11/20/2025
I love my work… it’s deeply meaningful.
But today alone, my work conversations consisted of 2 surprise deaths, a murder, in**st and various sexual assaults, the harms of patriarchy to women’s external success and men’s internal success. And wondering if balance, and thus sexual attraction, will ever be restored in heterosexual relationships.
And this is what nervous system co-regulation looks like after all of that. Puppy snuggles and cuddles.
And sometimes I dance to release. Or go to the sauna and have a full body cry.
I could numb out and not truly let the vicarious trauma and pain in, but ultimately that numbs me everywhere in my life.
It’s much more effective to truly sit with my clients and their pain, and then release it after.
In these challenging times on the planet, avoidance isn’t it. You can’t keep running, it will eventually catch you.
It’s much better to stay with yourself, to stay with each other, and transform and transmute.
What do you do to stay present, transmute, and take care of yourself so you don’t have to numb out or avoid?
If you’d like to heal this numbing pattern… instead of turning to food, drugs, alcohol, workaholism, and delulu fantasies… all the avoidance strategies… I have something coming for you in February 🌈