Rooted Mama Therapy

06/02/2025

In IFS, we understand that every behavior comes from a part of us - usually one that developed to protect us or help us survive.

When a child is corrected without connection, a part of them may take on shame, believing “I’m bad,” instead of “I made a mistake.”

This burden of shame often carries into adulthood, showing up as inner critics, people-pleasing, or deep fears of being rejected.

But when we pause to connect - with our child AND with our own inner parts - we invite healing.

💚Connection tells our parts:
✨You are seen.
✨You are safe.
✨You are not alone.

To the mamas healing their inner child wounds while holding space for their own children’s big emotions - you are doing sacred work. And your connected presence is already changing everything.

To the mamas who are ready to explore their inner world with compassion and curiosity. I offer IFS-informed therapy for cycle-breaking moms who want to parent different and heal differently.

Click the link in bio to learn more or schedule a free meet-and-greet. You don’t have to do this alone. 🌿

05/06/2025

Recently I had to make a really hard decision - to no longer allow an adult I once trusted to care for my child. At first, the choice felt clear. I looked at the facts and did what I believed was best for my daughter’s safety and well-being.

But then, I saw her heartbreak. She couldn’t understand why this person wasn’t in her life anymore, and watching her grieve made me question everything.

I started to wonder: Did I do the right thing? Should I have just given this person another pass?

My guilt whispered, “She’s hurting because of you. You took someone she loves away.”

That spiral is so familiar. The “what if’s,” the second-guessing, the weight of wanting to protect while also wanting to shield them from pain.

But the truth is - sometimes, there isn’t a perfect path. Sometimes the right choice still hurts.

What I can do now is sit beside her in her feelings.
Even if she doesn’t understand the reasons behind my decision yet, what matters most is that she feels heard, supported, and safe to express herself.

I don’t need to explain it all to her over and over. What she needs is connection. Presence.

This is my chance to show her that her feelings matter - and I won’t rush her through them because it’s hard for ME to see her hurting.

So I’m turning toward my guilt with compassion and reminding myself:

I made this decision out of love. My daughter still trusts me. And I can help her move through this with love - not shame.

If you’re a mom who’s ever carried this kind of guilt, you’re not alone. Leave a like if this resonates 💛

03/20/2025

I’m so glad I got to have this fun conversation with these two amazing entrepreneurs and moms from Working Mom’s of San Antonio 🩵

Here we talked about what gentle parenting ACTUALLY looks like when used in everyday life. It’s not what you think it would look like - promise 😉

Watch the full episode to see what I mean

DM me if you’re interested in working together or want to know more about how to book a session with me 🌱

In this episode of the Working Moms of San Antonio podcast, we sit down with Victoria from Rooted Mama Therapy to discuss the concept of gentle parenting. Vi...

01/23/2025

Are you a mom who feels like you’re constantly falling short of what your family needs? You’re not alone. Many mothers feel the weight of trying to do it all—and that pressure can leave you feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, and unsure of yourself.

I specialize in supporting mothers who struggle with these feelings of inadequacy, helping them break through limiting beliefs and inherited patterns that hold them back from being fully present and joyful with their families.

In our work together, I create a warm, nonjudgmental space where you can explore your deepest concerns and emotions. My approach is rooted in curiosity and compassion, allowing us to dive into the core issues that may be impacting your well-being.

During our initial sessions, we’ll focus on getting to know your unique story, so we can develop a treatment plan that’s as individual as you are. This collaborative approach ensures that the therapy we create together will meet your specific needs.

My practice is built on the belief that true healing begins with you. If you have a child who is struggling with mental health, I’m here to guide you in nourishing your own well-being.

By investing in yourself, you’re not only creating positive change for you, but you’re also making a difference in your child’s life and the overall health of your family.

I’m passionate about this work because I’ve seen firsthand how powerful it is to help mothers navigate the challenges of motherhood.

As a mother myself, I understand the pressures of balancing self-care with caregiving, and the deep fulfillment that comes with breaking free from generational patterns.

