Rina Podolsky Therapy LMFT

04/22/2026

Compatibility isn’t a pre-existing condition; it’s a co-created skill. 🥂✨

04/09/2026

The number one mistake I see couples make in affair recovery is trying to “communicate better” first. 🏛️
You can learn all the “I feel” statements in the world, but if the foundation of attachment security has been shattered, those tools will fail every time.
Think of communication as the roof of your house. It’s important, yes. But trust? Trust is the foundation. You cannot fix the roof while the ground beneath you is still shaking from an earthquake.
Recovery isn’t just about learning new words; it’s about rebuilding a definition of safety that actually holds. Until we address the attachment bond, we’re just painting a house that has no floor.
I’m curious—if you’ve been through a season of repair, did it feel like you were working on the roof instead of the foundation? Let’s discuss in the comments. 🥂🕊️

04/01/2026

Is your “Stonewalling” actually “Flooding”? Understanding the why behind your reaction is the first step to changing the how of your communication. 🥂

03/25/2026

The “Why” trap is real. It keeps us in the courtroom of our relationship rather than the living room. 🛋️ Try the “I notice” shift tonight and see how the energy changes. “Book a consultation via the link in my bio if you’re ready to change your dialogue.”

03/11/2026

The pause isn’t giving up. It’s the bravest thing you can do mid-fight.
Most couples think that stopping a conversation means losing the conversation. But when your nervous system is flooded, you’re not talking anymore — you’re just wounding each other.
In EFT, we call it the cycle. And the only way out isn’t louder or faster. It’s slower. It’s intentional. It’s a pause with a promise to come back.
“The cycle is happening. I don’t want us to hurt each other. Can we take twenty minutes?”
That one sentence can change everything.
Not because it fixes the argument — but because it protects the relationship while you find your way back to each other.
Save this for the next time things escalate. And share it with someone who needs it tonight. 🤍
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Ready to break the cycle for good? My office is a neutral harbor.
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03/04/2026

Intimacy isn’t built on anniversaries; it’s built on Tuesdays. 🕯️ Small deposits create the cushion you need for the big storms.

02/25/2026

Strategic questions lead to strategic connection. Comment “CHECKIN” for my list of 10 intimacy-building questions.

02/19/2026

02/16/2026

Join me in an exclusive couples retreat, Travel, heal and reconnect.
Where: San Cristobal de Las Casas, Chiapas (Mexico)
WHEN: March 13,14 & 15 2026
WHO: I (Rina Podolsky LMFT) will be curating and guiding the experience
WHAT: Using educational tools, experiential journeys and evidence based practices we will work on repairing bonds, having new conversations and having fun in the process.
Contact me: Rina@Rinapodlskytherapy.com
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02/04/2026

Conflict is an opportunity for clarity, not a battle to be won. ⚖️ Use these three rules to keep your next disagreement from turning into a disconnect. Time:

01/29/2026

More than just a vacation. One hour of therapy a week is powerful, but when you are navigating years of distance or the aftermath of a crisis, sometimes you need to step outside your daily environment to truly hear each other again.
In this video, I’m sharing why the Encuentro Retreat in Chiapas is designed differently. We combine the clinical precision of Gottman Method and EFT with the nervous-system-regulating power of Mindfulness.
We don’t just talk about change; we create the physical and emotional space for your system to cool down so you can finally have the conversations that matter.
The Transformation:
* Gottman Method: The strategic “math” of a healthy marriage.
* EFT: Mapping the cycles that keep you disconnected.
* Mindfulness: The key to staying present when things get difficult. to move from “roommates” back to partners? Join us in San Cristóbal de las Casas this March.
✨ Rina Podolsky, LMFT | Specialized Couples Therapy DM “RETREAT” for the full itinerary and registration details.

01/22/2026

Competence is a trap when it comes to intimacy. 🕯️
Many high-achieving couples try to ‘optimize’ their way out of a roommate marriage. But you can’t logic your way into a deeper connection.
As a Sophisticated Stabilizer, I help you shift from ‘solving’ to ‘sharing.’ We change the dance so the house feels like a home again before the weekend starts.
✨ Rina Podolsky, LMFT | Specialized Couples Therapy. Link in bio to secure your private session.
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