Twelve Oaks Center for Healing and Sexual Wellness

04/22/2026

Can consensual choking cause brain damage? Scientists are finding evidence of neuroinflammation and altered brain connectivity linked to the practice.

04/15/2026

The Diversify Beyond the Chair Retreat was a truly enriching experience that brought together remarkable individuals who are driving positive change in so many ways. The retreat offered a unique blend of learning opportunities, networking, and creative work sessions, allowing participants to reflect on their goals and aspirations.

By focusing on business growth and personal development, we were reminded of the value of pausing to reassess our priorities and ensure they align with our core values. This transfers beyond the retreat and I invite each of you take some time to check-in with your own system about your why, and how is what you're doing in alignment with you, or not, and how might things need to transition.

I would like to thank everyone involved in organizing this event and acknowledge the invaluable support of my own support team, professional and non-professional that makes all the things I do at Twelve Oaks possible.

03/31/2026

03/16/2026

As an Internal Family Systems therapist, I greatly appreciate the complexities and safeguards that occur within our internal systems, along with courage, curiosity and compassion necessary for exploration. I dedicate considerable time to advanced training and ongoing education in various capacities. This past weekend, I participated in a deeply impactful and introspective personal experience that yielded significant growth for my personal system. As participants, we successfully established meaningful connections, explored the U-turn to Return practice from the Intimacy From the Inside Out model, and cultivated a sense of calm and presence with one another. The workshop's peaceful setting was instrumental in facilitating healing. I deeply appreciate the efforts and contributions of all of who make such enriching experiences possible.

03/08/2026

01/14/2026

Why inters*x well-being depends less on biology and more on stigma, autonomy, and connection, and what that means for families, clinicians, and policy.

01/01/2026

Each time a new year rolls around, a lot of us start making resolutions for self-improvement. Resolutions often revolve around various ways of improving physical and/or mental health, but here’s one more to consider: resolve to have better s*x!

Let research be your guide. Here are 9 scientifically-backed suggestions for enhancing your s*x life in 2026.

For other ideas, check out the two most recent episodes of the S*x and Psychology Podcast (Eps 461 and 462; link in bio), which dive into practical tips for better s*x and relationships in the coming year. Listen on s*xandpsychology.com or wherever you get your podcasts.

Here’s to a very happy, healthy, and s*xy New Year!

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11/19/2025

What a day! I spent today facilitating a full-day workshop on s*xuality across the lifespan with an amazing group of mental health professionals. Watching tables dive into vulnerable conversations, challenge assumptions, and practice new language together reminded me why this work matters so much. When we create courageous spaces to explore s*xuality as part of mental wellness, we open doors for the clients and communities we serve. Grateful to the RWC for hosting this important conversation and investing in comprehensive, inclusive care.

11/15/2025

It was such a gift to be at an advanced Intimacy From The Inside Out training this week. To be in the presence of such incredible IFS trainers, staff, and therapists was truly healing and wholesome. Many aren't pictured, but all are with me and I with them as we continue doing such wonderful work with our clients in relationships.

10/18/2025

A new study finds that limited s*x ed really limits our lives in a lot of ways. The vast majority of adults say that receiving more s*x ed would have positively impacted them, such as by supporting healthier s*xual and romantic relationships, feeling better about themselves, and having a better quality of life.

S*x education matters!

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Reference: Hille, J. J., et al. (2025). If I Only Knew Then: Single Adults’ Perceptions of the Impact of S*x Education on Their Romantic and S*xual Lives. International Journal of S*xual Health.

10/11/2025

08/28/2025

I was recently interviewed by CNN for an article about what it really means to have “good-enough s*x.” This is a concept that I think is really important to understand, but is frequently misconstrued.

“Good-enough s*x” is fundamentally about approaching s*x with realistic expectations. It’s about recognizing that it won’t always be perfect. Expecting perfection every time heaps a lot of pressure onto us, which can contribute to performance anxiety and, ultimately, can decrease s*xual satisfaction.

In other words, good-enough s*x isn’t about settling, having s*x that’s only OK, or not having your needs met. It’s simply a mindset that helps us to be more flexible and adaptable in the bedroom.

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