The Dating Counselor

The Dating Counselor Loni K. Harmon, LCSW
Utah Dating Expert, Speaker, Educator, Coach, Podcaster

Modern dating trains you to stay guarded:• Don’t text first—> avoid neediness• Don’t ask questions—> avoid looking inves...
11/25/2025

Modern dating trains you to stay guarded:
• Don’t text first—> avoid neediness
• Don’t ask questions—> avoid looking invested
• Don’t clarify—> avoid conflict
• Don’t be too available—> avoid rejection

Avoid, avoid, avoid… and then somehow expect a relationship to grow.

But real connection thrives when you do the opposite:
• Communicate
• Clarify
• Take gentle risks
• Show interest
• Stay present when things get messy

Healthy love isn’t born from comfort, it’s born from courage.

Double-tap if you’re done with avoidance culture. I know I am ❤️

11/18/2025

Member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Sainys and Non Members dating in Utah...this just fits the narrative!

Have you ever dated outside of your faith? Tell me your story ⬇️

Want to know my thoughts on dating outside of your faith? Stick around 🌹

11/15/2025

✨ Your friends already know it… but in case you forgot: you’re smart, funny, and absolutely worth it. 💛 Anyone would be lucky to date YOU!

"I have a boyfriend, what do I do next?"You've made it to the exclusive round of the relationship but now you have no id...
11/03/2025

"I have a boyfriend, what do I do next?"

You've made it to the exclusive round of the relationship but now you have no idea what is normal and what is a red flag that you should call it.

Slide through this play by play and save for later so you can normalize what being exclusive looks like.

You're welcome 🫶

💡 Before exclusivity, relationships move through stages that can feel exciting and confusing.Attraction, uncertainty, ex...
09/30/2025

💡 Before exclusivity, relationships move through stages that can feel exciting and confusing.
Attraction, uncertainty, exploration, clarification, and finally, decision.

👉 The mistake most singles make?

They confuse chemistry for compatibility

Or they see uncertainty as rejection

Or they avoid clarification and end up in a situationship

Each stage is simply a filter to help you find clarity.

✨ Question for you: Which stage do you usually get stuck in? Drop it below 👇

Let's have a few laughs because relationships are haha-hard. Xoxo
09/29/2025

Let's have a few laughs because relationships are haha-hard.

Xoxo

It's Monday. I'm sick in bed. It's raining beautifully outside. Time for some dating memes 🍁 Xoxo
09/22/2025

It's Monday. I'm sick in bed. It's raining beautifully outside. Time for some dating memes 🍁

Xoxo

Let’s talk about this! In modern dating, is it realistic to expect someone to be constantly available by text, call, or...
09/08/2025

Let’s talk about this! In modern dating, is it realistic to expect someone to be constantly available by text, call, or DM?

We live in a world where instant replies feel normal, but does that create pressure or build connection?

👉 Drop your thoughts in the comments OR vote in the poll:
✨ Yes – quick replies are a sign of interest
✨ No – healthy relationship building needs space

👩🏻‍💼 My Note: It’s healthy to expect consistency but not constant access. Respecting each other’s time and responsibilities builds trust way more than instant replies will. Move away from the text giving you validation. Please 🙏

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