
09/03/2025
Let's talk about boundaries during breastfeeding. βπ
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* Setting boundaries with family and friends is okay. Be kind and communicate your wishes but it's alright to set a boundary if that is what you need. This may look like:
* "We have chosen to breastfeed only so you can't give him a bottle but I'd love for you to change a diaper and give him a sweet snuggle!"
* "We prefer to have visitors after we get home from the hospital. I hope you understand that we need that time to recover and bond."
* Setting boundaries with your baby is okay too! Let's unpack this a bit. Newborns and small infants rely on us entirely, don't they? In these early days we make a lot of sacrifices of our own desires to meet the needs of these little ones. And that will continue. BUT, when your baby is older, breastfeeding is the first place you can begin to set boundaries. Some examples may be:
* to my 1 year old, "mommy needs to go potty and then you can have milkies"
* to my 8 month old, "Do not bite. That hurts me." and then put them down for a moment before resuming to feed if needed.
* to my 2 year old, "we can have milkies for 2 songs and then it's bedtime."
and the big one.....
* to my child of whatever age "Please do not twiddle. I do not like it."
If you older baby is doing something that you do not want them to do then you can tell them to stop. They may not be happy about it but that is okay. Children are not always happy with their parents and we all need to settle into that a little bit. You can do it and if you need help with a problem that has arisen, reach out and make an appointment!