10/17/2024
“Oh my gosh, she’s crazy, psycho”
There are people who may label others as unpredictable, emotionally charged, or even aggressive, while someone else might affirm that the same person has offered them appreciation, respect, and a sense of security and calm. It’s worth considering both perspectives. Many of us reflect the energy we receive—when faced with confusion and gaslighting, we may appear unstable, but when met with clarity, authenticity, leadership, and genuine care, a very different side can emerge. Reciprocity is key, though it can be a difficult concept for some to grasp.
A significant realization for many is the understanding that neglecting oneself in the pursuit of another’s love and attention is not true love. In this process, people often lose their sense of self, forsaking the values and boundaries that are core to their identity.
When we find ourselves in situations where we don’t belong and choose to stay, we sacrifice our true essence. It’s our responsibility to leave when a situation no longer serves us, and loving oneself enough to make that choice is crucial. Otherwise, we may find ourselves resorting to yelling, begging, and accepting repetitive, unhealthy behaviors that don’t align with who we are.
Self-forgiveness is a journey that many struggle with, as shame and guilt often follow when we look back on actions we’re not proud of. Yet, it’s important to acknowledge that in those moments, our behavior was human. If we find ourselves in a similar situation again, we can choose differently, and that’s where our power lies.
So, forgive yourself for not knowing better at the time, and for the ways you protected yourself during difficult moments. You’re not “crazy”; you were in pain and perhaps compromising your own values. Maybe it’s time to re-evaluate.