Rocksteady Life

02/17/2025

It's hard being a human right now, y'all. I'm with you.

You know who you are …
Sending you love ♥️

01/29/2025

So much to process and grieve right now, friends. If you are seeking some community, my Virtual Grief & Loss group is meeting at 4pm tonight. Let me know if you're interested and I'll send you the details.

01/25/2025

In case you need some cathartic inspiration for something to watch tonight...

Signing off to watch "Raiders of the Lost Ark."

The N***s have been the bad guys in movies since World War II, and we've picked the ten best movies where those jag-offs get their asses handed to them.

01/23/2025

The organization that taught me Biofield Tuning has a beautiful offering for anyone who is struggling. It's a set of free tunings to help you ground and move through fear. Please share with your beloveds! You can listen to them as many times as you like - I sometimes listen to a tuning per day (it's kind of like listening to a guided meditation, but it's using sound to help bring awareness to patterns in your body and reconcile any discord).

Sending love to you and yours.

In times of collective challenge, we’re offering this special bundle to help you find your footing, process emotions, and move forward with strength and clarity. This collection includes: Fear, Anxiety, Worry, and Panic – A calming session to ease feelings of overwhelm. The Sundial: Ground and R...

01/21/2025

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You cannot legislate my body. 🏳️‍⚧️

01/13/2025

Join my Collective Embodiment for Helping Professionals group tonight! We start at 7pm CST (I realize it is in direct conflict with the start of the Vikings playoff game - I will be watching the game after we sign off).

Payment is sliding scale $20-$50 and it lasts one hour.

Once you fill out the form, I'll send you the Zoom link with more information.

This intake form is for new or current clients who wish to participate in group session work online.

01/02/2025

Here's the intake form for the Collective Embodiment series that starts next week.

Monday nights @ 7pm CST: Helping Professionals Group

Starting Monday, January 6th and lasting 6 weeks

This group is for anyone who identifies as a “helper.” You could be a teacher, therapist, nurse, bodyworker, fire fighter, EMT, doctor, parent, etc. It’s a really big identity container (on purpose) and really anyone can find a way to fit in this label.

Wednesdays @ 4pm CST: Grief & Loss Group

Starting Wednesday, January 8th and lasting 6 weeks

This is another large container because we are ALL grieving something. Whether it’s the loss of a person or companion animal, job change, marriage, birth, body dysphoria, questioning identity, losing a friendship, receiving a diagnosis, struggling with climate change, still trying to understand the political climate of everywhere, living in a capitalistic country, choosing to leave an abusive relationship, etc, it’s a loss. And we grieve. Anyone and everyone is also welcome to join this group.

If you fill out the intake form, I'll send you the Zoom links and payment information (sliding scale $20-$50 per session).

Much love to you and yours!

This intake form is for new or current clients who wish to participate in group session work online.

01/02/2025

Happy New Year, y'all!

In 2025, I am accepting new one-on-one clients and starting two different embodiment groups online!

Reach out if you are ready to shift old patterns, work through intergenerational trauma, receive support for grief and loss and explore who you were (and want to be).

Every day is an opportunity to change, stretch and grow. Laughter, ease, joy and peace are always accessible, but it definitely takes work (and sometimes a witness) to find, integrate and move beyond the stories we tell. This is my passion and my life's work. I've got you.

Collective Embodiment for Helping Professionals starts Monday, January 6th @ 7pm CST

Collective Embodiment for Grief & Loss starts on Wednesday, January 8th @ 4pm CST

I'm still hoping to fill these drop-in, 6 week support groups!

Both of my offerings are online (wintry weather won't get in the way!) and payment is sliding scale ($20-$50 per session).

I'm sending y'all big love as we move into an uncertain and possibly unstable time. If we step towards one another in vulnerability and truth, we can feel deep support and get through the tough times. Autonomy, agency and resiliency can be individual and collective - it's so important to find our folx and stay rocksteady.

