Dr. Psych Mom

11/28/2025

Can you open your mind to understanding another perspective on you and your behavior?

11/28/2025

A man who is messy is usually a huge turn off to women for this reason. In the honeymoon stage, too many women roommate tolerate it. Lower self esteem women even derive worth and security from being needed in this way. Then kids come and your patience goes away for it.

11/28/2025

Managing your expectations around therapy and being open to adding other things to your toolkit can greatly increase your chances of feeling better.

I see the best outcomes in clients who use therapy to understand themselves and their relationships better, and to figure out how to live their life in a fulfilled and productive way, but use other interventions to address more biological aspects of their depression.

https://www.drpsychmom.com/what-aspects-of-depression-can-be-helped-by-therapy-and-which-cant/

11/28/2025

Many guys have no idea how women internalize the idea that if you tell a man anything about his p***s that isn't positive, you will destroy his self-esteem and his p***s will never work again and IT WILL BE ALL HER FAULT!

My latest episode discusses the origin of this idea, how it sabotages open communication and connection, and how to get over this myth and move forward!

https://open.spotify.com/episode/3nuBOB3xLku8O4yA0zmtBr?si=36e247c568424b87

11/28/2025

Confidence changes people pleasers.

11/28/2025

In prior generations, spouses were not expected to be emotionally, intellectually, and sexually compatible as well as being equal partners in housework and childcare.

Men and women alike thought that many of these needs could be met outside the marriage, by friends and family.

As nuclear families become more and more isolated from extended networks of friends and family, the demands on marriage grow ever steeper.

There is also an idea that your spouse should make you a better person, and grow with you intellectually and emotionally over the course of the relationship; this is improbable for most people.

https://www.drpsychmom.com/the-future-of-marriage/

11/28/2025

The workhorse man generally has never experienced sexual compatibility, or only with a few earlier partners that he broke up with, often because of this issue.

He is stopping himself and his wife from even discovering if they are sexually compatible, because he isn’t being open and honest about his truest needs and desires.

11/28/2025

If you want to process Thanksgiving with a bunch of other midlife women... Join the midlife women's group!!

Midlife is a challenging time, which is why we have the the DPM Midlife Women’s Group! Every other Thursday at 10a ET, a group of about 15 women meets virtually for an hour. Bring coffee! We even have members from the West Coast who are powering through the early time to be a part of […]

11/27/2025

When men with a workhorse mentality get into bed with a woman, they view they role as primarily if not solely to GIVE pleasure to their partner.

They do not think much about receiving pleasure, just as they don't at work, when parenting, or anywhere else.

Their role is to provide, which is bed means that they want to give their partner an or**sm and a generally good experience.

This means everything from researching how to be a better lover to never asking for anything in bed.

Workhorse men do not really understand the idea of women wanting to please their male partners, and generally think of this as something out of p**n or that happens to particularly attractive and alpha men but would never happen to them personally.

Often, they are drawn to more avoidant or low- libido women, because these women confirm what they think of relationships.

11/27/2025

"reporting live from the scene of the crime"....

https://www.drpsychmom.com/12-things-that-people-who-grew-up-in-dysfunctional-families-dont-understand/

11/27/2025

The elephant in the room

11/27/2025

This grief can then harm the relationship between the spouses.