Joe Kort

01/15/2026

Access to contraception and reproductive health care is becoming more uncertain across the U.S., and at the same time, more individuals and couples are delaying or avoiding pregnancy. That makes it more important than ever to understand today’s contraceptive options and how they may impact not only fertility and family planning, but also overall s*xual health.

Join us for an evidence-informed webinar exploring both hormonal and non-hormonal birth control methods, how they work, and what many people are not told enough about: the potential s*xual side effects. Changes in desire, arousal, and s*xual functioning are common, often overlooked, and sometimes mistakenly attributed to stress, anxiety, or relationship issues.

This webinar is open to therapists, educators, and the general public, with time for live Q&A throughout.

If you are supporting clients, navigating birth control choices personally, or simply wanting a clearer understanding of the current contraceptive landscape, this session is for you.

Register today at the link in my bio and come prepared with your questions.

01/15/2026

I have been thinking a lot lately about how much our definition of “vanilla” has changed. Things that used to be considered edgy or taboo are now talked about like they are basic, normal, and even expected. It is interesting to watch how quickly s//xual culture is shifting, and how easily people can start to feel like they are supposed to keep up.

But your s//x life is not meant to follow a trend. It is meant to reflect who you are, what you enjoy, and what actually feels right in your body and your relationship. It evolves over time and on your time, not someone else’s.

I am curious, what is something you remember being considered “not vanilla” years ago that now feels completely mainstream?

01/13/2026

Who Made ‘Penetration’ King? Patriarchy, Religion, and Bill Clinton

Read my latest article to find out why

Therapists and society need to expand their definitions of s*x, stop treating pe*******on as the goal, and affirm non-penetrative intimacy as complete s*xual expression.

01/07/2026

If you think being gay, le***an, or bi is just about what someone does, you are missing the bigger picture. Orientation is about who we are, not just behavior. Reducing people to their actions just keeps them in the closet and fuels shame. Let’s remember that identity is not defined by one behavior. It is who you are at your core.

01/06/2026

What is a mixed orientation marriage, and how is it different from a lavender marriage?

A mixed orientation marriage often means the truth about s*xual orientation comes out later in the relationship. A lavender marriage is understood from the beginning.

Samantha Wynn Greenstone and Jacob Hoff have helped put a face to lavender marriages, where he is openly gay and she knew going into the marriage.

The difference matters, because finding out later can feel emotionally brutal.

Full video on YouTube. Link in bio.

01/06/2026

There is something mysterious about a mother’s purse. It is like a private little universe you only enter when she asks you to, usually with some urgency, and you are digging through it like you are trying not to mess up something sacred.

My mom’s purse was exactly like her. Glamorous, intentional, and somehow always heavier than it looked. It held the practical stuff, the just in case stuff, and little surprises that made me laugh. But it also held quiet clues about who she was, the parts of her you do not fully notice until you miss her.

Going through it now feels like opening a time capsule. One small item at a time, I keep finding her.

01/05/2026

In my recent podcast conversation with Kali Scales, we talked about the push for “LGB without the T” and separating the community into smaller, more “acceptable” groups. Kali made an important point. This is often a strategy to divide and weaken LGBTQ people by isolating trans and nonbinary communities. History shows us that when we fracture, we become an easier target. When we stay united, we stay stronger. We do not get liberated by leaving people behind.

Kali Scales is running for Michigan State Representative, District 5, and her campaign is rooted in dignity, safety, and real representation.

Support Kali’s campaign: https://votekaliscales.com/
Listen to the full episode: https://joekort.com/kali-scales-candidate/
Links in bio.

01/05/2026

Outercourse is a valid and intentional way to be s//xual. People choose it for many reasons, including medical conditions, trauma and anxiety, identity and orientation, and personal preference. If pe*******on is not possible or not preferred, that does not mean intimacy is off the table. A healthy s//x life is not defined by one act. It is defined by consent, connection, and what feels good for you. Save this post and share it with someone who needs the reminder.

01/01/2026

Happy New Year! A new year brings space for reflection, healing, and growth. May this year offer moments of clarity, connection, and self-compassion.

12/31/2025

Telehealth therapy offers the same depth and support as in-person sessions while giving you the comfort and flexibility of meeting from your own space. For many clients it makes therapy more accessible and easier to maintain. If telehealth feels like the right fit for you, I offer virtual sessions for individuals and couples. Contact our front office to schedule.

12/30/2025

Ever wonder why those childhood bullies or mean girls still bother you decades later? It's because those early experiences leave a deep imprint. They stick with us, just like our first address or childhood phone number. And if you ever run into those bullies again and they act like it never mattered, just remember: your feelings are valid, and those formative memories are real.

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12/30/2025

Mixed orientation marriages are not simple. These are often two people who truly love each other, built a life together, and then realize something later that changes everything.

This is why so many couples feel stuck, and why a lot of therapists struggle with bias.

Full video now on YouTube. Link in bio.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E7iGE063i2Q