Dr. Cassidy Freitas, LMFT

Dr. Cassidy Freitas, LMFT Dr. Cassidy Freitas | Holding Space for Parents Welcome! I'm Dr. Cassidy, a licensed therapist based in San Diego offering teletherapy in California.

I'm passionate about supporting parents from pregnancy, postpartum and beyond. I host the top rated podcast Holding Space and offer digital courses and workshops for expecting and postpartum parents. In addition to my work with parents, I founded Modern Therapist Academy and offer personalized coaching for therapists in private practice.

If you’ve ever wondered why you’re tired even when nothing “big” happened today...this might be why.There are many forms...
02/26/2026

If you’ve ever wondered why you’re tired even when nothing “big” happened today...this might be why.

There are many forms of labor that don’t always look like work. But they feel like it in your mind, your body, your nervous system. And for many parents, this labor is constant.

You deserve support...not just in what you do, but in what you carry. You’re not imagining it. You’re not failing.
You’re human...and holding a lot.

💬 Which kind of labor feels most unseen in your day-to-day?

It’s not just the whining.Or the defiance.Or the big emotions at bedtime.Sometimes the strength of our reaction in paren...
02/16/2026

It’s not just the whining.
Or the defiance.
Or the big emotions at bedtime.

Sometimes the strength of our reaction in parenting isn’t really about our kids...it’s about us (oof, I know...)

But this, just makes you human.

The noise landing on an already tired nervous system.
The “no” hitting something old from our own childhood.
The mess tipping us over after a day of carrying so much, mostly unseen.

That doesn’t make you a bad parent.
It makes you human, with a history, a body, and a nervous system that’s been doing its best.

When we get curious about our triggers, shame softens.
The spiral slows.
And repair becomes possible, for us, and for our kids.

We don’t always realize how often our nervous system is speaking for us in parenting. The sharp tone...The urgent multit...
02/10/2026

We don’t always realize how often our nervous system is speaking for us in parenting. The sharp tone...The urgent multitasking...The freeze when someone says “Mom?” one more time...The people-pleasing around family...The pull to open this app...

These aren’t just “habits.” They’re patterns of protection.
And once we see them, we can start to soften them.
Which nervous system response do you notice most in yourself lately?

Comment “Ready” and I’ll DM you the best way to get in touch or find a therapist in your area so you can take the first step for support 🤍🤗

Parenting with someone who sees things differently can stir up frustration, fear, and even grief.You might wonder:→ Why ...
02/08/2026

Parenting with someone who sees things differently can stir up frustration, fear, and even grief.

You might wonder:
→ Why don’t they get it?
→ Are we too different?
→ Are we messing this up?

But different doesn’t mean doomed.

It just means you’re both human...carrying your own wiring, wounds, and wisdom into parenthood.

Comment the word “Together,” and I’ll send you a Substack post and podcast episode to support you in getting on the same parenting team!

Every couple fights. Seriously, they do. It’s a normal part of sharing a life with someone...butttttt not every couple k...
02/05/2026

Every couple fights. Seriously, they do. It’s a normal part of sharing a life with someone...butttttt not every couple knows how to fight and stay CONNECTED. And when you add parenting stress to the mix? Oof. Tired bodies, triggered nervous systems, and emotionally loaded decisions… it’s so easy to turn on each other.

This post is your gentle reminder:
You can pause.
You can repair.
You can shift the pattern, even after a hard moment.

These aren’t just communication tools...they’re nervous system tools. Because the way we fight tells our partner’s brain: safe or unsafe?

Which one is toughest for you to remember in tense moments??

Share below or save this for the next hard moment!

Parenting, but make it Grammy memes.
02/02/2026

Parenting, but make it Grammy memes.

Anger gets a bad reputation, especially for parents.But anger isn’t the problem. It’s information. It’s a messenger!And ...
02/02/2026

Anger gets a bad reputation, especially for parents.

