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I just dropped a new feature in CROWN Magazine on page 49:“When the Brand Breaks the Leader: Healing the Disconnect Betw...
11/19/2025

I just dropped a new feature in CROWN Magazine on page 49:
“When the Brand Breaks the Leader: Healing the Disconnect Between Image and Identity.”

It’s a deep dive into what happens when the persona you perform outruns the person you actually are. Leaders crack at the seams long before the business does, and this piece gets into the psychology behind that unraveling.

You’ll also catch a spotlight from my agency, ZIA, where we break down ZIAversity—our approach to prepping modern leaders for a generationally mixed workforce using real I/O psych principles instead of recycled practice management “tips.”

If you care about leadership that isn’t a performance, branding that doesn’t collapse under pressure, and the psychological mechanics that hold it all together, give it a read.

🔗 Read the article here: https://crownmag.online/

Oh, Paris. You were everything I dreamed of and more. The city of love reminded me to continue loving myself: boldly, au...
11/13/2025

Oh, Paris. You were everything I dreamed of and more. The city of love reminded me to continue loving myself: boldly, authentically, and out loud.

Now, I need a massage from all this traveling. Ya boys exhausted… 🥱

London was a vibe: fall in full effect, late nights exploring SoHo, and so much good energy. Final stop: Paris riding so...
11/10/2025

London was a vibe: fall in full effect, late nights exploring SoHo, and so much good energy.

Final stop: Paris riding solo🇫🇷

Rome, Florence, Venice — beauty in every direction. Grateful for good friends, good wine, and one unforgettable birthday...
11/08/2025

Rome, Florence, Venice — beauty in every direction. Grateful for good friends, good wine, and one unforgettable birthday.

Next stop: London 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿

Saluti al 31 ✨
11/05/2025

Saluti al 31 ✨

When I stopped performing, I lost people I thought would always be there.At first, it felt like grief. Like maybe I’d br...
11/01/2025

When I stopped performing, I lost people I thought would always be there.

At first, it felt like grief. Like maybe I’d broken something sacred.
But it wasn’t a relationship ending — it was an illusion unraveling.

They weren’t connected to me.
They were connected to the version of me that kept the peace.
The agreeable one. The easy one. The one who made everyone else comfortable.

When you start showing up real, you stop being convenient and some people only loved you because you were easy to love.

Let them go.

The ones who drift when you get honest were never really with you — they were just comfortable renting space in your mask.

The ones who stay after you drop the act? That’s your real circle.

Losing people isn’t always loss. Sometimes it’s alignment.

Sometimes it’s proof you’re becoming someone who can’t be faked.

Nobody warns you about this part.They tell you authenticity is magnetic. That vulnerability is strength. That being your...
10/29/2025

Nobody warns you about this part.

They tell you authenticity is magnetic. That vulnerability is strength. That being yourself will attract “your people.”

What they don’t tell you is—it also costs you.

When you start showing up real, people get uncomfortable.
Relationships built on performance start to crack.
Family dynamics shift because you stopped playing your old role.
Some friends fade because they were bonded to your mask, not your truth.

This is the resistance phase, and it’s brutal because it feels like proof you’re doing something wrong. You’re not. You’re just disrupting a system that was built on your silence. The discomfort you feel isn’t because you’ve become too much. It’s because you’re finally being honest about how much you’ve been hiding.

Ride it out.

The ones who stay through your undoing? They’re your people.

Everyone else was just renting space in a version of you that no longer exists. Pay attention to who moves closer and who pulls away.

It tells you everything.

NMTC 2026! I’ll be speaking on the Innovations in Business panel — sponsored by .Business. Innovation. Psychology.Same s...
10/28/2025

NMTC 2026!

I’ll be speaking on the Innovations in Business panel — sponsored by .

Business. Innovation. Psychology.
Same story, just different costumes. It’s always about behavior, control, and the courage to rewire what’s familiar.

Grateful to bring this conversation to a stage built for evolution. See ya there and keep an eye out for some future announcements! 😉

Why do we sabotage ourselves, especially right before things start to click?It’s not because we’re afraid to fail. It’s ...
10/28/2025

Why do we sabotage ourselves, especially right before things start to click?

It’s not because we’re afraid to fail. It’s because we’re afraid to feel.

Success, intimacy, visibility—whatever “next level” we’re reaching for—it all demands vulnerability. It forces us to expand beyond what’s familiar.

Our nervous system doesn’t read that as growth. It reads it as threat.

So we pull back. We distract. We create chaos we know how to manage, instead of peace we don’t yet trust.

Self-sabotage isn’t a flaw, it’s a form of self-protection. It’s the body saying, “I don’t feel safe enough to hold what I’ve asked for.”

The work isn’t to shame that part. It’s to slow down long enough to regulate it. To show it safety. To let it learn that peace doesn’t mean danger.
That’s how we stop sabotaging.

Not by pushing harder, but by expanding our capacity to stay.

I hit every milestone I thought I wanted, and I felt nothing but the need to do more. Nobody really talks about that par...
10/23/2025

I hit every milestone I thought I wanted, and I felt nothing but the need to do more.

Nobody really talks about that part—the hollow victory. The moment you realize the thing you’ve been chasing doesn’t taste like joy, it tastes like exhaustion.

For a long time, I told myself I was chasing success, but I was really chasing approval from people that I don’t even like.

Every achievement was just another attempt to feel like enough. Another hit of validation that never lasted.

It took me a few years to understand you can’t fill an internal void with external proof. The version of me who built that chase wasn’t wrong, he was just surviving and survival did its job.

It got me here.

But at some point, you have to stop living for applause and start listening for alignment.

Real success doesn’t feel like performance; it feels like peace.

10/22/2025

Endurance isn’t just physical. It’s emotional. Psychological. Spiritual, even.

It’s the quiet discipline of showing up when no one’s watching.

The repetition. The silence. The self-talk that turns pain into pattern.

I think that’s why I’ve found joy in becoming an endurance athlete, because it’s about learning how to sit in discomfort long enough to realize it won’t kill you.

There’s a strange peace that comes when you stop trying to escape the hard moments.

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