04/08/2026
I don't hit all 10 every day. Some days are way harder than others and chaos just happens. However I do notice a difference when I actively try.
Survival mode for most moms is when your nervous system believes you are under constant threat, so it shifts out of calm, connected functioning and into protection modeāfocused on getting through, not feeling grounded.
Most of the times this means your system needs to shut down operations that don't support bare minimum survival (food, sleep). Operations such as clear thinking, decision making, energy reserves, motivation, all emotions and more. If it's not needed to survive, it often doesn't stay.
When I'm in this space I keep things as simple as possible to give the systems tat are shut off less pressure and support my nervous system healing and regulating.
Keeping meals, clothes, routines on repeat supports you in reducing frustration with decisions being hard and your brain feeling foggy. You know what you're eating, wearing and decisions are reduced.
Belly breathing, 2minute breaks, bed time routines, this supports safety for your nervous system and allows the opportunity for healing to take place.
What are some of the behaviors that support you while you're in survival? ā¤ļø
If Survival mode leads to rage, DM me RESET for the link to The Mom Rage Reset Toolkit a guide to helping your nervous system out of rage and into calm.