But anger isn’t the problem. It’s information. It’s a messenger!

And lately, it makes sense that it’s showing up more. The news cycle alone can leave us feeling overwhelmed, helpless, and on edge. Add parenting, work, and the constant demand to keep it together, and that fuse can get short fast.

Underneath anger, there’s usually something else asking for our attention....

*Sometimes anger is grief, for what’s been lost or what feels unfair.
*Sometimes anger is a boundary, something inside you saying “this is too much.”
*Sometimes anger is your nervous system asking for relief.

This week, instead of judging the flare-up, try getting curious.

What might my anger be trying to protect?
What is it pointing me toward?

Not to excuse behavior, but to understand what needs tending.

I wonder, for you...which of these do you most often find underneath your anger?

We’ve all had moments with our kids we regret...I know I have.Parenting regret be HEAVY. And if we’re not careful, we st...
01/30/2026

We’ve all had moments with our kids we regret...I know I have.

Parenting regret be HEAVY. And if we’re not careful, we start to think shame is what we deserve. Like being hard on ourselves will somehow turn us into better parents.

But that’s not how growth actually works.

Self-compassion isn’t letting yourself off the hook. It’s stepping out of the shame spiral long enough to see clearly, to repair, and to do it differently next time.

Your child doesn’t need you to be perfect.
They need you here.
They need your repair.
They need your willingness to keep coming back, even after a hard moment.

Which self-compassion reminder do you find yourself needing most right now?!

There are seasons in life where we don’t quite recognize ourselves.Where joy and grief coexist. Where gratitude doesn’t ...
01/23/2026

There are seasons in life where we don’t quite recognize ourselves.

Where joy and grief coexist. Where gratitude doesn’t cancel out the ache for what used to feel like you.

Maybe your days are filled with purpose...but also noise and need and not enough space.

Maybe you’ve grown stronger...
but you’re tired of always being the strong one.

Maybe you’re exactly where you hoped you’d be...
and still wondering where YOU went in the process.

If you’re navigating identity shifts, through motherhood, loss, aging, or just change...this post is for you. You are absolutely not alone...and THESE are feelings myself and the therapists that work with me are equipped to support in our therapy practice, which you can learn more about at the link in bio!

💬 Tell us: Which part of your old self do you miss the most?

You know the tools...the breathwork, the grounding, the boundaries, the reaching out.But when you’re burnt out, even you...
01/20/2026

You know the tools...the breathwork, the grounding, the boundaries, the reaching out.

But when you’re burnt out, even your best attempts at regulation can feel like shouting into the wind.

Burnout doesn’t just drain your energy. It narrows your window of tolerance, shrinks your capacity, and can make everything feel heavier than it “should.”

So if regulation doesn’t feel like it’s working, maybe nothing is broken. Maybe you’re just doing your best with a nervous system that’s spent.

What might change if you let this be a signal for care, not a sign of failure?

💬 Which one of these resonates most right now?

It’s the season of sniffles, fevers, and missed plans. And as a parent, those disruptions don’t just affect your schedul...
01/16/2026

It’s the season of sniffles, fevers, and missed plans. And as a parent, those disruptions don’t just affect your schedule...they hit your nervous system too.

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy teaches us that fighting reality often leads to more distress. When we shift toward accepting what is, we free up capacity to care for ourselves and our kids with less internal tension.

Let this be your permission to slow down, soften the story of “falling behind,” and care for your nervous system with the same tenderness you give your child.

How have you and your family fared this sick season?

I hear we’re all reflecting on the year 2016.Oof I have tender feelings about that year.There was a lot going on that ye...
01/15/2026

I hear we’re all reflecting on the year 2016.

Oof I have tender feelings about that year.

There was a lot going on that year for me…professionally, creatively, relationally.

It was also a year of profound loss, the kind that reshaped me forever.

So much of who I am now was formed there…the work I do. The way I show up. The communities I care about building.

Thanks for going down this memory train with me 🤍

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