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I empower individuals to transform chaos to clarity & experience true satisfaction in their L.I.F.E. https://www.shielalittle.com/stop-it-now-book L.E.M.O.N.S.

My book 'STOP IT NOW' offers powerful tools and empower you to conquer self-doubt and live your best life. Welcome to Shaping Solutions, the home of emotional strategy, mindset transformation, and practical success. Founded by Dr. Shiela Little, LMSW: Business Psychologist, Emotional Strategist, and Creator of the STOP IT NOW® Methodology, our mission is simple:
To help you stop self-sabotage, align emotionally, and shape the life, love, and legacy you deserve. At Shaping Solutions, we believe your emotions are data, not defects. Your patterns are protective, not permanent. And your story, no matter how complex, can be rewritten when you have the right frameworks, community, and strategy. We blend psychology, coaching, neuroscience, and emotional intelligence to help individuals, professionals, and organizations move from reactive living to intentional thriving. Through our proprietary frameworks, certified programs, and immersive experiences, we help you reconnect with your identity, strengthen your focus, and lead with emotional clarity. Our Core Programs and Frameworks

Project L.I.F.E.:
L.I.F.E. stands for Love of Self, Interactions, Focus, and Emotions. This transformational membership and group coaching experience is designed to help you live in alignment, with confidence, and be emotionally intelligent. Members receive access to L.I.F.E. Lessons, journaling prompts, live sessions, coaching labs, and challenges that bridge science and soul. SHAPE Your L.I.F.E. Thought Partnership Program:
Our one-to-one Thought Partnership experience for high-performing professionals and visionaries who want a strategic ally, not just a coach. This is co-creation at its finest. We collaborate deeply to shape your vision, structure your business, strengthen your mindset, and align your emotional well-being with your goals. STOP IT NOW® Framework:
A registered and trademarked model that breaks self-sabotaging cycles through eight steps:
Stories, Triggers, Obstacles, Patterns, IT Factor, Non-Negotiables, Opportunity Cost, and Win/When. It’s where mindset meets method, helping you build awareness, emotional regulation, and sustainable change. to L.E.M.O.N.A.D.E.™:
Based on Dr. Shiela’s doctoral research in Emotional Intelligence, this evidence-based program helps women entrepreneurs transform frustration and procrastination into clarity, action, and achievement. It’s both a personal growth journey and a professional performance accelerator. Project HOPE: LIFE Coaching Certification (Train-the-Trainer) Program
Funded through community partnerships, this initiative equips professionals and community leaders with tools in trauma-informed care, emotional regulation, and prevention strategies to help others thrive. Our Approach

We don’t believe in “quick fixes.”
We believe in frameworks that last. Our approach blends emotional intelligence, neuroscience, and strategic action so you can lead with both your heart and your head. Whether you’re a leader, entrepreneur, or everyday person ready to rise, Shaping Solutions meets you at the intersection of who you are and who you’re becoming. Our Products and Tools

• Digital Journals & Workbooks (The Weight We Carry, LIFE Lessons, and more)
• Self-paced courses and interactive experiences
• Group and one-on-one coaching programs
• Train-the-trainer certifications
• Online community and memberships
• Corporate workshops and emotional intelligence trainings

Our Promise

We are not here to fix you. We’re here to help you see you. Through every course, conversation, and coaching moment, we help you build a stronger relationship with your emotions, your energy, and your evolution. Connect With Us:

Website: https://shapingsolutions.org
Facebook: https://facebook.com/iamshapingsolutions
Instagram: https://instagram.com/iamshapingsolutions
YouTube: https://youtube.com/
Email: support@shapingsolutions.org

Join the movement. Let’s shape solutions that align your emotions, elevate your mindset, and expand your life.

01/14/2026

🛑 DAY 1️⃣0️⃣ of the 𝐒𝐓𝐎𝐏 𝐈𝐓 𝐍𝐎𝐖® 𝐂𝐇𝐀𝐋𝐋𝐄𝐍𝐆𝐄

Week 2 Theme: Interactions with Others

👉🏽 𝐒𝐓𝐎𝐏 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞.

Let’s talk gently today.

