LOSS - Loved Ones Suicide Survivors Support Group

09/01/2025

09/01/2025

My family has opened our eyes to thousands of mornings knowing the one thing we would change if we could is outside our control. When the world faced the pandemic these past years, it was a new and…

09/01/2025

I should have…
I could have…
I would have…

Guilt is one of the lesser topics talked about in Grief.

Although it’s a BIG one.

Your mind goes back and lives in the before. And we come up with plans on how we could have saved them. Or could have made something better.

Fix the un-fixable with the power we never we never possessed. But still cant process this fact.

So when you get in one of those Should/Could/Would spirals…

Add a but.

See..we are only human. We only had the information we had at the time.
We dont access tools of telepathy.
Or seeing the future.
Or saving someone from an illness.

When we are grieving we are already going through the worst feelings a person can go through.

And then we put guilt on top of it to make it even more heavy.

And it starts to crush us. Making it hard to move forward. We get stuck here.

When guilt weasels its way in to your grieving process remind yourself of this.

If i could change anything…they would still be here.

If I could have done anything humanly possible to save my loved one I would have.
In a heartbeat.

If I would have known it was the last time to (insert action) I should have (insert action).

BUT

Im only human.
And my mind only had the information it had at that time.
And bad things happen.

That we are absolutely powerless against.

So remember to give yourself grace.
You didn’t want this.
You didn’t choose this.
You are already going through so much.

Stop the could/should/would scenarios in its tracks.
Add the but.
Remind yourself you are only human.

And give yourself a loving and encouraging pep talk that you would give your best friend going through the same thing.

09/01/2025

I wish more people understood that grief isn’t just being sad and crying.
Grief is being angry, being numb, being broken, and being everything in-between
Grief is so different for everyone and you just have to go thru the motions and roll with the punches.
When you’re grieving the loss of someone you grieve for what was and what will never be, grief also takes a big toll on your mental and physical health.
Grief is LOVE with nowhere to go.
Grief is trying to remind yourself that “this too shall pass”
Grief is forcing yourself out of bed to shower and eat.
Greif is isolating yourself
Grief is surrounding yourself with people and things to distract your brain from reality
Grief is ugly and rough, so if you cannot understand why people grieve so hard for so long and so deep consider yourself lucky to not understand.

09/01/2025

When survivors discuss su***de prevention, they often feel shamed or isolated. Not all su***des are predictable or preventable.