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02/02/2025

Taking the guesswork out of why men really struggle to understand what the mental load is. Share with your partner or anyone who is struggling with getting their partner on board with this concept!

What Men Almost Always Misunderstand About the Mental Load I get the same messages from men over and over again about what I share about…

02/02/2025

✨ 5 behaviors that quietly wreck relationships (and most people don’t even realize they’re doing them) ✨

You know that moment when you’re trying to talk, but it feels like your partner is shutting down? Or when every little thing turns into an argument because you’re both feeling unheard? 😩

👉 These patterns don’t just happen—they build over time.

💔 And if they go unchecked, they can make even the strongest relationships feel impossible and lonely.

💡 But here’s the good news: when you see these behaviors, you can start to shift them.

👉 Swipe through to learn 5 common relationship wreckers and what to do instead.

👇 Which one do you notice most in your relationship? Or is there another dynamic that shows up more for you? Drop it in the comments!

And if you want to go deeper, my book A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great S*x breaks down 4 more relationship wreckers—PLUS how to find fairness around the mental load, communicate better, and build a partnership that actually feels like a team. 💛

Just comment SHARE for the link to order and grab your preorder thank you gifts.

01/31/2025

😮‍💨 No one takes care of it if I don’t.

🏋️‍♂️ The weight of being the person who keeps the home running, holds the information about everyone’s needs, and takes care of business in the background can be really heavy.

🫶 Finding a blend of responsibility in the home that FEELS FAIR to each partner is so important for the health of the family and your relationship.

👉Save this post for the next time you have this conversation,

✅ If you want more help with this conversation comment TACKLE and I’ll send you the link to grab my free guide to talking to your partner about the mental load.

🔥 Yup, it covers defensiveness.

01/27/2025

These are hard to read. 😮‍💨

👉 I have well over 1000 submissions to the two questions…

1. How has the mental load impacted your relationship and
2. In your own words, how does the mental load impact your mental health and overall mood?

The responses are heartbreaking 💔 and frustrating.

👉 I share these quotes so that you know you’re not alone; however my intention is not to stoke the fire of anger and resentment.

⭐️ I know that will possibly be part of this share, I can’t control how people respond.

☀️ But knowing that what you experience is not solely your experience can be healing.

⚡️ I also want you to know that you have personal power 💪 to make shifts in how you show up in your relationship and navigate through the mental load.

🔥I want to encourage you to 🔥

1. Get to the source of your ability or inability to express what you need and put it out there with assertiveness. You need to be whole too.
2. Talk to your partner about the mental load. Unless you’re leaving your relationship, you can’t give up on finding a distribution that feels better for the both of you (your entire relationship will benefit from this)

😘 If you need support with either of these…

📖 My new book, A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great S*x, dives deep into how you and your partner can navigate the mental load together without defensiveness or conflict.

📣 Comment SHARE to preorder your copy today and grab your exclusive thank you bonuses including

-A guide on ADHD and the mental load
-Packing checklist printables
-A month of meal plans and a shopping list
-Exclusive access to chapters 1-2 in audio

01/25/2025

✨ If you carry the mental load, here’s what your partner may have trouble understanding...

💭 It’s not just the physical tasks—like buying the birthday gifts or meal prepping—it’s the emotional labor that goes unseen:

* 🧠 Anticipating everyone’s needs.
* 💬 Managing the constant mental checklist.
* 💔 Worrying about the “what ifs” if something falls through the cracks.

🔥 This is the heavy, invisible part of the mental load—and when it’s unacknowledged, it can lead to resentment and burnout.

💡 Here’s one practical takeaway: Make the invisible visible as much as possible. Here’s a script to help…

👉 “When I [do the physical task], I’m also thinking about [the emotional weight].”

For example: “When I pack the kids’ lunches, I’m also thinking about their preferences, how to balance nutrition, and if they’re eating enough at school.”

🤝 This small conversation can open the door to understanding and teamwork.

📖 My book, A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great S*x, dives deep into how you and your partner can navigate the mental load together without defensiveness or conflict.

