The Dating Counselor

The Dating Counselor Loni K. Harmon, LCSW
Utah Dating Expert, Speaker, Educator, Coach, Podcaster

01/11/2026

I'm just a girl. Swiping on another dating app. Asking men not to post pictures with fish 🙄

Dating Sunday is a thing.And between January 1st and Valentine’s Day, it’s the most powerful window for online dating al...
01/04/2026

Dating Sunday is a thing.
And between January 1st and Valentine’s Day, it’s the most powerful window for online dating all year.

January Sundays bring:
✔️ More people online
✔️ Higher engagement
✔️ Faster responses
✔️ More intention behind the swipes

This is when people are reflecting, resetting, and thinking, “I don’t want to be single another year.”
That mindset shift changes everything.

But here’s the part most singles miss ⬇️
Peak dating Sundays only work if your profile is doing the heavy lifting.
Otherwise, you blend in during the busiest dating season of the year.

💡 Online dating can actually work.
I’ve been to the weddings.

If you want to make the most of January Sundays, my Online Dating Profile Polish helps you:
• Stand out during peak swiping hours
• Attract more intentional matches
• Turn conversations into real dates

👉 Link in bio to get your profile polish before this window closes.

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My  #1 piece of advice for heading into the New Year is to create a vision board. ✨️ Why, bc the process of putting thou...
01/02/2026

My #1 piece of advice for heading into the New Year is to create a vision board. ✨️ Why, bc the process of putting thoughts to paper creates the movement you need to make progress.

These do not need to be huge shifts, ie. I want to spend an hour at lunch with my celebrity crush. I mean I wouldn't turn down a lunch date with Chris Hemsworth either, but that's not the kind of thing I'm putting on my vision board. 😅

Think more along the lines of doing a personal inventory of where you want to grow or balance this year. Then find a picture that represents it and put it on some posterboard and hang it up in your bedroom. Add to it whenever you want. Make a reward chart if you want. Make it work for you.

I could have made you a template or offered you a digital download but you're an adult, you don't need my help with this. I am sharing my vision board with you so you get an idea of what it can look like. 😉

Also, if you took the time to read this caption and like my post, thank you! I am a Licensed therapist and dating coach and I wrote this all by myself. I am here because dating sucked for me and I want to help those who want help. Thanks for being here ❤️

Modern dating feels so broken because the relationship skills we were taught are not up to the standard needed to create...
12/29/2025

Modern dating feels so broken because the relationship skills we were taught are not up to the standard needed to create a successful relationship. Until now!

If you’ve ever thought:
• “Why does dating feel so confusing now?”
• “Why do situationships keep happening?”
• “Why can’t I tell if someone is emotionally available?”

This is exactly why I created the Relationship Building in Modern Dating course.

This course teaches you the actual skills required to form healthy, secure, emotionally connected relationships in today’s dating world, not just how to get a date.

Inside the course + 20-page guided workbook, you’ll learn how to:
✔ Build emotional connection without over-investing
✔ Communicate interest, boundaries, and needs clearly
✔ Spot emotional availability vs. avoidant behavior early
✔ Stop repeating anxious/avoidant dating patterns
✔ Create attraction and stability at the same time
✔ Build relationships that naturally move toward commitment

This is therapy-informed dating education created by me, a licensed therapist and dating coach with 15 years of experience. The course is designed for modern real life: online dating, texting, first dates, and the “what are we?” stage.

💻 Self-paced course
📘 20-page workbook with prompts, reflections & tools
💰 On sale now for $25

If you want to get the results you've seen from my clients, stop guessing and start building real relationships, this is where it starts.

🔗 Link in bio

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2025 🎉 I enjoyed reviewing this past year and documenting the journey. I had big plans for 2025 and my health had other ...
12/27/2025

2025 🎉 I enjoyed reviewing this past year and documenting the journey. I had big plans for 2025 and my health had other plans, still it's been an incredibly rewarding year.

I'd truly love to know what 2025 shared with you. Did you find growth in your dating journey? Did you learn to love and accept yourself in 2025? Please share ❤️

Are you having a holly jolly Christmas or is this season ho ho horrible? Either way, you deserve a good laugh! Enjoy! P....
12/23/2025

Are you having a holly jolly Christmas or is this season ho ho horrible? Either way, you deserve a good laugh! Enjoy!

P.S. check out my highlights for the book recommendation

What’s meant for you won’t require persuasion.Choose the man who shows up freely, not the one you have to pull toward yo...
12/13/2025

What’s meant for you won’t require persuasion.
Choose the man who shows up freely, not the one you have to pull toward you. 🤍

If you’re tired of guessing, overthinking, or trying to “earn” someone’s effort, you’re not alone. I help singles learn how to recognize healthy investment early, without anxiety or chasing. ✨

This December, choose peace. Surrender the urge to check who’s watching and trust that what’s meant for you won’t need m...
12/11/2025

This December, choose peace. Surrender the urge to check who’s watching and trust that what’s meant for you won’t need monitoring. 🤍🎄

💡 Before exclusivity, relationships move through stages that can feel exciting and confusing.Attraction, uncertainty, ex...
09/30/2025

💡 Before exclusivity, relationships move through stages that can feel exciting and confusing.
Attraction, uncertainty, exploration, clarification, and finally, decision.

👉 The mistake most singles make?

They confuse chemistry for compatibility

Or they see uncertainty as rejection

Or they avoid clarification and end up in a situationship

Each stage is simply a filter to help you find clarity.

✨ Question for you: Which stage do you usually get stuck in? Drop it below 👇

Let's have a few laughs because relationships are haha-hard. Xoxo
09/29/2025

Let's have a few laughs because relationships are haha-hard.

Xoxo

It's Monday. I'm sick in bed. It's raining beautifully outside. Time for some dating memes 🍁 Xoxo
09/22/2025

It's Monday. I'm sick in bed. It's raining beautifully outside. Time for some dating memes 🍁

Xoxo

Let’s talk about this!  In modern dating, is it realistic to expect someone to be constantly available by text, call, or...
09/08/2025

Let’s talk about this! In modern dating, is it realistic to expect someone to be constantly available by text, call, or DM?

We live in a world where instant replies feel normal, but does that create pressure or build connection?

👉 Drop your thoughts in the comments OR vote in the poll:
✨ Yes – quick replies are a sign of interest
✨ No – healthy relationship building needs space

👩🏻‍💼 My Note: It’s healthy to expect consistency but not constant access. Respecting each other’s time and responsibilities builds trust way more than instant replies will. Move away from the text giving you validation. Please 🙏

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