Twelve Oaks Center for Healing and Sexual Wellness

08/28/2025

I was recently interviewed by CNN for an article about what it really means to have “good-enough s*x.” This is a concept that I think is really important to understand, but is frequently misconstrued.

“Good-enough s*x” is fundamentally about approaching s*x with realistic expectations. It’s about recognizing that it won’t always be perfect. Expecting perfection every time heaps a lot of pressure onto us, which can contribute to performance anxiety and, ultimately, can decrease s*xual satisfaction.

In other words, good-enough s*x isn’t about settling, having s*x that’s only OK, or not having your needs met. It’s simply a mindset that helps us to be more flexible and adaptable in the bedroom.

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06/20/2025

It has been a busy week, but I want to just give a shout out to the RWC and all of the providers who attended the CRU event! I enjoyed all of the conversations with providers during the Provider Fair and the courageous communication from attendees who attended my presentation - From Womb to Tomb: Why Talking About S*xuality is Important. Lots of great discussion about the importance of talking about s*xuality in community-based mental health.

06/19/2025

06/11/2025

In all of my sessions, I can honestly say that it wasn't until today that a session was interrupted by a bear. Fortunately, he decided to continue on after making his presence known. 😀

06/09/2025

I had a wonderful time at the AASECT conference!! I feel blessed to have the opportunity to learn so much valuable information from amazing minds and connect with other incredible folx that are doing amazing work!! Community is powerful!!

06/02/2025

Happy Pride Month!!!

🌈 Happy Pride Month from IFS Institute 🌈
We honor the courage, resilience, and brilliance of LGBTQIA+ individuals within our global community. At the heart of IFS is the belief that every part of us is welcome—and every person deserves to be seen, heard, and supported.

As we celebrate, we also deepen our learning. Explore this powerful resource from the *National LGBTQIA+ Health Education Center* on providing affirming care:
🔗 [https://hubs.ly/Q03q4n3W0]

Let’s continue to build a world where everyone can lead from Self—with compassion, courage, and connection. 🧡

05/23/2025

Yes!

03/31/2025

Love!

03/14/2025

If you want to have a great s*x life, you have to be s*xually empowered. You have to feel comfortable in your own skin, understand yourself and your body, and know how to ask for what you do (and don’t) want.

However, empowerment can look different for different people. You need to figure out what being empowered means to you instead of looking at what other people are doing and saying, “I need to be like that!”

Sometimes we mislabel things that others are doing (e.g., posting “thirst traps”) as acts of empowerment when, instead, they’re really just attempts to seek validation. What they’re doing might not even feel good to them—or it might feel like a high-stakes, stressful thing.

So the question to ask yourself is this: what would feel good and empowering to you?

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03/14/2025

Love is actionable.

Via Gender Inclusive Schools

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01/23/2025

Absolutely!

Always.

01/11/2025

Just a reminder to get out there and check out the 2025 Winter Wellness Fair and the Resource Fair at the River Falls Library 10:00am-12:00pm!