So much of our frustration in relationships comes from loving people for who we hope they’ll become instead of relating to who they actually are right now.

And I want you to hear this with care:

𝙀𝙭𝙥𝙚𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙥𝙚𝙤𝙥𝙡𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙘𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙜𝙚 𝙘𝙖𝙣 𝙦𝙪𝙞𝙚𝙩𝙡𝙮 𝙥𝙪𝙡𝙡 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙖𝙡𝙞𝙜𝙣𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩.
It creates disappointment.
It creates tension.
It creates dis-ease.

Sometimes the growth in our interactions with others isn’t about them changing, it’s about us accepting. ☺️

Accepting your mom for who she is.
Accepting your sibling for who they are.
Accepting your friend, your partner, your child as they show up today.

And here’s the part most people overlook:

When you learn to accept others for who they are,
you begin to relate from a place of clarity instead of control.

This isn’t about ending relationships.
It’s about ending unrealistic expectations.

Because when people are ready to change, they will.
Your work is alignment.
Your work is peace.
Your work is choosing how you show up in the interaction.

So…
▶️ START accepting people for who they are
▶️ START choosing your response with love and self-respect

That’s how you realign.
That’s how you advance.

If this message brought clarity or relief, you don’t have to process it alone.

✨ Join the Elevate in LIFE Facebook Group:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/elevateinlife

This is a warm, supportive space where we talk about relationships, boundaries, growth, and acceptance together.

You’re welcome here.
Your growth matters here.

That’s Day 10. 🤍
And this right here?
This is Interactions with Others, practiced with wisdom and grace. 🌱

01/14/2026

If you’ve ever caught yourself scrolling and feeling that quiet twinge... not envy exactly, but longing — pause right there. 📣

That feeling isn’t here to shame you.
It’s here to show you what your heart is drawn toward.

Instead of asking, “Why don’t I have that?”,
try asking, “What is this awakening in me?”

Comparison only becomes harmful when it turns inward as criticism.
But when you redirect it, it becomes information, a clue pointing you toward what you value, desire, and are becoming. ✨

You’re not late.
You’re not behind.
You’re just gathering insight.

Let inspiration motivate you, not measure you.
Your journey is unfolding at the exact pace your life can hold.

01/13/2026

🛑 DAY 9️⃣ of the STOP IT NOW® CHALLENGE

👉🏽 STOP taking everything so personal.

Let me sit this right here.

Yes, your life matters.
Yes, your feelings matter.
But no… everything is not about you.

And I say that with love. ✨

That Facebook post? Probably not about you.
That comment in the meeting? Not always about you.
That look, that tone, that moment? Not automatically about you.

And every time you take it personal, it burns your energy.
It drains your focus.
It leaves you with nothing left for your life.

So, STOP taking everything so personal.
Instead, start protecting your attention like the valuable resource it is.

Your peace deserves better than assumptions.

💭 Pause and ask: What else could be true?

That question alone can give you your energy back. 💛

01/12/2026

🛑 Day 8️⃣ of the STOP IT NOW® CHALLENGE

Week 2 Theme: 𝐈𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐎𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐬

Today, let’s stop romanticizing dysfunction.

👉🏽 𝑺𝑻𝑶𝑷 𝒍𝒐𝒐𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒐𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒑𝒆𝒐𝒑𝒍𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒉𝒂𝒑𝒑𝒚.

That expectation is heavy.
And unfair. And it’s why so many relationships collapse under pressure they were never designed to carry.

Here’s the frank truth 🔥

Your partner is not your happiness plan.
Your friends are not your emotional life support.
Your job is not your joy source.

That’s not healthy connection.
That’s dependency dressed up as closeness.

People were never meant to be your happiness.
They were meant to contribute to the happiness you already bring into the relationship.

When you expect others to make you happy:
❌ You shift responsibility onto them
❌ You create unspoken pressure
❌ You set relationships up for resentment

And then you call it “disappointment.”

Healthy interactions with others require self-responsibility first.
When you manage your inner world, you relate to others with freedom – not need.

🪞 Say this out loud, even if it feels unfamiliar:
“My happiness is my responsibility. Others are welcome to add, not carry.”

That’s Day 8. ✨
No fluff. Just freedom.

01/12/2026

🚨 LAST CALL: PROJECT H.O.P.E.

This is your final reminder.

You’ve been doing the work…
But you’ve been doing it without the structure you deserve.

You see the patterns.
You feel the burnout.
You know love alone isn’t enough anymore.

Project H.O.P.E. was created for leaders like YOU.

This is not therapy.
This is not surface-level training.
This is a certification that gives you language, structure, and sustainability without crossing clinical boundaries or sacrificing your well-being.

✨ 20-week Train-the-Trainer Certification
✨ 100% grant-funded
✨ Only 15 spots available

🛑 Applications close tonight at 12 midnight!

🔗 Apply now:
https://learn.shapingsolutions.org/join-project-hope

💛 You don’t need more passion. You need a framework.

01/12/2026

LAST DAY TODAY 📣

Here’s what you need to know about Project H.O.P.E. 💛

This isn’t another program to attend.

It’s a system to lead with clarity.

Swipe left to learn more ➡️

Apply for your spot: https://learn.shapingsolutions.org/join-project-hope

01/12/2026

🛑 DAY 7 of 𝐒𝐓𝐎𝐏 𝐈𝐓 𝐍𝐎𝐖® 𝐂𝐇𝐀𝐋𝐋𝐄𝐍𝐆𝐄

Here’s the thing you need to STOP doing:

👉🏽 STOP trying to fix yourself.

I know that sounds backwards… especially in a culture obsessed with “do the work,” “heal yourself,” and “figure it out alone.”

But listen to me closely.

So many people try to:
🔹 Fix their own life
🔹 Heal their own wounds
🔹 Repair their own relationships
🔹 Solve their own patterns

And instead of things getting better… they get worse.

Why?

Because the same mind that created the problem cannot be the same mind that resolves it.

When you try to fix yourself alone, you are emotionally attached to the problem. There’s a string tied to it – history, pain, fear, survival that creates bias.

You need someone who can sit at a different seat at the table.

When the problem is the centerpiece:
✔️ You see it from one angle
✔️ A coach, therapist, or guide sees it from another
✔️ Community adds perspective you can’t access alone

That’s not weakness.
That’s wisdom.

And let me remind you of this truth:
✨ You are the most valuable asset to your family, your business, your purpose, and your community.

People have invested their time, talent, education, and calling to help you heal effectively, efficiently, and safely.

Love of Self means knowing when to stop trying to be your own solution.

STOP trying to fix yourself alone.
START allowing support, perspective, and guidance into your healing.

Whisper this to yourself:
“I am worthy of support. I do not have to heal alone.”

01/10/2026

DAY 6️⃣ of 𝐒𝐓𝐎𝐏 𝐈𝐓 𝐍𝐎𝐖® 𝐂𝐇𝐀𝐋𝐋𝐄𝐍𝐆𝐄!

👉🏽 STOP letting other people’s opinions reroute your life.

Here’s a simple way to think about it:
The results you want live on your path.
Other people’s opinions live on theirs.

Every time you prioritize their approval, you step off the road that leads to your goals.

You don’t lose progress because you lack ability.
You lose progress when your focus shifts.

Friendly reminder:
✔ Opinions don’t create outcomes, commitment does.
✔ You don’t need permission to pursue what’s meant for you.
✔ Staying aligned matters more than being liked.

Choose the path that leads to the life you want – and keep walking, even when others don’t understand it.

01/09/2026

🚨 THREE DAYS LEFT TO REGISTER! 🚨

Saginaw County is part of a region in Michigan that faces significant opioid-related challenges, including opioid misuse, overdose, and related health impacts based on statewide substance use surveillance data. Public health researchers identify certain Michigan counties, including those near Saginaw, as hotspots for opioid use concerns, highlighting the need for expanded community action and support. (Michigan-open.org)

Traditional treatment and crisis response models alone aren’t enough.

🔑 Community-based prevention and intervention are key to stopping cycles of overdose and helping people thrive – not just respond to crisis after crisis.

