Emerging Hope Therapy, LLC

10/30/2025

Stop gaslighting yourself.

Just because your trauma doesn’t look like someone else’s doesn’t mean it didn’t hurt you.

Over the years working with trauma, I’ve heard this all the time:
“It wasn’t that bad.”
“Other people had it worse.”
“I shouldn’t still be upset about this.”

That’s what we call self-gaslighting. Minimizing your own pain because it doesn’t feel “big enough” to count.

But trauma isn’t measured by how dramatic it looked on the outside.
It’s measured by how deeply it impacted you inside.

Maybe you grew up in a “good home” but always felt unseen.
Maybe you were told to “just move on.”
Maybe you’ve convinced yourself that because it wasn’t abuse “on paper,” it doesn’t deserve healing.

But here’s the truth: your body keeps score even when your mind tries to downplay the game.
Emotional neglect, manipulation, constant criticism, walking on eggshells…those experiences leave marks. Even if no one else saw them.

You don’t have to compare your trauma to anyone else’s to deserve healing.

You don’t have to prove how strong you are by pretending it didn’t affect you.

I help clients untangle that quiet voice that says “it wasn’t that bad.” Because every story deserves to be heard. Every wound deserves care.

Healing doesn’t require your pain to be “the worst.”
It just requires your pain to be real.

💛 You matter. Your experience matters. And your healing journey matters.

10/29/2025

As we come to the end of DV Awareness month, I want to shine a light on something often overlooked and dismissed. DV didn’t always end when the divorce papers are signed, especially if there are children involved. Encourage those in your local family court system to educate themselves on post-separation abuse a the signs to look for.

10/19/2025

Parents, if this sounds familiar, there is help available.

Executive dysfunction isn’t laziness, it’s overwhelm. And emotional dysregulation isn’t being “too sensitive”, it’s their nervous system doing its best to protect them.

These are not character flaws. Executive dysfunction and emotional dysregulation are common in people with ADHD, trauma history, anxiety, neurodiversity, or chronic stress. The brain can feel overloaded, and that impacts everything from motivation and memory to emotional control and organization.

Therapy can help. We focus on:
🔹 Building nervous system regulation tools
🔹 Learning practical routines an executive functioning strategies
🔹 Understanding emotional triggers
🔹 Improving focus and task initiation
🔹 Reducing shame and increasing confidence
🔹 Creating systems that actually work for real life

If this sounds like your child, or even you, you’re not alone.

You don’t have to fight your brain. You can learn to work with it. 💛

10/11/2025

💜 October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month 💜

When most people hear the words domestic violence, they think of physical harm such as bruises, broken bones, or visible scars. But abuse often runs much deeper, hidden behind closed doors and invisible wounds.

Domestic violence is not just physical.
It can take many forms, including:

💔 Emotional abuse – constant criticism, humiliation, or gaslighting that makes you question your worth or sanity.

💔 Verbal abuse – yelling, name calling, or threats meant to intimidate and control.

💔 Psychological abuse – manipulation, isolation from friends or family, or making you feel responsible for the abuser’s behavior.

💔 Financial abuse – controlling access to money, sabotaging employment, or forcing financial dependence.

💔 Digital abuse – monitoring your phone, tracking your location, or demanding passwords and social media access.

Red flags to look out for:

🚩 They make you feel like you can’t do anything right.

🚩 You constantly walk on eggshells to avoid “setting them off.”

🚩 They control where you go, who you talk to, or how you spend money.

🚩 You feel isolated, drained, or scared, even if they’ve never laid a hand on you.

Abuse thrives in silence.

💜 If this post speaks to you or someone you know, please know you are not alone. Healing is possible, and help is available.

☎️ (479) 518-3135
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10/03/2025

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09/26/2025

Sometimes choosing peace means letting go of people, habits, or environments that bring negativity into your life. It’s not always easy and yes, some may see you as “the villain” for setting boundaries or walking away. But the truth is, your peace is priceless.

Protecting your energy doesn’t make you selfish. It makes you healthy. It makes you whole.

☮️ Surround yourself with people who bring light, not chaos.
☮️ Choose peace over drama.
☮️ Choose healing over hurt.

At the end of the day, your peace is worth more than their opinion. 💙

09/25/2025

09/19/2025

Parenting a child with Pathological Demand Avoidance can feel overwhelming, but small shifts can make daily life more manageable.

Strategies that can help:
• Change your wording: Instead of “You need to put on your shoes,” try, “I wonder if these shoes would feel comfy today?”

• Offer choices: “Do you want to brush your teeth before or after we read a story?”

• Pick your battles: Save energy for what truly matters. Not every hill is worth climbing.

These approaches lower anxiety, reduce meltdowns, and help your child feel safer and more in control.

PARENTS: What strategies have worked for you when your child resists demands?

09/18/2025

Consistency beats intensity every time.
You don’t have to do everything perfectly—showing up in small, steady ways builds more lasting change than a single big effort.

In therapy, healing doesn’t come from one “aha moment.” It’s built in the little steps repeated over time: showing up, practicing tools, and giving yourself grace on the harder days.

Reminder: Progress is found in the process, not perfection.

09/17/2025

Mindset matters.
The way we think shapes the way we feel, and the way we feel influences the way we act. Shifting from “I have to” → “I get to” can make even difficult tasks feel more manageable.

Try this today: Catch one negative thought and reframe it into a more balanced one. Small shifts add up to big changes in resilience and peace of mind.

What’s one mindset shift that has helped you recently?