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02/27/2024

Do you even know how you feel?
We often bury ourselves in our addictions to the point of unrecognizable emotions of happiness or sadness. Often we cover up the normalcy of daily life that others take for granted. Do you know what you even like to do? What kinds of foods do you enjoy? What kinds of movies do you really like to watch? We have buried our own pain in addiction for so long, pretending to be “normal people “ that when we stop to enjoy life we don’t know how to live. This is the deafening silence that addicts can’t escape and don’t know what to do with. Meetings often help fill that space and keep people from doing things that they shouldn’t like using again but people who have other addictions often find it challenging to fill that void. They just find the awkward silence too much to bear and frequently fill that void with food or something that is much like an addiction that is easier to manage. No one said that living was not a challenge or not easy when you are trying to accomplish life after working through addictions. The key to success is planning for the emptiness. Identification of your emotions and finding the things that make you happy. It’s ending the cycle of addiction with beginning a life. Allowing yourself to live. Making yourself happy and allowing yourself to choose what you want to do. After all, you have deprived yourself of these choices for years. Why not decide now what it is that you really really want in your life and then do it. Live. 💕

08/14/2023

Sometimes you just have to get out and do something even if it’s alone. We so often let social pressure dictate what we should and shouldn’t do so we isolate ourselves from others and never experience the things that we could if we had just taken that first step towards doing something alone. There are dangers, just like there are in nature to venturing out alone. But if we take the time to look for the best possible solutions to engaging with others such as painting classes or other craft classes and activities that are more family friendly we eliminate many distractions that often lead to more negative experiences related with drugs or alcohol. If we are to be successful with sobriety and addiction then we need to focus on improving ourselves in terms of the quality of life experiences that we choose to experience. If we don’t look for new opportunities we won’t find them and if we don’t try new opportunities we won’t experience them. Something that many people discover whenever they let go of their past and addiction issues is that they don’t know “who” they are. They identified themselves through their addictions and now they have this empty hole that makes them think that they’re nothing. This is not true. The addition drowned out the best parts of them, and they just forgot who they really were. Now addiction has changed them. So it is time for exploration. It is time to discover what we had. What we lost. And what is left. Venture out. Find yourself and fill that space with possibilities that you can be the best possible person going forward. Don’t be afraid to venture outside, you have been through worse. Put your boots on and find yourself.

08/09/2023

Today is a good day. I will keep a positive outlook on my days and make every effort to not get lost in the small unimportant things that will not matter in 5 minutes, 5 hours or 5 days.
Reading my local Facebook post about what’s happening in the area I see yet another person was hit by a train. That made two pedestrians and train incidents in two weeks and a su***de last week. All of these deaths were people who were killed way before they got a chance to live their lives.
I have no regrets about living today. I have made sunshine a priority and happiness a goal. I’ve put myself and my family first more times than ever before and now I’m feeling grateful that I have things to look forward to, and that I want more of. We all can get lost in the little things so easily that we lose perspective on what really matters until what matters is no longer even an option available to us, like these people whose lives were extinguished without notice.
Was it the little things that were lost in their minds clouding their judgement that created the situation that led to their demise? Or was it just the mundane uneasiness of life’s struggles that made them feel so isolated? We allow our problems and limitations to become so much bigger than what they are or should be. Shame and guilt generally sit and stew until we can no longer live with the consequences of our own actions and failures. But often they are never as bad as we escalate them into. They become the monsters that we create under the bed. We become so fearful of our wrongdoing that we let it take over our lives and destroy us instead of just coming clean about our mistakes and being honest.
It’s a lot easier to let it go. Face the consequences of your actions and live a life free of all of the guilt. It’s called honesty. Some people don’t know how to be honest. People who struggle with being honest have issues with being assertive or hurting others feelings at times. People with co-dependency issues have problems with disagreements or telling others no. But there are others who just can’t be honest about anything. It genuinely takes effort to be honest and live an authentic life. But once you experience that life, you certainly cannot go back to being disingenuous and false. It’s a choice and a way of living for yourself to make your soul shine. You are living your best life authentically and doing that feels amazing. So if you wake up today be grateful and make your best effort at being your best self. Give the world an amazing life and you will get one back. You are the creator of all things beautiful in your life. Be and do amazing.