📣 Comment SHARE to preorder your copy today and grab your exclusive thank you bonuses including

-A guide on ADHD and the mental load
-Packing checklist printables
-A month of meal plans and a shopping list
-Exclusive access to chapters 1-2 in audio

01/23/2025

How do you show up in your relationship?

👏 When you exhibit maturity in a relationship, you crate a sense of security, predictability, and safety.

✅ When your relationship feels secure, that’s when it really flourishes.

🚧 When your relationship feels insecure, partners exhibit more protective behaviors like defensiveness, distancing, shutting down, and closing off sexually.

👉 If you’re ready to shift your relationship out of a place of distance and protectiveness to finally feeling like you’re on the same page,

My new book, A Better Share: How to Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great S*x, is packed with practical strategies to help you and your partner find a fair way to share the mental load and get your relationship back on track—without nagging, fights, or frustration.

⭐️ Here’s what one early reader had to say:

“This is the best content I’ve read about the mental load. The practical, specific tips for calmly discussing and sharing responsibilities are a game-changer.”

📣 Just comment SHARE to preorder your copy today and grab your exclusive thank you gifts!

01/20/2025

💭 What would it feel like to be appreciated for all that you do behind the scenes?

💡 There are times that your partner can’t jump in anymore than they currently are (for various reasons).

👏 But aiding in the mental load can also look like acknowledging and appreciating what you (or the one who carries it) do.

🫶 Sometimes it isn’t actually doing more—it’s saying:

“I respect and appreciate what you do. Our family wouldn’t function without you.”

❌ When partners respond to the mental load with statements like:
* “Then just don’t stress about it.”
* “Just do less.”
* “Your standards are too high.”

💔 It’s likely that you’ll feel minimized and devalued. This adds to the load because now you’re managing hurt feelings while still feeling unappreciated.

✨ Consider the formula: OBSERVATION + IMPACT for a meaningful compliment that helps you or your partner feel visible and valued for all they do for your family.

📣 Share this with your partner so they can give you the appreciation you need.

📖 If you haven’t yet had the conversation about the mental load but you’re ready to, my new book will help you have this conversation and find fairness—all without starting a fight.

📘 A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great S*x is packed with practical strategies to help you and your partner find a fair way to share the mental load—without nagging, fights, or frustration.

⭐️ Here’s what one early reader had to say:

“This is the best content I’ve read about the mental load. The practical, specific tips for calmly discussing and sharing responsibilities are a game-changer.”

🔥 Just comment SHARE to preorder your copy today and grab your exclusive thank-you gifts!

01/14/2025

We can teach these things at a young age.

You can interpret these phrases as just regular parenting words, or even words to teach kids life skills; however I keep their future partners in mind.

Things I consider are:

🧡 What mindset do I want our kids to have about who does what in a family?

🧡 What skills can I continue to teach them both that will serve them later in life? I want to make sure they know how to care for themselves and their future families and home well.

🧡 How do I start to instill awareness of what needs done and initiative taking?

It’s not perfect.

But we’re working on this and I truly believe that each family that cultivates the skills and mindset around the mental load differently in their children is making a difference in their children’s and their future partner’s family life.

⁉️ In chapter 21 of my book, A Better Share, I offer a strategy I use and specifically how to implement it, to help kids share the mental load.

✨ Ready to find a better way to share the load of your home and family life?

📕 My new book, A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great S*x, is packed with practical strategies to help you and your partner (and kids) work through the mental load—without nagging, fights, or frustration.

⭐️ Here’s what one early reader had to say:

“This is the best content I’ve read about the mental load. The practical, specific tips for calmly discussing and sharing responsibilities are a game-changer.”

📣 Just comment SHARE to preorder your copy today and grab your exclusive thank you bonuses!

01/13/2025

Comment SHARE for the link to preorder and grab your thank you gifts.

🫶When I set out to write this book, I wanted to create something that was palatable for both partners.

♥️ That both partners could pick up and make their way through without feeling like they’re attacked or having to manage their own defensiveness.