Are you ready to be the change Saginaw needs? Learn how you can serve your community with structure, support, and real strategies through Project H.O.P.E. 💛

Apply today: https://learn.shapingsolutions.org/join-project-hope/

01/09/2026

DAY 5️⃣ of 𝐒𝐓𝐎𝐏 𝐈𝐓 𝐍𝐎𝐖® 𝐂𝐇𝐀𝐋𝐋𝐄𝐍𝐆𝐄

Here it is, plain and true:

👉🏽 STOP putting other people’s needs before your own.

And let me be clear, I’m not saying this in a bitter way.
I’m saying this in the most loving, developmentally sound way possible.

From a human development standpoint, there is a stage you must go through:
✨ Independence
✨ Learning to be “selfish”
✨ Learning how to fill your own cup

Before you can ever move into what we call interdependent, healthy relationships.

If you skip that stage, you don’t become loving, you become depleted.

You cannot show up fully for others when you have never learned how to show up for yourself.

Being full of self is not selfish.
It’s necessary. And it’s the only way love stays healthy.

Today, remind yourself:
“I am allowed to prioritize myself and still be a loving person.”

That’s the work.
And that’s Love of Self, done right. 💛

01/08/2026

If connection requires you to disappear, it’s not love… it’s survival.

And survival is exhausting. 😫

Let’s tell the truth most people avoid:
Overgiving is often a trauma response disguised as generosity.
It sounds like love… but it’s really fear wearing a halo.

Fear of being rejected.
Fear of being a burden.
Fear that if you don’t keep giving, you won’t be chosen.

But here’s the cost no one talks about:

When love must be earned, connection becomes exhausting.

Healthy relationships are not built on imbalance.
They require mutual exchange, not emotional debt.

You don’t have to earn love.
You don’t have to audition for connection.
You don’t have to overextend to belong.

Today’s Challenge:
Before you give, pause. ⏸️

Ask yourself:
👉 Am I giving from overflow or fear?
👉 What would it look like to receive here instead?

Then practice one act of receiving today:
• Accept help
• Say thank you without deflecting
• Let someone show up for you
• Rest without guilt

Receiving is not a weakness. It’s healing. 🤍

If this hits close, don’t do this work in isolation!

✨ Join the Elevate in LIFE Facebook Group
This is where we unpack patterns like overgiving, people-pleasing, and relational burnout – together, with support and truth.

📩 Join the email list to stay connected to Project LIFE – Season 3: LIFE Lessons
You’ll receive weekly insights, reflections, and conversations that go deeper than social media.

👉 https://www.shielalittle.com/join-email-list

01/08/2026

Now, it’s Day 4️⃣ of 𝐒𝐓𝐎𝐏 𝐈𝐓 𝐍𝐎𝐖® 𝐂𝐇𝐀𝐋𝐋𝐄𝐍𝐆𝐄!

👉🏽 STOP beating yourself up with your words and your behavior.
👉🏽 START speaking to yourself with respect, compassion, and intention.

Let me say that again because somebody needs to hear it twice:
STOP beating yourself up. 🔥

Not just with your behavior.
But with your words.

I listen to how we talk to ourselves…
“I’m so stupid.”
“I’m dumb.”
“I’m crazy.”
“I’m so silly.”

And I have to ask you something real:
🤔 If someone else said those things to you, wouldn’t you be offended?

So why do you have the audacity to say them to yourself?

Every time you use that language, you’re reinforcing an identity you don’t even believe is true. And no one can rise into their purpose while verbally tearing themselves down.

Let’s be clear:
You are not stupid.
You are not dumb.
You are not ignorant.

You are a highly intelligent individual with something valuable to offer this world. 💡
But you’ll never get there if your own mouth is working against you.

Today’s work is simple… but powerful.

📝 Become aware of how you talk to yourself. Write down the words you use when you:
🔹 Make a mistake
🔹 Lose something
🔹 Forget something
🔹 Feel frustrated

Then underneath that list, write one word in all caps:
STOP. 🛑

And begin choosing new language.

Because you don’t get to appreciate abuse from anyone including yourself.

✨ Affirmation for Today:
“I speak to myself with respect, compassion, and truth.”

That’s Day 4.
And this right here? This is Love of Self in action. 💛

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