Even Here Therapy

07/17/2024

I say this to my clients all the time…

Our relationship with ourselves is the only one we’ll always have.

And, how we treat ourselves is often impacted by what we live through. This is especially true when we lived through trauma in childhood.

07/10/2024

Healing is often a dance between spending time building tolerance for pain and building capacity for joy. We need to be able to watch ourselves encounter our own hurt as well as creating new, positive, repairing moments of safety.

05/30/2024

04/10/2024

Acute Traumatic Stress vs. Post Traumatic Stress vs. Complex Trauma

04/03/2024

All of these themes can contribute to first responders disconnecting from their own experiences.

〰️ If there wasn’t someone supporting your emotions in childhood, or if you were put in the position of taking care of the moods or emotions of adults, then this may have resulted in an over-awareness of external emotions and an under-awareness of internal emotions.

〰️ If you experienced a lack of support or learned that you could not rely on you caregivers, you may have learned to only trust yourself.

〰️ If you weren’t equipped with the tools to handle difficult emotions, you may have learned to try to think / fix / or help your way through difficulty without feeling through it.

03/20/2024

The downside of flipping that switch to off, is that we can’t selectively turn off difficult emotions. We shut off positive emotions too.

Working with a licensed therapist who specializes in trauma can help you to build tolerance, begin rebuilding the connection, and help you process all the pain you may be trying to disconnect from.

If you’re not ready to go to therapy, start by intentionally rebuilding positive associations 💛

03/14/2024

If you’re needing more support to learn how to slow down and get out of that survival mode, reach out.

02/22/2024

This looks different for everyone, because all of our minds and bodies respond differently to stress and trauma.

Working with a trauma-trained therapist individually can help you begin to find ways of increasing safety, and processing those experiences 💛

02/06/2024

Learning to re-connect with ourselves enough to notice when we need support can actually allow us to help more sustainably.

01/25/2024

Flipping the script on ‘what ifs’ 💭

01/17/2024

A big part of changing this pattern of trying to get our needs met is observing it and trying to acknowledge the wound.

For many of us, patterns like these can be traced back to our childhoods. Going back to work with and heal the parts of us that had to live with feeling unworthy can create a big shift.

As we’re working on where the pain and hurt comes from, we can also start to take action steps in our relationships.

〰️ prioritizing taking care of ourselves first
〰️ saying yes and helping others only when we have the capacity to
〰️ asking for support
〰️ taking a step back in relationships that aren’t meeting your needs

If you’re wanting to do some of the deeper work in healing and create some changes for yourself, therapy can be a helpful space to also experience and healthier relationship dynamic to repair some of those patterns.

01/09/2024

Some of the things that we maybe wouldn’t think of as traumatic in childhood, may be the source of some of the things we struggle with as adults.

01/02/2024

When prioritizing something else above ourselves (whether that’s how we’ve learned to meet our own needs, or whether that’s been a part of the way you’ve been to trained), we can struggle with asserting our own need to be prioritized.

Having a read on what your experiences are, what your emotional / physical cues are telling you, and understanding how to regulate your nervous system are skill set. A skill set that is often not taught to us 😮‍💨

12/29/2023

Let’s share a bit of love with some of the people around us 🫶🏽

12/24/2023

Sometimes people come to therapy for the symptoms that stem from complex trauma. While this is a diagnosis that isn’t in the DSM-V, it’s often a more helpful way of thinking about more nuanced traumatic experiences.

If you recognize some of these symptoms in yourself or someone that you care about, I want you to know that trauma therapy may be such a wonderful support.

Healing can happen, even here 💛

12/24/2023

One of my specialties is working with people that I call ‘helpers’.

Helpers have adapted to their environments and many had childhoods where some of their needs were neglected.

We are worthy just as we are, without needing to do or be anything for others. It may just take some unlearning and relearning, but we deserve to feel good about ourselves regardless of how much can take care of others 💛