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08/12/2018

A colleague in this ministry is hosting an Emotional Abuse Recovery Summit next month. It looks amazing. You can find the details below. Please feel free to share this information with others who may benefit from this!
https://www.lifestorylaboratory.com/p/registration-page-2bb77744-b2da-4947-b553-19605d8a9137

We have curated over 45 of the most powerful speakers talking about emotional abuse, resilience, recovery and rebuilding a beautiful life in spite of tough relationships.

08/10/2018

A guest post from an amazing friend and colleague in this ministry.

http://giveherwings.com/dear-anxious-friend-a-post-by-megan-cox/ -654

When I first went for therapy a few years ago, I was diagnosed with Major Depression, General Anxiety Disorder and PTSD. Whew! That was rough. And I am open . . . people know my story and I am at p…

08/07/2018

http://www.hurtbylove.com/the-messages-your-abuser-is-sending/

Every day, through our words and actions, we send messages to those around us. And if I may be so bold, I think that the messages we send to those with whom we come into contact may be narrowed down to two. Either "You matter" or "You don't matter."

08/01/2018

Don't rationalize his behavior. The "sometimes" abuser is still an abuser.

07/27/2018

Many victims tell me things like: "He doesn't think right," or "He always misconstrues what I say," or "I think he's really confused." They want to believe that their abuser is either innocent or ignorant.

But abusers are rarely innocent or ignorant. They know exactly what they are doing. Understanding that changes everything.

07/18/2018

Long-term abuse almost always affects victims' physical health.

What about yours?

07/11/2018

In an abusive relationship, remember one thing: it's not your job to fix it!

07/06/2018

Why an abuse victim doesn't leave (in six words).

http://www.hurtbylove.com/why-the-abuse-victim-doesnt-leave-in-six-words/

If things are so terrible, then why doesn't she leave? The shortest possible answer: She believes tomorrow will be different.

07/04/2018

Pastor Jeff Crippen, formerly with "A Cry for Justice," has begun a new blog called Light for Dark Times. He is a powerful, knowledgeable advocate for abuse victims, the author of "A Cry For Justice," and "Unholy Charade," and someone I am proud to call a colleague in this battle. Today he posted a piece about what the word "reviler" means, which is essentially the term for "verbal abuser." See - and share -the truth he offers here. https://lightfordarktimes.com/2018/07/04/we-must-understand-what-reviling-is-and-what-the-reviler-looks-like/

Luk 6:22 “Blessed are you when people hate you and when they exclude you and revile you and spurn your name as evil, on account of the Son of Man! 1Co 5:11 But now I am writing to you not to …

06/30/2018

Confusion is the result of either a lack of information or a twisting of the truth.

How does your abuser keep you in confusion?

And what do you need to do to find clarity?

06/29/2018

Many people excuse abusers' behaviors as due to either ignorance or woundedness. But abusers are strategic. They know what they're doing.

06/29/2018

Abusers are liars. They will say anything to hook you in and get you doubting your reality.

06/26/2018

In this hard journey of healing, know that some people will never "get it," and it's not your job to convince them of anything.

06/19/2018

"… the evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth what is evil; for his mouth speaks from that which fills his heart."

05/26/2018

As I begin creating this page, I thought I should post an introductory article to get things rolling: Here I offer "The Power of Words."

http://www.hurtbylove.com/the-power-of-words/

In the realm of abuse, our enemies also know how to use subtle and not-so-subtle messages to mislead us, to sow doubt about who we are and what is true.

05/24/2018

I'm in the process of creating this page, so please be patient. In the meantime, please visit my website for articles and information regarding my books regarding and personal coaching. Or feel free to message me here or through the website if I can answer questions or direct you to appropriate resources. I'm here to help. Tell a friend!