05/21/2023

Today I found out that an old acquaintance passed away which surprised me. He was really a good man and an amazingly positive person who would say hello to everyone and take time to send you notes on Facebook if he hadn’t heard from you. His wife and I went way back. She’s the friend that you didn’t see for 10 years and picked right back up where you left off because you were that in tune. You are spiritually connected and have a deep bond that leaving Earth won’t even break. You just get each other. Distance is not important. So this death will affect her deeply. My heart hurts for her. Times like this remind us unfortunately that we are not infinite either. It makes us look at the world from a selfish perspective and realize that we often are on the shorter side of life when we have lived through many years just going through the motions just trying to get through it.
It has taken so many people so long to realize that they want to live and be positive forces in the world that they are secretly fearful that they have lost the best to the traumas that they had struggled so hard to overcome to become the person they are today. To those of you who are feeling that way I say to you that life is a journey. It is a marathon not a sprint and it really would not have been possible without the experiences that you had, the growth that occurred and the people that were there. It all makes you who you are today. You can’t erase any of it. You are a culmination of good and not so good things all rolled into one person. But the beauty of this is that you made it. And you became the best person that these experiences melded into and are standing stronger today as a result. There is no one that has a perfect life, makes all great decisions or goes without failing. All you can hope for each day is to do your best and try to do no harm. Namaste 🙏

02/26/2023

The Match Game
We who have been played by people beginning with our families of origin understand that people don’t always mean what they say. Unfortunately, we as humans are often people who have been taught to believe what we are hearing from people who we have been connected to. It’s much harder to believe otherwise because we would have to think that parents are being dishonest and people who we care about just aren’t being trustworthy enough to look us in the eyes and say what is really happening. We really WANT to believe what we are hearing.
But the truth of the matter is that people who have deeper problems than we might ever realize use lying to deflect from their problems and feelings. This has become their coping mechanism and they may in fact be incapable of being honest, which has nothing to do with you, even if it affects you so negatively. There are always consequences when someone looks into your eyes and deliberately lies. You lose trust in them, and it puts into question everything that they have ever said to you previously. The question is how and when can you believe them? Does their body language match their words? Is it sincere and heartfelt or rehearsed? If it’s not sincere, are they capable of honesty or sincerity? If not, do they really fit into your life?
Although these are hard questions people whose words don’t match their actions have a lot of internal incongruities that they need answered. These are their own personal issues and are often more deeply rooted problems than they are willing to admit. If they won’t admit to lying and try honesty they are not going to move forward or grow and this will be the way your relationship will always be. You will always find that you’re feeling bad about yourself because the communication is not matching with what you’re feeling. You deserve better. You deserve honesty from people in your life.
Open honest conversations with people who are willing to give you their time and consideration is important for healthy relationships. If you’re looking for a meaningful connection play the match game. Match their words with their actions. Know that they actually mean what they say and they are going to be able to be relied on for their communication.

02/13/2023

There’s got to be a little darkness for you to see the stars 🌟

02/10/2023

Remember Who You Are
There are days. Sometimes many in a row that I forget who I really am. I let life, others and the weight of my problems throw me off of my game. I falter and lose myself wondering why I am feeling so confused about the state of my current affairs. I allowed these things to cloud my inner compass, and somehow change my trajectory from where my stated purpose had been in the first place. Not living in the present can do that. When the fog lifts we come to find we are much farther from our charted course than we even dreamed possible. The good news is that we survived the storm. Weathered and hopefully wiser we have to admit to ourselves that repeating mistakes has become less frequent, coping tools to weather these storms has become more plentiful and supportive people who we have to help us weather them are more important and customary. We have built the life that we so desperately sought to achieve. We have become the person we have so desperately fought to become. Remember who you are. You did this, and you deserve the accolades. Job well done.

02/03/2023

Today is an incredible day. Make it so.