After years of working with a wide range of clients, I’ve discovered that supporting moms in their unique journey is where I truly shine—and where I can make the most impact.

I’m here to help you create lasting change—both for yourself and for your family.

PM me "I'm interested" if you're interested in working together or check out my site rootedmamatherapy.com if you want to schedule a free meet-and-greet!

01/11/2025

https://youtu.be/X6GIOKUGA1A?si=F0o208nrncjnITcT

Ever wonder what gentle parenting really is and is it something that’s going to make the next generation of kids too soft and spoiled?? 🤔

Check out my conversation with friend and colleague, Juan Chapa, where we break down gentle parenting and get real about its long term effects

P.s. also please like and subscribe to his YouTube channel to help it grow and catch all the amazing content he has planned!

Thank you for taking the time to watch our episode! Please consider leave a comment, like the video, and subscribe. It would really help me reach more people...

12/19/2024

The holidays can be stressful for parents with all the plans and things to do this time of year but another thing that adds to the stress is figuring out how to also make this time memorable for our kids while they’re on their break.

Hopefully these ideas will relieve some stress!

•Tell me what your favorite family activities are and share what you think could be your kids favorite thing to do•

Wishing everyone a fun and relaxing holiday season! ☃️🎄✨

P.s don’t forget to let your inner child have some fun too 😉

08/21/2024

Self-care is a topic that has gained a lot of awareness over the past several years

And thank goodness!!

But, as a parent, self-care can look a little different from ideal

At its highest potential, self-care can most certainly look like going to a spa to spend hours getting pampered, or taking a luxury vacation, or even taking some days off to do your favorite things

Which is something we should DEFINITELY do if we have the means

but in reality, that's not doable for many parents to do often enough, if even at all

So self-care works best when it's aligned with the reality of our everyday lives

Here are some tips to help distinguish what self-care looks like vs. what it doesn't look like so we can be very mindful (very demure😉) and practice it more often

If you want to figure out what self-care can look like for your everyday life, check out my blog where I talk more about it here https://www.rootedmamatherapy.com/post/8-realistic-ways-to-practice-self-care-for-exhausted-parents

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P.S.

**Controversial Take** Let me know if you have a different opinion but I DON'T count taking a shower as self-care.

Of course, it isn't good for our mental health when we skip too many showers, but I personally count it as a basic need to keep us functional

And I see self-care as a tool to take us from functional to THRIVING.💁‍♀️✨

What do yall think??

08/02/2024

Some tips to start self-care in practical ways today! 😌 Leaving your home not required
Check out my blog post https://wix.to/q2ID9j0

Are you an exhausted parent who knows you need self-care but thinks it requires too much time? Here are some practical self-care tips that can help you feel more rested and refreshed starting today:1. Maximize Your PrivacyWe all know, as parents, that sometimes the only way you get to be alone is wh...

08/01/2024

Self-care doesn't always have to mean taking 4 hours to pamper yourself at the spa or taking a long vacation
(although it wouldn't hurt 😉)
but really, it can be a stack of small things, I'm talking teeny-tiny, that we do EVERYDAY to keep us from burning out.

*New blog coming soon!!* ✍️

07/25/2024

Maybe it's the weather, allergies, back-to-school time/end of summer, the election year, or some other reason.. but many of us are feeling the fatigue right now. Giving ourselves permission to rest and slow down can be difficult for many of us and if you're one of those types who "can't stop, won't stop" and struggle with guilt when something forces you to stop your grind - this affirmation is for you 💛

07/18/2024

This month I've been sharing some takes on Reacting vs. Responding but considering we're all human... we're going to react sometimes.

So what can we do if we have a slip and express a reaction to our kids? Hint: It's definitely not to pretend it didn't happen and sweep it under the rug! 🙅‍♀️

Instead, try these six steps to recover after reacting - it's so worth it!

07/04/2024

Check out my blog post! Focusing on my topic for the month: Reacting vs. Responding and how we can improve our communication with our kids 🗣️ https://wix.to/8Ud8CLW

What is the difference between reacting and responding and how do we go from being a parent who reacts to a parent who responds?