowledge and questions galore. Their brains are overwhelmed with so much information at once, that their emotions get overwhelming.

Your child is a person.
They are NOT meant to be still, respectful, obedient, and “good” all the time. Children are not built to constantly make all the right decisions. They are built to make mistakes and have help from you to make the right choices.

Your child is a person.
You get what you give. If your response is violence, then their response will be violence. If your response is to talk but not listen, they will do the same. If your response is empathy, kindness, and a soft voice even while they are struggling to find their soft voice; then they will eventually catch on. That is the main goal.

Your child is a person.
Molding them into a good human being takes time. It takes effort. It takes patience. Focus on one thing at a time. Pick and choose your battles. Your child needs you to be their guide and their safe place.

Your child is a person.
A living breathing human being that you are given the privilege to raise. Act like it’s the most amazing opportunity you’ve ever been given… because it is.

Words by: Mommy Dignen Diaries- Holly Dignen

06/28/2018

... and proven ways for the adults in their lives to help them cope.

06/28/2018

You are not alone. Help is available. If you or someone you know is struggling with thoughts of su***de, reach out to the National Su***de Prevention Lifeline '1-800-273-TALK (8255)'.

06/14/2018

June is PTSD awareness month
Post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a psychiatric disorder that can occur in people who have experienced or witnessed a traumatic event such as a natural disaster, a serious accident, a terrorist act, war/combat, r**e or other violent personal assault.

Symptoms include:

Re-Experiencing:
Flashbacks – reliving the traumatic event
Intense physical reactions to flashbacks
Nightmares
Severe distress when reminded of the trauma
Triggered by words, objects, or situations that remind the person of the event
Disruptions in everyday routine

Avoidance:
General memory problems
Hopelessness about future
Emotional numbing
Feeling detached from others
Avoiding certain places, events, or objects that remind a person of the trauma
Challenges recalling important parts of the traumatic event
Trying to avoid thinking or talking about event
Avoiding activities once enjoyed
Trouble concentrating

Hyperarousal:
Being easily startled or frightened
Engaging in self-destructive behavior
Constantly tense or on-edge
Irritability or anger
Trouble sleeping
Overwhelming guilt or shame
Hearing or seeing things that aren’t there
Treatments

Treatment consists of medications and therapy through clinical psychologists and/ or psychiatrists

Therapies:
Cognitive behavioral therapy: A talk therapy focused on modifying negative thoughts, behaviors, and emotional responses associated with psychological distress.

Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing: Psychological treatment that reduces the stress of traumatic events through eye movements.

Exposure and response prevention: A talk therapy based on exposing feared or traumatic experiences within a safe setting in order to help reduce any associated psychological distress.

An estimated 8% of Americans are suffering from PTSD at any given time, many in silence. Copy and paste to raise awareness.❤️