02/02/2023

GRACE DOES NOT ALWAYS COME EASY OR WILLINGLY
When the Universe hands you a hard no. What now? You thought you had it all figured out. You thought for once yesterday’s course and your direction forward was so secure. You had a plan and you just knew, like no other time in your life that this was meant to be your destiny, until it wasn’t…that person who you gave your heart to so freely, decided that they didn’t love you. In fact they love someone else and you are no longer even a blip in their universe. That job that you dedicated yourself to for years giving your all at times missing family functions to be the best employee and shine the brightest just served you a steaming pile of “Sorry, this just wasn’t your time. Maybe next time you will be ready for that promotion.”And that home that you have been dreaming about…you know the one, yep, it just got sold in a bidding war but not to you love.
It’s these things, these times and people that rock us to our very core that make us wonder if we’re capable of withstanding life’s challenges and yes if we are able to do so with GRACE. I know there are plenty of reasons to lay there and quit, but then it’s just you and the thousands of thoughts that you can’t escape while you laying there quietly questioning the fact that you are actually quitting. Is that who you really are?!? Will you ever really get a reason of why you just got B*tch slapped by the Universe? NO. The fact is life is challenging. And things that don’t come to us or don’t stay with us aren’t meant to be with us forever or meant for us no matter how bad we want them. They just aren’t something that the universe has penciled into our life plan. Accepting it is up to us. The harder that we fight the things that aren’t meant to be in our lives the darker and more negative we become. You are struggling so hard to hold onto something that is essentially negatively polarizing and repelling you. The tighter that you hold the more it becomes repelling. You will NEVER grasp that which you are not destined to become or have. ACCEPTANCE. GRACE. PRAYING. These are the best ways to combat the things that come along uproot your entire life and make you question your existence. There is no other way. You can and will continue because you have the strength and courage to do so. The universe often whispers to you to tell you that things are coming to prepare you. What’s the Universe saying to YOU?

08/11/2022

Living up to what expectations you have set for yourself can be possible when you allow yourself to be human and accept your past mistakes while cutting yourself the slack that you so graciously offer to others, but never extend to yourself. Give yourself a break. You deserve everything that you have asked for in this lifetime. It doesn’t have to be difficult. It doesn’t have to be a life of constant struggle. In fact I have learned if you are constantly swimming upstream, you are in the wrong stream. Life simply was not made to be that difficult. We are not made to struggle for everything that we ask for. It’s those things that are really right for us that come to us as they should and we know, deep in our soul that they came because they were meant to be part of our path. So if you’re stressed and struggling with something, stop and ask yourself if this is something that fits your life? Is it something that you really want? Or is it something that you are forcing into your life to make it fit for someone else, or something else? It may not be for you and that’s why you’re struggling. Nothing that you want should be that hard. Period. Test this with anything. Let me know how it pans out.

06/15/2022

People try to do everything to make themselves happy. We have seen the extreme pursuit of happiness fail miserably by people seeking happiness from external sources. People look to other people, religion, s*x, drugs, food, shopping and work to name a few areas that people can externally use for their identification and eventual destruction and downfall. In reality we are born with everything we need for survival, and happiness. As infants and young children we are told, taught and shown that WE MUST find life satisfaction from these other things and people. What they are saying is that we aren’t good enough to be happy without “these” other things. We are simply NOT ENOUGH whether they speak the words or not. BUT the truth is that THEY are the ones who feel that, and are projecting that onto us/you. They can’t live, or do or be without their stuff. You, you were born perfect. You were just not given the chance or understanding that you never needed those external things to be anyone, or happy at all. You are able to be happy and shine from the inside and no one else can determine whether or not you will be happy. Not the weather, not your partner and certainly not the people who insisted you had to look outside yourself to be happy. That’s their version, this is yours.

03/21/2022

Sunshine Therapy
Whether you realize it or not we all get a tad bit of Seasonal Affect Disorder. That endless amount of gray that seems to cover the skies in the winter may appear harmless, and you may feel unaffected….until just one day of sunshine 🌞. Kapow 💥Regardless of what the temperature is, your mood changes. You want to feel FANTASTIC. Sunshine ☀️ is naturally healing. So it only makes sense when we are feeling at our lowest that we use what comes “naturally” and free by the way. (Most of the time). Look out the window, or open up those drapes, go for a drive, head out to a park, book a vacation, sit by the lake or ocean and do some healing. The sunshine 🌞 and nature does it all by itself. That’s the beauty of nature. The old saying take time to smell the roses 🌹 is about getting out and doing these things. Enjoying time away from all the life stressors and things that are trying and troubling you. Many times when my heart was heavy and I was searching for an answer, a good sit out in nature brought the answer to me. You need quiet, and calming energy to be able to manage difficult decisions. Nature provides that serenity. So today if you see the sun shining take full advantage of her majestic healing ability on your soul. Slap on some Sun screen, a pair of shades and do some self healing magic. Have an incredible day!!

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