RecollectedSelf

07/03/2025

it wasn’t drama.

07/02/2025

07/01/2025

One of the most beautiful things about maturing emotionally is recognizing that you don't need everyone to like you.
This doesn't mean you're inconsiderate or disrespectful - in fact, it's the opposite.
You don't need to live in a land of binaries anymore.
You get to be a whole, complicated, nuanced, multi-layered person — and so do other people.

You know that your worth doesn't lie in validation from the outside world.
You care about what your people think of you, but you don't try to control how they see you.
You are messy sometimes. And other times you take things in stride.
You are joyful, warm, and silly.
And you can be broody, temperamental, and persnickety, too.
You have soft, tender places, and sometimes you get stuck for longer than you'd like.
You go through ups, highs, lows, and meh periods.
It's fine. You're human.
You're allowed.

We begin to see that the more we accept ourselves and our own faults, the easier it becomes to connect with others who accept us and our faults, too.
In time, we also notice that the things we reject in ourselves are the things we tend to reject in others, so when someone judges you harshly, it usually has less to do with you than it may seem.

It's amazing when this starts to feel intuitive.
When you feel so grounded in your own body and values that it becomes easier to live and let live.

If this is a goal of yours, I'm starting a new cycle of my year long program in September, working with Cycle Breakers - those who are working to heal and shift old patterns, and are looking to practice new ways of relating to self & others in small, supportive community. Space is very limited.
Sign up for the waitlist at the link below:
https://theeqschool.myflodesk.com/fb4ux9zhce

07/01/2025

You cannot be a good parent if you abuse your children’s other parent.

When you abuse your children’s other parent, in any way, financially, legally, emotionally, psychologically, mentally, and/or physically, you are abusing your children.

You are robbing your children of the parent they could have if they didn’t have the stress they had to endure due to the abuse.

If you abuse your children’s other parent you abuse your children.

No ands ifs or buts about it.

06/07/2025

Reminder 🗝️ It’s your time now! Focusing on your Self is the most unselfish thing you could do for your family, community, and the world.

05/26/2025

Forgive yourself. https://bit.ly/YouWillFeelWholeAgainBook

05/26/2025

Gary Sturgis - Surviving Grief

04/22/2025

This post is not for everyone. But it is for those of you that thought you were “bad kids”.

Kids getting told, “you are doing that for attention” has never made sense to me because as humans most of our behaviors are “for attention”.

Have you ever texted your friend “what’s up” ? You most likely wanted their attention. See how messed up that sounds when you use that logic with children?

If you reframe “attention” to, “I needed my parent to be attentive to me” that makes more sense.

“You are doing that for attention”
-Puts the responsibility back onto a child that may not have the emotional tools to navigate the situation.

“In this moment I need to be attentive to my child’s pain, sadness, anger…”
-Invites the parent to understand they are being asked to ATTEND TO THEIR CHILD THAT IS STRUGGLING TO NAVIGATE THEIR OWN EMOTIONS.

Many parents never learn emotional navigation skills and then expect their children to magically have skills that they themselves never learned.

04/19/2025

Practice “both, and”.

This is a core concept of my book.
You can be both happy and sad.
Both grieving and relieved.
Both loving and frustrated.
Both joyful and struggling.

You can experience both.

02/20/2025

✨️🍄

01/15/2025

Yup. Gotta embrace your weird :)

01/14/2025

Reminder: