03/28/2023
Sometimes my clients ask me, "Why do I have to go through all of this?"The Stoic's point to the answer with this famous saying. Memento mori - Remember you die...
I know that sounds rather morose but, at least within my understanding of Daoism, it's actually very relevant to the whole reason we 'cultivate'.
We will all die. Someday. We don't know when. That's for the Dao/God/Divine to know. All we can do is to prepare for the inevitable.
So how do we prepare for death? What would YOU need to be able to die at peace?
I mean that as a serious question. Have you ever thought about it? I mean REALLY thought about it?
Death is the ultimate 'letting go', the ultimate exhale. We can't do that peacefully if we're still holding on to needs, desires, regrets, Heart Pains, traumas, etc. Death forces us to let go and we suffer if we try to keep holding on.
This is WHY we do the work. To let go. To heal. To move away from our hurts and attachments so when that inevitable day comes, we can actually let go of our last breath with a sigh of relief and peace versus regrets and pains.
Can you see where you're holding on to stuff? Can you see where you wouldn't be able to die at peace right now? What's stopping you from letting go, from healing?
The interesting thing, that ALL my clients experience when they let go, is that they live more completely. The reason for this should be fairly obvious. We can't live free nor die peacefully if we're carrying around a bunch of painful memories and luggage.
If I had to encapsulate what I do with clients in a short explanation, I'd say I help them to free themselves from their own bonds so they can live and die with freedom and peace in their hearts.