Jennifer Olden

10/17/2025

https://www.theeftcafe.com/eft-questions

In This Free Training, You’ll Learn How To: Safely navigate anger so it becomes a doorway to vulnerability Interrupt a shame spiral and reconnect with your client Help a withdrawer risk sharing emotions with clear, compassionate steps Claim your free spot now.

10/24/2024

Hello therapist friends,

Today we open our doors to the EFT Cafe Membership Program!
Check out this link for details: https://www.theeftcafe.com/inside

Here are some of our most popular YouTube videos about couples therapy:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JcWfzZ0Ul7s&t=2s If you are struggling with a partner who won't (or can't) stop blaming their partner for all the problems in the relationship.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=15wQxr-yYTM If you have a client who dreads therapy.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-gERQIqtMFU&t=13s If you have a client who used to blame their partner for the problems, but now feels hopeless and burnt out.

All these videos are short! You can splice them into your day between sessions. You can get a sense of Kathryn and me and the helpfulness of the EFT Cafe. Our doors to the EFT Cafe close on November 5th. Check it out here: https://www.theeftcafe.com/inside

Experts Jennifer Olden and Kathryn Rheem bring EFT to life with their raw, real, and authentic interactions about the EFT model in this online EFT membership program.

02/08/2023

How to work with shame in couples therapy:

Registration for the EFT Cafe opens February 14!http://www.theeftcafe.comKathryn Rheem and Jennifer Olden discuss the importance of reframing shame as overwh...

05/19/2019

New life begins in the dark - https://mailchi.mp/jenniferolden/new-life

09/11/2018

Therapists: I'm holding another EFT Cafe webinar beginning October 3rd with the great Dr. Kathryn Rheem. We will talk about how the coping skill of shutting down/compartmentalizing is adaptive in certain situations but in a love relationship becomes obsolete. We'll discuss how love requires we share our hearts, baggage and all, or it will get shared for us. It's the same pipes. You can't hide your trauma, your insecurity, your shame and save only the love for your partner. It all comes out whether you want it to or not. We will talk about how to help our clients with the basic law of love. We will talk about what it means to help your client carry their pain, so they can send a clear attachment message to their partner. We will discuss how primary emotion has a bonding adhesive so in order to help our clients we have to access the fear and sadness. Kathryn's work is riveting and nearly everything we talk about will also be demonstrated. Go here:

06/12/2018

I'm teaching EFT online again, along with Dr. Kathryn Rheem! Check out our website. www.theeftcafe.com

04/06/2018

For my fellow EFT therapists:

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04/06/2018

Hey there,

Are you an EFT therapist? This online class will accelerate your skills. It's emphasis is on Stage 2! Check it out!

Washington Baltimore Center for EFT trains mental health professionals in Emotionally Focused Therapy including Externships, Core Skills, and consultations.

02/21/2018

Stage 2 of EFT is when the magic happens. It's when the relationship becomes a salve for a traumatic childhood and identity shifts from shame-based to confident and engaged. It's when intimacy develops. Friends, it's why I love EFT. In "Stage 2 Video Club with Dr. Kathryn Rheem" you are going to learn in crystal clear detail exactly how to help create secure attachment. This, right here, is why I'm in the business.

"I don’t know if I’ve ever really helped a couple complete Stage 2." Anonymous EFT therapist These words have been shared with me over and over again by dozens of EFT therapists. Often there is a sense of shame and a perception of failure. The therapist is able to de-escalate the coup...

12/09/2017

Five self-care tips from an expert therapist.

1) Eat chocolate in bed, late at night and alone. Make sure you get crumbs on the sheets so you can feel them in the middle of the night. Leave the wrapper on your bedside. Whatever you do make sure to harass yourself relentlessly for the indulgence.

2) Pick a fight with your spouse. Start by saying, “Do you love me?” When he answers affirmatively then ask him to say the sentence: “I love you.” When he complies, point out the flat tone. Insist he say it with feeling. If he shudders a bit, get really REALLY angry. Do this out of the blue. Make sure above all else that he doesn’t see it coming. Deny any role in the fight.

3) Watch trash TV. Make sure whatever moments of self-care you’ve managed to carve out you squander on meaningless television. Binge watch into the middle of night because you have to know what happens to Neil Caffrey. You must know. Wake up exhausted and with a short fuse the next day. Blame all, including self.

4) Spend money you don’t have. Online shop late at night and pay extra for overnight shipping. You need a new couch, a fancy handbag, fake diamond earring and decide f***y packs are coming back and you need one, just in case. Tell yourself with every click to purchase, “I deserve this.” Remind yourself it’s a heroic act.

5) Be a permissive parent. High on nurturing, low on expectations. Feed them sugar and let them watch TV, periodically threaten them with a consequence but don’t follow through. When chaos ensues hide in your room for as long as it takes for the mayhem die down.

Actually, I have no advice; only support. You are worthy of love no matter how catastrophic your recent decisions. You have Buddha nature whether you prioritized immediate gratification over long term satisfaction and meaning. You are forgiven for all mistakes. You are enough. You are not alone. That’s really my message. I’m giving up on advice. I hope you are feeling connected and peaceful.

Also, if you are a therapist please check out my online class on Emotionally Focused Therapy beginning January 19th. One of my favorite parts of EFT is that it's not advice based. It's about deepening emotion, tapping into the bond between a couple and facilitating connection. It's awesome. It's the best. It's the only advice I'll give: Take the EFTLab. www.theeftlab.com

06/18/2016

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/cuddling-program-brings-peace-to-babies-withdrawing-from-opioids_us_57585479e4b0e39a28ac309b?

One volunteer described it as a "humbling experience."