Simple Modern Therapy

Simple Modern Therapy Simple Modern Therapy exists to provide you with inspiration, guidance and hope to Love Your Life, and Yourself. Walk this modern path, simply.

Let’s be honest:When someone demands access, obedience, or instant responses and calls it a “boundary”…they’re not tryin...
11/21/2025

Let’s be honest:
When someone demands access, obedience, or instant responses and calls it a “boundary”…
they’re not trying to build a healthy relationship.
They’re trying to manage their insecurities and their feelings by controlling you.
This type of behavior doesn’t promote safety.
It only creates smaller lives, smaller choices, and smaller versions of ourselves.
Real intimacy doesn’t require you to surrender your privacy, your autonomy, or your whole past as proof of loyalty.
Real intimacy is built on trust — not rulebooks, surveillance, or emotional hostage-taking.
If you’ve ever felt like you had to shrink so someone else could feel secure…
you deserve better.

And if you need help, we’re here for you. 🩷

11/18/2025

If you’ve ever been told a “boundary” is basically a rule about how you’re allowed to behave… you’re not alone.
Here’s the truth:
Boundaries are about my choices, not controlling your behavior.
And when we confuse the two, relationships start running on fear and anxiety instead of trust.

At Simple Modern Therapy, we help you build relationships that feel safe, connected, and rooted in your values—not in anxiety-driven control.

If this resonates, follow along. We talk often about:
✨ Relationship skills that actually work
✨ LGBTQ+ mental health
✨ How to navigate self care in an unfriendly world
✨ Life after leaving a high control religion

Stick around if you want your relationships to feel more grounded, honest, and emotionally mature.
We’d love to have you here. 💛

11/14/2025

Sometimes I wonder what all this progress is really costing us.
We’ve built technology that can do almost anything — answer our questions, finish our sentences, even pretend to care.
But somewhere in all that speed and convenience… we’re drifting away from each other.
We’re lonelier, more anxious, overstimulated — and still reaching for our phones, hoping it’ll fix the ache.
At Simple Modern Therapy, I don’t want to fight against technology.
I just want to protect something sacred —
the part of being human that can’t be automated:
a real conversation, a felt presence, the moment you exhale because someone actually gets it.
That’s what we’re here for.
To help people stay human in a world that’s forgetting how.

Lately I’ve been thinking about how fast we’re moving.How easy it is to outsource the parts of being human that used to ...
11/12/2025

Lately I’ve been thinking about how fast we’re moving.
How easy it is to outsource the parts of being human that used to hold us together.
We have endless information, constant stimulation, and technology that can simulate almost anything —
except real connection.
Our nervous systems don’t need more answers.
They need eye contact.
They need presence.
They need to be met by another person who isn’t rushing to fix or optimize anything — just to understand.
That’s what I want Simple Modern Therapy to be.
A place to land when the world feels too fast,
too digital,
too disconnected.
Because no matter how advanced things get…
we still need each other.

11/04/2025

AI can offer insight. It can even sound empathic.
But it can’t heal in relationship.

Your nervous system learns safety through another human’s steady presence — eye contact that says you’re safe here, tone of voice that regulates your breathing, timing that mirrors your emotions instead of correcting them.

Research from the Polyvagal Theory shows that our capacity to calm, learn, and grow is shaped by the presence of safe others. Studies in social neuroscience reveal that even brief moments of emotional synchrony — shared laughter, a sigh, a pause — release oxytocin and build trust.

Therapy isn’t about advice or output. It’s about co-regulation, integration, and remembering what your body already knows:
You are wired to heal.

10/31/2025

That’s exposure therapy, babe.
Doing the thing your brain swore you couldn’t… and realizing you survived it after all. 🧡

A big Happy Halloween to our friends and followers. Stay safe out there 😱👻🎃

Relationships don’t usually fall apart from one big blow-up. It’s the little jump scares—being dismissed, talked over, i...
10/28/2025

Relationships don’t usually fall apart from one big blow-up. It’s the little jump scares—being dismissed, talked over, ignored, or asked to carry the whole emotional load. Most of us were never taught how to say what we feel, ask for what we need, or make a repair that actually lands. In therapy, we slow it down. We get curious instead of defensive. We practice boundaries that keep love safe. We try again after the mess, and we let small changes add up.