12/17/2024

Starting in 2025, I will be offering embodiment groups virtually. If you are moving through grief & loss and are seeking a support network that creates capacity for joy, expansion, ease and laughter, reach out!

Details:
Collective Embodiment for Grief & Loss
6 week offering, drop in
Mondays @ 4pm CST on Zoom
Sliding scale $20-$50

Email sally@arocksteadylife.com for more information

12/17/2024

Starting in 2025, I will be offering embodiment groups virtually. If you have a hypermobile body and are seeking a support network that creates capacity for joy, expansion, ease and laughter, reach out!

Details:
Collective Embodiment for Hypermobile Bodies
6 week offering, drop in
Wednesdays @ 4pm CST on Zoom
Sliding scale $20-$50

Email sally@arocksteadylife.com for more information

12/17/2024

Starting in 2025, I will be offering embodiment groups virtually. If you work in a helping profession and are seeking a support network that creates capacity for joy, expansion, ease and laughter, reach out!

Details:
6 week offering, drop in
Mondays @ 7pm CST on Zoom
Sliding scale $20-$50

Email sally@arocksteadylife.com for more information

11/26/2024

UPDATE: I will be offering a virtual group on Mondays @ 4pm, starting January 6th and ending March 24th (12 weeks long); Mondays @ 7pm, starting January 6th and ending March 24th (12 weeks long); and, Wednesdays @ 4pm, starting January 8th and ending February 12th (6 weeks long). Cost will be sliding scale ($20-$50). If you are interested, please fill out the updated form with your preferences.

Have a beautiful day! ❤

Hello! For the past six years I have focused on working one-on-one with clients and haven't offered group work - until now! As we teeter into Mercury Retrograde, a week after Pluto has fully entered Aquarius, I have decided to offer demographic-specific group sessions. In order to craft the perfect group dynamic, setting, time, and container, I'd love your input!

If you are interested in a collective support system, please fill out this form. If you know someone else who is looking for support, feel free to pass it on!

I appreciate you!

This survey is a tool to determine if current or potential clients are interested in group sessions.

11/15/2024

Jumping on the ship.
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11/08/2024

Rest is radical.

Capitalism pushes us to hustle, to grind, to create lists and successfully check off the items.

Rest invites us to step back; to notice the urgency and remain curious about it.

Are we grappling with a deeply engrained pattern, or is our urgency about survival?

What feels disconnected?

What void are we trying to fill?

How can we come back into a state of trust within ourselves?

It is possible to remember that we have always been able to trust ourselves and our feelings.

The outside world, with its tantalizing storylines and adrenaline-infused doom, hijacks our sense of internalized trust.

And to that end, I invite rest.

But let me tell you what I believe rest *can* be.

It can be whatever fills you up; whatever makes you feel a sense of safety and trust within yourself. An (in)activity that brings joy, ease, laughter or a sense of purpose.

Notice if you need the rest of movement, or the rest of non-movement.

Sometimes you will need to sit with whatever is coming up for you.

Other times you will literally need to sleep.

Oftentimes you will need to talk with someone.

And sometimes you will need to
run
walk
skip
jump
dance
hike
create art
bake
sing
paint a room
clean a space
buy groceries
go to the gym
show up to a party
see live music or theater
work in your yard
garden

The main thing is to give yourself permission to redefine rest and to let yourself fully experience whatever rises to the surface.

And maybe you can do this without creating a list.

You can trust yourself to meet your own needs and identify whatever feels nourishing to you in this moment.

It is possible and it is absolutely necessary to regain a sense of agency.

And if your rest requires other humans, remember that you can root into the systems of support that are always there to guide you and hold you, as you need them.

All you have to do is ask.

11/07/2024

To all the helpers out there.

Pause.
Take a breath.

Feel your body’s contact with the surface you are touching (whether it is a chair, a bed, the ground)

How much access do you have to your feet?

Can you bring your awareness through all parts of your body and into them, or do you simply “know” that they are there?

Take another breath.

Are you getting a deep breath, or does it feel shallow?

As you breathe, bring your breath into all of the parts of your torso.

