Dr. Cassidy Freitas, LMFT

Dr. Cassidy Freitas, LMFT Dr. Cassidy Freitas | Holding Space for Parents Welcome! I'm Dr. Cassidy, a licensed therapist based in San Diego offering teletherapy in California.

I'm passionate about supporting parents from pregnancy, postpartum and beyond. I host the top rated podcast Holding Space and offer digital courses and workshops for expecting and postpartum parents. In addition to my work with parents, I founded Modern Therapist Academy and offer personalized coaching for therapists in private practice.

WHY are you feeling so overwhelmed?Maybe it’s not actually about the spilled milk.Or the whining.Or hearing “mom” for th...
05/26/2026

WHY are you feeling so overwhelmed?

Maybe it’s not actually about the spilled milk.
Or the whining.
Or hearing “mom” for the 400th time that day.

Maybe it’s the way you haven’t had a single second to yourself.

The way everyone needs something from you all the time.

The way you feel instantly guilty after getting short with them… even when you were already drowning before they asked for one more thing.

Maybe it’s rage-cleaning the kitchen at 10pm because scrubbing something spotless feels easier than sitting with how out of control everything feels inside you.

Maybe it’s hearing yourself snap and thinking:

“Why am I acting like this?”

Followed immediately by shame.

I created a workshop for the moms who love their kids deeply… and still feel overstimulated, irritable, reactive, and exhausted by the mental load of motherhood.

Not to shame you by any means.

To help you understand what’s actually happening underneath the anger. 🤍

Comment “WORKSHOP” to grab the “why am I yelling?” workshop + workbook.💛⤵️
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Over fourteen years ago, I became a mom…and fell apart in ways I didn’t want anyone to see. I had postpartum anxiety. My...
05/07/2026

Over fourteen years ago, I became a mom…and fell apart in ways I didn’t want anyone to see. I had postpartum anxiety. My husband had depression. Neither of us knew it had a name.

Thank you for inviting me to share my story…and connect the dots to others’ stories. 🔵
This is my dot. What is yours?

If something feels off, it has a name, and help is here. Call or text 1-800-944-4773 or visit postpartum.net. I am forever grateful to PSI for their support.

Over fourteen years ago, I became a mom…and fell apart in ways I didn’t want anyone to see. I had postpartum anxiety. My...
05/07/2026

Over fourteen years ago, I became a mom…and fell apart in ways I didn’t want anyone to see. I had postpartum anxiety. My husband had depression. Neither of us knew it had a name.

Thank you for inviting me to share my story…and connect the dots to others’ stories. 🔵
This is my dot. What is yours?

If something feels off , it has a name, and help is here. Call or text 1-800-944-4773 or visit postpartum.net. I am forever grateful to PSI for their support.

I’ve been having a lot of conversations with my clients about burnout lately.It makes sense. The world feels heavy. Fina...
04/30/2026

I’ve been having a lot of conversations with my clients about burnout lately.

It makes sense. The world feels heavy. Finances are strained. It’s a demanding month. All of our margins are hijacked by digital pings. This intensive era of parenting expectations is real. There is so much to consume…and work and parenting demands keep on going.

Noticing the early signs of burnout is protective. Burnout is often a slow burn (and not the kind we love to read about 🔥😉). Boundaries are also protective. So is human connection.

Save this for a season when everything looks fine on the outside…but you feel the slow burn road to burnout on the inside 🤍

I’m obsessed with margins.I have a podcast called Holding Space. A substack called A Little Space, Please. And a book co...
04/28/2026

I’m obsessed with margins.

I have a podcast called Holding Space. A substack called A Little Space, Please. And a book coming out called Mom Needs a Moment.

Yea, you could say I’m into margins and space 😉

After a decade of brain dumping themes that kept coming up with clients, research into regulation and attachment and child development and maternal mental health…I kept coming back to margins.

“If I just had some space…then I could show up in the ways I’ve been hoping for.”

I hear iterations of this from every person I work with. Sometimes this means protected empty space in your calendar. Sometimes it means space to process all the parenting stuff you’ve been consuming or the story behind your triggers. Sometimes it’s building a margin muscle to notice you’ve been triggered and take a beat before you respond.

It’s literally…everything. Seems simple, but if you’re a mom living in this intensive era of parenting in the digital age and the default for all the things…you also know it’s not so simple.

My book Mom Needs a Moment: How to stop Your Reaction Before It Starts…and Become a Calmer, Happier, More Connected Parent is available for pre-order now! Link in bio 🤗

I married my high school sweetheart 16 years ago today 🤍Marriage is hard! Parenting is hard! But we work on it, every da...
04/24/2026

I married my high school sweetheart 16 years ago today 🤍

Marriage is hard! Parenting is hard! But we work on it, every dang day. Happy anniversary babe 🤗

The summer mental load starts NOW for those of us currently in the Spring season 🤪 (or honestly more like several months...
04/23/2026

The summer mental load starts NOW for those of us currently in the Spring season 🤪 (or honestly more like several months ago probably).