If you’re ready for less haunted, more human—we’re here. Salt Lake City & telehealth across Utah.

10/23/2025

Recently someone called me “gaslight-adjacent” and “not transparent” because I didn’t share information they believed they were entitled to. I wasn’t hiding. I was holding a boundary.

Here’s the nuance we don’t talk about enough:

Gaslighting is a deliberate pattern of psychological manipulation meant to make someone doubt their reality. It involves intent, repetition, and a power dynamic.

Disagreeing, saying “no,” or choosing not to disclose something is not gaslighting.

Privacy is a right. Transparency is optional and contextual. It’s something we offer, not something others can demand.

Boundaries are not secrecy or punishment; they’re the structure that lets relationships stay honest, safe, and sustainable for everyone involved.

When we’re hurt, it’s easy to reach for big therapy words. But mislabeling shuts down repair and muddies accountability on both sides. We can name impact without pathologizing character.

If you’ve been on the receiving end of therapy-speak used as a weapon, you’re not alone. And if you’ve used those words in a heated moment, you’re human. There’s room for repair, clarity, and better language.

Some language that keeps dignity intact:

“I feel left out and I wish I had more context.”
“I’m disappointed you’re not sharing that with me.”
“I want to respect your boundary and I’m noticing I still feel anxious—can we talk about what is on the table to share?”

Your relationships are allowed to have limits and also be loving. Both/and.

Tell me: What’s the most unhinged “therapy-speak” label someone has put on you—or you’ve heard thrown around?

Simple Modern Therapy • LGBTQ+ affirming, trauma-informed care for relationships, intimacy, faith transitions, anxiety, and recovery from religious shame. Salt Lake City & telehealth across Utah.

Some settings don’t switch off just because you leave. You can be post-Mormon and still bump into old reflexes—guilt tha...
10/21/2025

Some settings don’t switch off just because you leave. You can be post-Mormon and still bump into old reflexes—guilt that shows up late, autopilot rituals that don’t feel good anymore, muscle memory in your body you didn’t consent to. It’s okay to laugh at it and admit it’s sticky. Both can be true.

Around here we call it the afterglow of belonging + the hangover of control. You’re not failing the faith transition; your nervous system needs time and care to catch up.

We help ex-Mormons/post-Mormons (including LGBTQ+ folks) sort the keepers from the baggage: boundaries without blowups, intimacy without shame, and connection that doesn’t require self-erasure. And best of all, becoming your most authentic self, on your own terms.

If you’re looking for belonging in non-belonging, healing from the trauma and shame, a place for “Everyone else in Utah” — we’ve got you.

Follow for more post-religious real talk, and inquire about an appointment via the link in bio.

Simple Modern Therapy • Salt Lake City & telehealth across Utah • LGBTQ+ affirming, trauma-informed care.

Authenticity isn’t a costume—it’s a commitment. What I take from Keaton isn’t a look; it’s permission to live from the i...
10/14/2025

Authenticity isn’t a costume—it’s a commitment. What I take from Keaton isn’t a look; it’s permission to live from the inside out. To stop arranging ourselves for approval and start building relationships that can hold the truth of who we are.

In therapy language, that’s differentiation: I can stay connected to you AND stay connected to myself. No self-erasing. No performing intimacy to keep the peace. Just presence, boundaries, and care that goes both ways.

De-centering the male gaze isn’t anti-men—it’s pro-self. It’s letting women, q***r folks, and anyone outside the “default” write a story that fits: your clothes, your body, your partnerships, your parenthood, your faith (or your leaving). Less “supposed to.” More this is who I am and how I want to love.

If you’re untangling scripts around gender, family, s*xuality, or faith and want support that’s warm, affirming, and evidence-based—we’re here.
Inquire about an appointment — link in bio.

Simple Modern Therapy • Salt Lake City & telehealth across Utah • LGBTQ+ affirming, trauma-informed care (EFT, EMDR, Gottman, IFS, s*x therapy).

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124 S. 400 E. Ste 230
Salt Lake City, UT
84111

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Monday 9am - 5pm
Tuesday 9am - 5pm
Wednesday 9am - 5pm
Thursday 9am - 5pm
Friday 9am - 5pm

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(801) 920-7112

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