👉 I also wanted something that would benefit the relationship, if only one half of the couple read it.

✅ And I especially wanted to offer practical solutions and strategies for some of the most common challenges I hear from women in my community. Things like…

- He just doesn’t get it.
- Every time we talk, it turns into a fight.
- I just want to feel appreciated.
- I just want him to take more initiative.

And so much more.

🥰 I am so pleased to finally be able to share this book with you. You were all on my heart and in my mind when I wrote it. I hope it serves your relationships and helps them grow in meaningful and permanent ways.

🤩 Even my husband read it and said to me, “Wow, I’ve had some major insights even after living with you for 16 years.”

🎉💪 This book will change your relationship.

👉 If you’re ready to take the next step, comment SHARE for the link to preorder and claim your thank you gifts.

🎁 Preorders mean so much to an author, so I hope the thank you gifts serve your relationship. Here are just some of the gifts you’ll receive…

- A guide on ADHD and the mental load
- The first two chapters in audio
- Printable packing lists for summer and winter vacations
- A month of meals planned out with grocery lists included
- And more special surprises to come soon….

01/10/2025

A perspective not often heard. 👂

🔥 These interviews have been so enriching and informative.

🙈 It’s wild how social media can make the world appear as if most men don’t care about the mental load or being involved in the home.

👉 I know those men exist, I realize the men who want to talk to me about the mental load are a specific sample of men, but the perspectives offered in these interviews were incredibly helpful and I would guess experienced by a great deal of men.

🧡 I know this may be controversial and you may come at me for saying this, but to tackle the mental load we have to work together, not be petty, attacking, hateful, or point fingers.

🫶 In the end, that doesn’t get us anywhere. What we need is more insight into each other’s world, experiences, and perspectives and the tools to navigate these really important conversations.

🔥 If you’re ready to understand each other better and feel like a team again, you’ll love my new book, A Better Share: How Couples Cn Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great S*x.

⭐️ Here’s what one early reader had to say:

“This is the best content I’ve read about the mental load. The practical, specific tips for calmly discussing and sharing responsibilities are a game-changer.”

Just comment SHARE to preorder my new book A Better Share and claim your thank you gifts.

01/09/2025

💡 Why aren’t we talking about how ADHD amplifies the mental load in relationships?

From forgotten tasks to emotional overwhelm, ADHD can make managing the invisible weight of planning, organizing, and remembering even harder—leaving both partners feeling frustrated and misunderstood.

✨ The good news? When you understand the dynamics at play, you can work as a team instead of feeling stuck on opposite sides.

Comment SHARE to preorder A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great S*x AND

grab your thank you preorder gifts. Including a FREE GUIDE ON ADHD and the MENTAL LOAD!

Just comment SHARE for the link.

01/08/2025

💔 “I loved being married… but over time, something shifted.”

For so many couples, what starts as connection and teamwork can slowly give way to frustration, loneliness, and feeling like you’re on different teams. 😔

🧠 The culprit?…Often it’s the mental load—the invisible weight of planning, organizing, remembering, and anticipating that often falls on one partner’s shoulders.

❓ It’s the feeling that you’re carrying it all while your partner doesn’t even notice?

Or that the more you try to explain, the more defensive they get?

👉 Maybe you’re worried that things will never change, or that this is just how it is.

But here’s the truth: it doesn’t have to be this way.

✨ You can shift from feeling like adversaries to working as a team.
💡 A helpful place to start making this change is to view the mental load as your enemy instead of each other.

Here’s a conversation starter to open the door:

“I have been feeling so overwhelmed and I realize that it’s something called the mental load. I want to talk to you about how we can navigate it differently and on the same team. No blame, just finding a way to tackle all that’s on our plates together.”

🔥 If you’ve had enough and you’re ready to change the way you navigate the mental load and connect with your partner, my book can help.

⭐️ Here’s what one early reader had to say:

“This is the best content I’ve read about the mental load. The practical, specific tips for calmly discussing and sharing responsibilities are a game-changer.”

Just comment SHARE to preorder my new book A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great S*x and claim your thank you gifts.