DEAR MAN - comes from the DBT modality where it teaches you to ask for what you want in a kind and mindful way. This can be a helpful technique for couples, and/or parents interacting with their children or anyone that needs to ask for something in an effective way.
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#couplestherapy #therapy #mindfulness #effectivecommunication #communication #communicationskills
I recently presented my research about self-compassion and perfectionism among LDS women. Did you know that self-criticism decreases one’s ability to have self-compassion? Women that reported high perfectionism tendencies, also reported higher self-criticism. They have a higher expectation of themselves than they have of others. With this mentality, we are pretty much setting ourselves up for failure ladies!! How can we practice more self-compassion and less self-criticism?
What do you tell yourself when you make a mistake?
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#selfcompassion #LDSwomen #perfectionism #selfcriticism #therapy #expectations #forgiveness
In fact, I would say accomplishments are not a measure of worthiness at all. We live in an accomplishment driven society, where being “too busy” is almost a badge of honor. When we tie our external accomplishments to our self-worth our mental health inevitably suffers.
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#psychology #therapy #mindfulness #selfcompassion #worthiness #cognitivetherapy
In the book What Happened To You, Dr. Perry and Oprah talk about this idea of asking and understanding what happened to you instead of what is wrong with you. Our behaviors and feelings all make sense if you put into the context of our life experiences and trauma responses.
I urge you to try this concept. When you see someone upset, or if your child is having a bad day, ask them, “What happened to you?” “Do you want to talk about your feelings right now?”
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#emotionalresponse #traumaresponse #therapy #counseling #mindfulness