Since when did camp registrations get so intense?! AND SO EXPENSIVE.

Or the childcare puzzle piece mental gymnastics and coordinating….or the vacation planning and costs.

The pressure to “let them be bored” (while figuring out how to handle that in real life), to “give them a 90’s summer,” or to optimize literally every moment…it’s a lot.

The way these stressors play out for each individual parent/family or client I work with is unique. Sometimes it’s anxiety, or partner resentment, or knowing that the sibling struggles or whining will trigger their rage, or grief from the lack of support from family, or work stress with kids at home, or gosh trauma from COVID times that all being home brings up. The often invisible mental load of anticipating, planning, coordinating is very real.

My group practice specializes in working with parents. All moms ourselves and licensed therapists with specialty training and years of experience in supporting parents and couples…we are here for all of it. Link in bio to learn more!

Yay it’s Pre-Order bonus time!!!When you pre-order Mom Needs a Moment, you’ll get immediate access to The Parenting Paus...
04/22/2026

Yay it’s Pre-Order bonus time!!!

When you pre-order Mom Needs a Moment, you’ll get immediate access to The Parenting Pause Library, a private collection of short, guided audios for the exact moments parenting starts to unravel 🫠🤪🙃😤😖🫣

You know those moments…when you feel like you’re ABOUT to lose it, whennnn you already lost it, when you’re over-stimulated, when you were trying to get a break and ended up doom scrolling, when you’re carrying the load alone and feeling all sorts of resentment…

Sometimes we don’t need “a script” to get right.
Just press play, right there in it.
And you’ll have a steady, regulating voice in your ear
helping you slow things down, settle your nervous system,
and shift what happens next…in real time.

I’ve had clients tell me, “it felt like you were in my ear.”
And over time, that voice becomes their voice…in their moment.
That’s the point 🤍

Comment PREORDER and I’ll send you the link to access the library PLUS you’ll be invited to join me and Kristin of for a virtual live book club chat after the book comes out June 16!

Going back to work after mat leave can be one of the hardest transitions after having a baby.There are the visible logis...
04/16/2026

Going back to work after mat leave can be one of the hardest transitions after having a baby.

There are the visible logistics…sleep, pumping, childcare, calendars. And then there are the invisible layers…the guilt, the grief, the mental load, the constant recalibrating.

You can love your work and miss your baby
You can not love your work and know that it’s needed for your family
You can feel ready and not ready at the same time
You can be grateful for your role at work and still grieve what’s changing
Nothing about this transition is always linear or clean

If you’re in it, here are a few tips:

Name the parts, not just the problem. Instead of “what’s wrong with me?” try “a part of me feels pulled in two directions right now.” This creates space instead of pressure.

Lower the bar on “figuring it out.” You don’t need a perfect system, you need something that works well enough for right now. (Soooo hard for us Type A folks and when so much is changing it’s easy to lean into the need for control or perfection!)

Make the invisible load visible. Have ongoing, specific conversations with your partner about tasks, not just “help”
Clarity reduces resentment.

Build in small moments of connection. A 5-minute cuddle before leaving. A consistent reunion ritual.

Support your nervous system, not just your schedule. Transitions are regulating when they’re predictable. Simple things like a consistent morning flow or grounding breath before work or a margin in the car before you walk into your home can help your body adjust.

Expect repair to be part of the rhythm. There will be rushed goodbyes, missed cues, hard days. Oof…I know it can be hard. If you’re needing extra support during this transition, this is actually one of our specialities! You can learn more about therapy practice at the link in bio 🤍

You are here 🤍Photo from the incredible NASA/Artemis II mission.
04/14/2026

You are here 🤍

Photo from the incredible NASA/Artemis II mission.

There are a lot of quiet pressures in modern motherhood...pressures to be endlessly patient.perfectly present.highly org...
04/13/2026

There are a lot of quiet pressures in modern motherhood...

pressures to be endlessly patient.
perfectly present.
highly organized.
deeply enriched.
always joyful.

But being a good mom isn’t the same thing as performing motherhood well...
it’s showing up in real life.
it’s letting your child experience frustration while you stay nearby.
it’s choosing connection over perfection.
it’s allowing your family culture to look different from what the internet celebrates.

Sometimes being a good mom looks like...
resting instead of producing.
setting boundaries instead of saying yes.
repairing instead of pretending you never made mistakes.

Your child doesn’t need a perfectly curated childhood.
They need a regulated, responsive, and real parent.
That kind of goodness rarely looks impressive from the outside, but it builds something far more important on the inside.

If this resonates, save this post for the days when the pressure to “do motherhood right” feels heavy 🤍

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