Alaina Brubaker, LMFT

Alaina Brubaker, LMFT Women’s Mental Health
Private Practice
Workshops & Speaking
IG: alaina_talks_therapy

I’m all about celebrating father’s who are showing up. Our world needs to see more fathers who are physically and emotio...
06/15/2025

I’m all about celebrating father’s who are showing up. Our world needs to see more fathers who are physically and emotionally present, nurturing and sharing in the mental load of parenting.

What is not helpful to empowering fathers as equal and competent parents is when we celebrate dad’s who are just doing normal parenthood stuff. Stuff like: taking and picking kids up from school, going grocery shopping with kids, going to events solo with kids and so much more. These things need to be normalized so much more than they are. And I think we’d all be better for it🤍What would you add to this list?

And truly, happy Father’s Day to the dads showing up and being present and involved parents.

“You’re such a good mom” my neighbor yelled and immediately it made me tear up. It was an ordinary winter day, several y...
05/11/2025

“You’re such a good mom” my neighbor yelled and immediately it made me tear up. It was an ordinary winter day, several years ago now. I was pulling both kids on a sled since they didn’t want to be outside and I did, I called it I didn’t realize how much I needed to hear those words until I was teary eyed, trudging down my street on a 25 degree day.

It made me think of how little validation there can be in the day to day of motherhood. How we crave someone to notice us and let us know we’re doing a good job. It’s so easy to get caught in what’s not working, how you’re failing, how other moms seem to be doing “better” than you.

There will always be room for growth: growth happens from nurture, from compassion, from recognizing your strengths. If no one has told you, you’re doing a good job, let this be your reminder. I hope YOU can give yourself that encouragement not just today but everyday💛

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“Why are you here?!” I heard that a lot in Alabama when folks found out we were from New York. Apparently they don’t see...
04/28/2025

“Why are you here?!” I heard that a lot in Alabama when folks found out we were from New York. Apparently they don’t see many of us New Yorkers. There’s nothing to do here, I heard from our jet ski guide right before we went out on a beautiful night to look for dolphins….the irony of this was not lost on me😅

It made me think about how often we overlook what we have to offer. We take for granted our spaces, our gifts, our growth. This was a reminder to me about being more mindful of what I have to offer the world and not discrediting it because it’s my norm.

If you struggle with regret, this post is for you. This might help you change how you view regrets. For more research an...
04/02/2025

If you struggle with regret, this post is for you. This might help you change how you view regrets.

For more research and evidence of why regret is important check out Daniel Pink’s book: The Power of Regret.

The classic therapist answer to this question is “it depends”😆Scroll through for a more nuanced exploration. Having a pu...
03/25/2025

The classic therapist answer to this question is “it depends”😆Scroll through for a more nuanced exploration.

Having a public social media platform for therapists is still the wild, Wild West in terms of ethics. We are navigating best practices, how to be clear with clients about boundaries without much if any guidance from graduate programs and licensing boards.

Therapists and clients, I would love to hear what you’d add in the comments 🤍

Why am I sharing this? I thought a lot about whether or not to post this. It’s more personal than what I normally share....
03/20/2025

Why am I sharing this? I thought a lot about whether or not to post this. It’s more personal than what I normally share. Here’s why I decided to share it:

~it normalizes that therapy is a journey, it often takes trial and error to find what works
~I hope it helps someone else out a voice to what they’ve felt and maybe help someone make a shift in their own therapy
~I want to highlight how to be compassionate to younger versions of myself. Regret is a teacher, it has helped me define my values. It does not need to lead to shame and criticism.

I would welcome your thoughts and feedback in the comments 🫶🫶

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It’s been a LONG time since I’ve done an introduction post. For the first time in over a year, I’ve had positive growth ...
03/18/2025

It’s been a LONG time since I’ve done an introduction post. For the first time in over a year, I’ve had positive growth on this account. The algorithm does not reward my healthy boundaries and long breaks but that’s ok. Anyways here I go, hi, hello. I’m Alaina (ah-lay-na) I’ve had my name misspelled and mispronounced for years so I try where I can to set the record straight.

I’m a licensed marriage and family therapist and so much more. I strive to share authentically here. That doesn’t mean I share everything, it means what I share comes from a genuine place and feels like the right fit for this space. Scroll through these disclaimers where I share more about what to expect, my boundaries, clients following me and more. And say hi in the comments 🤍

Therapists who are currently accepting new clients ✨These therapists have virtual practices and can see clients who live...
03/13/2025

Therapists who are currently accepting new clients ✨These therapists have virtual practices and can see clients who live anywhere in New York State.

Scroll through this post and let me know if you have any questions 🫶

A list of therapists who are currently taking new clients in Rochester, NY. I hope this helps connect future clients wit...
03/12/2025

A list of therapists who are currently taking new clients in Rochester, NY. I hope this helps connect future clients with future therapists 🫶

Keep in mind these therapists can also see folks virtually in Rochester and anywhere in New York State. Please comment if you have questions.

A collection of posts that have encouraged me, challenged me and helped me breathe deeper in a space that often creates ...
03/03/2025

A collection of posts that have encouraged me, challenged me and helped me breathe deeper in a space that often creates anxiety. Let me know which post resonates with you 🫶

*As always original creators are tagged whenever possible *

Here’s an evergreen therapy theme⬆️Maybe you’re not broken or terrible, maybe you’re a human.I have found most people fi...
02/25/2025

Here’s an evergreen therapy theme⬆️

Maybe you’re not broken or terrible, maybe you’re a human.

I have found most people find it hard to give themselves space to be human. We live in a culture that gives us countless messages of how we can be doing more, achieving more, being more efficient. And it leads to anxiety, discontent, feeling like you’re not enough.

Here’s a thought: maybe you’re not doing it wrong, maybe you’re human. Maybe the messages surrounding you are impossible standards that no one can achieve.
What do you think? Do you need to give yourself more space to be human?


We don’t talk enough about ending therapy and it’s such a valuable conversation. Therapy doesn’t have to be forever. For...
02/12/2025

We don’t talk enough about ending therapy and it’s such a valuable conversation. Therapy doesn’t have to be forever. For lots of folks it works best in episodes, for certain seasons of life. What are your signs that it’s time to wrap up therapy?

*this conversation is assuming you have had a mostly positive experience with your therapist. An unhelpful or harmful experience with your therapist is a whole different conversation *

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