Coaching Through Chaos Podcast-San Diego Indiv. Couples & Addiction Therapy

02/14/2024

I had the opportunity to join my dear friend Dr David Gennis, who was guest hosting for Zandra Polard on "It's Where I Am" radio show on KUNV 91.5FM radio show. David is working to destigmatize mental health, by sharing resources with his community. I was thrilled to be able to share my new podcast as a resource for anyone looking to improve their love life.
Please check out Love Unboxed at LoveUnboxedPodcast.com . You can listen to my chat with Dr. David right here: https://share.transistor.fm/s/1b214002

Join Dr. David Gennis in an engaging conversation with Dr. Colleen Mullen, a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and host of the newly launched podcast, Love Unboxed. Dr. Mullen shares insights from her 20 years of experience in helping couples navigate through trauma, codependency, and the...

01/25/2023

Dating Tip #1: Narrow Your Dating Pool -

Quality over Quantity will be your best bet for finding a compatible mate. If you want a serious relationship only, don’t swipe on someone who clearly states they are not looking for anything serious. If you are ambitious and career driven, don’t swipe on someone who says they “go with the flow” or are “finding themselves”. Just like when the real estate listing says, “charming” or “cozy” it’s usually code for “too small” and “in need of updating”, you can look at reading online dating profiles the same way. “I just want a woman I can trust” is code for “I’m going to hold all my past breakups against you”. When you narrow your dating pool to better fit you, you increase your chances of finding someone that suits you. You are not being “too picky” by being very specific about what you want in your profile- it’s imperative that you are specific!
Read the full post here https://coachingthroughchaos.com/online-dating-tips-for-2023/

01/24/2023

Before you start swiping for love in 2023, I‘ve put together a list of myTop 5 Online Dating Tips to help you navigate the online dating world better. I know it can get frustrating by endlessly swiping and hoping for a different outcome, but Im here to tell you, “You Can Find Love Onine!” Of course you can! People have been doing it for almost 2 decades now, so it’s here to stay. In addition to my 20+ years experience as a therapist with a specialty in relationship dynamics, I always say I was an “early adopter” of online dating. I’ve been there, done that, tried all of the apps. Kknowing what happened when I failed miserably at love and figuring out what I needed to do differently changed my life! I am now with a man I could not imagine living a day without him and I know he feels that way about me.

If you’ve been swiping and feeling hopeless, let me help you.
Reach out through DM or call me (619)881-0051

I always said I was a “Hopeful Romantic”. Being Hopeless, as in “Hopeless Romantic” doesnt get us anywhere. If you relate to the idea of being a “Hopeful Romantic” stick with me. In addition to more online posts about how to find and navigate love more effectively, Im goign to be launching the Dating 911 Podcast: Relationship Advice for the Hopeful Romantic“. Watch for that in late February 2023. In the meantime, let’s get started with my top 5 online dating tips!

Tip #1: Narrow your Dating Pool ~
Quality over Quantity will be your best bet for finding a compatible mate. If you want a serious relationship only, don’t swipe on someone who clearly states they are not looking for anything serious. If you are ambitious and career driven, don’t swipe on someone who says they “go with the flow” or are “finding themselves”. Just like when the real estate listing says, “charming” or “cozy” it’s usually code for “too small” and “in need of updating”, you can look at reading online dating profiles the same way. “I just want a woman I can trust” is code for …
Read the rest at https://coachingthroughchaos.com/online-dating-tips-for-2023/

03/06/2022

Self-Care Sunday:
(Well, really, every day needs just a bit of self-care)

02/01/2022

This comes up so often, even in my conversations outside the therapy room. Making friends as an adult is not easy for many people- especially in a new city. I got to share some of my top ideas in this Glam article.

One of the biggest challenges of moving is meeting people. Here, experts share their top tips on how to make friends in a new city.

01/27/2022

Painful emotions are a universal experience of our lives, even though the presentation of the painful experience is different.
There are so many times when being able to NOT succumb to painful memories as they come to mind is a benefit to us. I talk about compartmentalizing our pain all the time with my clients. It's healthy to take breaks from it when we are consumed by it. But sitting with our painful emotions, being present with what they bring up in us is where healing happens. We don't heal when we tuck the pain away in the recesses of our mind in hopes that it will just go away. We heal when we understand the pain, can accept what is and what it means to us. The story of our painful experience becomes part of our life story.
We have a tendency to numb ourselves from pain through impulsive behaviors around drinking, drugs, spending, eating, s*x, anything to avoid emotions that are painful or scary. All that tends to do is then add more stress to our lives - having to wean off the alcohol habit, having to pay off the credit cards, having to repair relationship stress that comes from impulsive actions.
However, being able to be present with our pain, intentionally, can help us heal from it. The benefits that can come from sitting with our pain points are: deeper understanding, empathy, letting go of shame, acceptance of what is.
When we avoid uncomfortable feelings, it doesn't actually relieve us of them.
It may temporarily, but they resurface and the cycle of avoidance begins all over.
When you intentionally face the pain, you can get to a place of acceptance and integration.
ALL of our experiences leave marks on our emotional lenses, both positive and negative. If we don't find a way to sit with our painful memories, it can cloud our view in ways that don't serve us.
Sitting with our pain can be so tough, but so worth it.
If you find you've been avoiding some painful emotions and it doesn't feel safe, you don't know what to do to address the emotions, or you would like some help untangling the repercussions of the avoidance behaviors, I invite you to check out CoachingThroughChaos.com/contact to request a 15-min consultation call to see if I may be able to help you.

12/08/2021

You can be so consumed with life, work, family and friends, that you start to lose touch with yourself. Try to pay attention to what you need and do a little something for yourself.

Have you taken a fresh air break from work or the kids yet. Have you taken a walk. Did you go to the gym as you planned to. Have you called the family member who’s been on your mind?

The chaos can wait.