Your upper ribs and collarbone.
Your heart.
Your shoulder blades.
The sides of your ribs.
All around your diaphragm.
Your belly button.
Your pelvic floor.

Notice the room around you.
What texture can you feel?
Is there anything that catches your attention (through sight, sound, taste, touch or smell)?
Give yourself permission to enjoy whatever you encounter, for as long as you can stay with it.

On your next exhale, bring your awareness all the way down through your feet.

Do this as many times as you need.

As you notice your body’s contact with a surface, bring your awareness to the back of your body.
Lift that awareness to your bones.
The deepest part of you.
Your memories reside in your bones.
They are always there, vibrantly alive inside you, giving your body shape and form.
Full of electricity.
Supporting you.

As you support others around you, remember to return to your bones.

They hold a great wisdom and can reorient you back into yourself.

It is not your job to fix anything.

The greatest gift is to be present with an awareness of your current capacity.

If you feel overwhelmed, exhausted or unable to show up, don’t.

Call in sick.

Stay home.

Give yourself the time and space that you need to come back home to yourself.

We have a long road ahead and we all need to care for ourselves as deeply as we care for others.

You’ve got this.

I’m here with you.

11/06/2024

A note from a trauma-informed Deathwalker.

This is a tower moment.

What you may be experiencing is a normal nervous system response to a threat. You are grappling with a sense of distrust, a lack of safety. How you have responded in the past may dictate how you are responding right now. You might also be oscillating between various stages. Again, this is a normal and valid response.

Your flight response is valid (wanting to leave the country)
Your fight response is valid (building the resistance)
Your freeze response is valid (unable to move or do anything)
Your dissociative state is valid (feeling numb and foggy)
All of your feelings are valid

Additionally, this is what grief feels like. You are grieving. It is wild, untethered, loud, messy and sometimes explosive. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. Just let it move through you and feel all of the feelings as they arrive. If you feel overwhelmed or completely disembodied, here are some embodiment practices.

Get outside.
Look up at the sky and feel into the vastness of space.
Lean against a tree.
Watch the leaves fall.
Listen to the birds sing.
Smell the crisp, fall air.
Sit by a body of water.
Go for a walk.
Spend time with your beloveds.
Spend time with your animals.
Cry.
Laugh.
Scream.
Sing.
Dance.
Listen to music.
Watch netflix for the next forever.
Plan a trip.
Go for a drive.
Buy yourself a fancy coffee.
Get a new shirt.
Schedule a massage or acupuncture.
Talk to your neighbors.
Sit in silence.
Breathe.
Shake it all off.

Engage in whatever coping mechanisms feel grounding, supportive, nourishing, connecting or loving. Again, there is no right or wrong way to move through this. Just keep moving, even subtly. You are simply surviving this day.

But whatever you may do, please do not tell anyone that things will get better. Do not remind the grievers of the silver lining. We are uninterested in these things. We need to feel our anger, sadness, fear and disbelief.

If you feel like you need to say something, notice how you would feel if someone said it to you. It is not your job to curate or manage anyone else's emotional state. We get to have our feelings and our experiences. We are still here and breathing, with hearts beating (even though it might not feel like it), and we just need validation. So, if you feel that discomfort or sense of urgency to fix, just say "I hear you. I'm here." Or simply sit with us in silence. Sometimes we just need physical presence with no words.

Today is a very hard day. It feels heavy, dense, numbing and it's hard to see beyond our own two feet. But I am still here, walking beside you. Sending you love from the foggy mists of Minnesota.

Sally

***The Tower card is from the “Elemental Power Tarot”by Melinda Lee Holm***

11/06/2024

The weather this morning completely reflects how I feel today: cold, foggy and deeply grieving. Today sucks. All of your feelings are valid. Do whatever you need to do in order to get through the day. You are not alone in your rage and disbelief. Sending you so much love!

11/05/2024

I completed the assignment. 🐈🐈‍⬛.Get out and and then do whatever rituals you need in order to get through the night.